Why is it always difficult to let go of what you can t get?

You are too indecisive, this is not good for everyone, in fact, he loves you, and you can't let go of him, but maybe it's because you think too much, think too far, and feel that it's unrealistic to be together again, but you can't let go of it anymore, I think you should talk about it well, open each other's knots, if you feel like you want to live with each other, then let go and love, no matter what tomorrow is! If you still can't let it go and don't have the courage to be together, then don't be too deliberate, after all, the twisted melon is not sweet.

Give yourself psychological filling, such as distracting yourself from him, or distracting yourself and spending more time thinking about something practical or impractical, a game, a star, a language.

He may just be bored when he is close to your space, or he may want to see what you have become, beautiful or not, more chic or more decadent without him. People are always overly attached to what they don't get or what they get,..You should believe that time can change everything.

You don't need to be persuaded to let him go, this boy is not in love with you wholeheartedly at all, no matter how busy he is, doesn't he even have time to send a text message? Girl, it's not to persuade you, but to advise you to quit this fruitless love as soon as possible, you don't have to waste your time and youth for him who has no heart, in fact, it's easy to give up a person who doesn't love you

It will be much easier to find someone who loves you ... Some people are not worth cherishing, so why should they not get along with themselves.

The man could not be fed, so he ran. It's you who overestimate yourself and still don't forget to let go completely.

Ignore him anymore, there's no point.

Possessiveness.

A party wants to get away with it.

Because in the case of not getting it, all you think about every day is the other party, so you can't let go of it after a long time, and the longer it is, the more obvious it is.

I believe that many people have had the experience of crush in the process of growing up, in fact, when we have a crush on each other, it is a state of not getting it, and every day life is very painful. If you see someone you like in your life, then you should boldly confess and never hesitate.

I think it's a very painful state, because in this case, you will allow yourself to focus all your time and energy on the other person in your life, and then you will let your heart be touched. Those who can't get it will make their lives more miserable, so it is also very important for us to adjust our mentality in life to relieve our stress. <>

For those extroverts, this situation does not actually occur in life, because they will confess when they like each other, and for those introverts, they basically will not confess, because they are more inferior, so this situation will occur. <>

I think the most important thing to do in a relationship is to put all your emotions aside, and when you meet someone you like and can't get it, you should adjust your mentality in time. Only after the mentality is adjusted, can you make your life more smooth, and you can also make yourself more efficient in everything you do. <>

In real life, everyone is looking forward to love, and love is actually very important to everyone's experience. Those who can't get it tend to tug at their hearts and make their daily lives uneasy.

People have a common problem, which is called that the more you can't get it, the more you can't let it go. If something is too easy to get, they don't know how to cherish it, and they don't know how to throw it away when they use it. On the contrary, the harder it is to get something, the better it is in their eyes, and the least they can let go.

On the other hand, it is because you can't let it go, so it hurts very deeply.

Letting go is something that's easier said than done. Because human beings have an innate urge to get things done (cognitive closure needs), to do it from beginning to end. And this kind of sudden injury in the middle leads to the inability of emotions to start and finish, which will make it difficult for people to get out of it, and make people feel as if one thing has not been completed, and it is difficult to carry out the future life.

In addition, because we have invested a lot of time, emotion, and energy in this relationship in the past, because of the instinctive fear of loss and loss (sunk cost), it also deepens the degree to which we find it difficult to accept the facts, which leads to deep damage.

If you want to let go and get out of the shadows as soon as possible, one of the more effective ways is to keep yourself busy, re-engage in life, and shift your attention to other people or things, don't think about the past repeatedly, recall the bits and pieces of the past, and don't get entangled in who is right and who is wrong, who owes whom, etc.

Time is the best doctor, it will eventually dilute everything, human beings also have the instinct to forget pain, this is a protective mechanism of the brain for the self, so you will eventually get out of the situation. So don't worry too much, face life positively, good and bad experiences are precious assets in life.

Have a great day!

Many people in a relationship will have obsessions, and the more they can't get something, the more they want to get it. Such people tend to be more tired, and even breed some extreme psychology.

