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Setbacks in life are inevitable, stemming from the inevitable contradictions in life. Because people always have limitations in understanding things, and they are always in a state of knowing little about the contradictions of the objective world, and there are many people who do not know, they may not be able to deal with things well, and there are always more curves and fewer straight roads in front of us, and there are more adversities and fewer good times.
Once a setback occurs, if it is handled well, it can provide an opportunity for us to deepen our understanding, and by resolving doubts, it can make people more mature and bring about a turnaround in the development of things.
The ancient precept that Saion loses his horse and knows whether it is a blessing or a blessing tells us this philosophy of life: gain and loss is a dialectical and unified relationship, which embodies the complementary law in the fate of human beings.
Lu Xun believes: If you can't really receive the pain, it will be difficult to have the hope of a new life!
Ostrovsky also said: Human life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs!
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In fact, this problem is very complicated, you have completed the internship here, and the leader did not accept you, there may be a variety of reasons, you don't think about anything else, and the other leader did not accept you, it may be that they did not make it up.
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Is there something you made him unhappy, and he must be afraid that you are too good, and if you have the ability to find a good job there, find a new leader like this, and ask me to go back and do it, I won't go.
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Don't stay overnight here, you have your own place to stay, don't hang yourself on a tree.
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Old fritters in the workplace.
Then the first type of person is the "old fritter". This is also a person who the leader does not dare to offend easily, simply put, this kind of person is not the kind of person with deep qualifications and rich professional experience, but a person who is not highly motivated to work and has been in a state of laziness for a long time. The characteristic is that anyone in the unit can not listen to what they say, maverick, what you ask him to do he will agree on the spot, but after ten days and half a month, there will be no progress, or he will dump the blame on others and shirk his work.
But this kind of person is well versed in human feelings and sophistication, and is very good at saving face for leaders, so sometimes there is no way to deal with them. Leaders also don't want to spend too much energy on them. After all, there are no KPIs in the system, there is no incentive mechanism and few punishment mechanisms in the enterprise, and the work depends on personal consciousness.
Therefore, if the leader has some dissatisfaction, he will not easily provoke such people.
People with strong comprehensive ability.
This kind of person is very capable and has his own development direction. And people with strong work ability often make leaders afraid. For example, some units have insufficient leadership ability, small pattern, and subordinates are too strong to worry that their positions will be replaced, and there will be an inexplicable threat in their work.
Will deliberately make things difficult.
The