Because if we can't get it, we will have regrets in our hearts, and if we can't make up for it. It's going to make us forget. And when we can't get it, we will start from ourselves and consider whether there is something wrong with ourselves.

Because it is a kind of psychological state of people, the more you can't get it, the more stubborn you are, and you will always think about it in your head, and you will be unwilling, so the more you can't let it go.

Because I feel like I have never had each other in life, I have to get it before, and it will be difficult to let go of it in life. Everyone will encounter the same thing, probably guessing the crack key unwillingly.

A large part of people's suffering is not obtained, because you can't get it and let yourself fall into deep pain, then you are thinking about the problem from your own point of view. If you look at it from a different angle and think from the other party's point of view, there are generally three situations:

First, he doesn't know that you want something. Because there are some things that he has not experienced and has no concept. Therefore, when confronted with a certain situation, he does not know your needs.

For example, when some people feel sad, in their past experience, their family did not comfort him at that time. Therefore, when others are sad, he does not think of comforting them. Sometimes, even if he thought about it, he didn't know how to comfort others.

Second, he doesn't have the ability to give the Ran Pai what you want. For example, you want a Pissenhe car right now, and he knows about it, but in his current state, he doesn't have the ability to solve it. At this point, he may be in pain because he knows what you need, but he can't do it.

Third, he has the ability and knows what you want, and he sees you begging and crying but not giving it to you, which is what we often say about asking but not being able to. Whatever the reason, whether you feel that he is cruel or ruthless, your pain seems to have nothing to do with him.

In the above three situations, except for the first one, you can remind him or communicate with him, there is nothing you can do about the other two situations.

If you can understand that there are many things you want that you can't control, then you are lucky to get it; If you can't get it, don't worry too much. It's not your thing, and if you don't demand from others, you let yourself go.

Can you be specific? I don't know about you, I don't know how to help you.

Maybe love is a sad fairy tale.

But it's far away and real.

But it is not to be touched and lacking.

Only then can we achieve brilliance and sacredness.

It is not painful to give up someone who loves you very much;

Giving up someone you love very much, that's the pain;

Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you is more painful.

If there is fate, time and space are not distances;

If you don't have a chance, you won't be able to meet when you get together.

You don't have to care too much about everything, and you don't need to force it, just let everything go with the flow...

Escape, not necessarily hidden;

Facing it, it is not necessarily the saddest.

Loneliness is not necessarily unhappy;

Get, not necessarily long.

Losing doesn't necessarily mean not having it anymore, and it may be sad for some reason.

But you can find a reason to be happy.

To love each other is nothing more than to be happy.

Two people cannot be happy, it is better to be happy than one;

It is better to fulfill the happiness of two people than to fulfill the happiness of two people.

Love is a feeling that makes you feel happy even if you are in pain;

Love is a kind of experience, even if the heart is broken, it will feel sweet;

Love is an experience of searching, even if it is broken, it will feel beautiful... Some losses are predestined, and some fates will never come to fruition.

Loving someone may not be able to have it, but I just can't erase the bits and pieces you leave in my heart... Forget your truth, forget your purity;

Forget your hot kisses, forget the memories of the past;

Forget yesterday's laughter, forget your voice and smile;

Forget your affectionate gaze, forget your sad teardrops;

Forget your melancholy affection, forget your conniving gaze. Love someone is not lonely, think of a talent file to break down loneliness.

Quiet thoughts, lonely enjoyment.

Let go of the clouds in the sky and leave behind the vows that are left to like someone, and to lose it is like throwing away one's beloved belongings.

It's a pity, but it doesn't hurt.

If you love someone, if you lose it, you will leave a wound, and it will always be a faint pain...

Because the return to the steak banquet is also known for you, it is everyone who will feel that what you can't get is the best. In fact, when you figure it out one day, you will find that you are quite stupid when you are leaking silver. If you look at it, you'll be fine.

All right. Of course, this kind of thing can't be solved by others, you can only save yourself, you know.

Because you don't want to fight for it, Lao Zi Zheng wants to protect it, hoping that it will change because of your protection, although it is said that "you can't get it", but you still have hope for yourself!

Because you are not happy without it, and it is even more unfortunate without you.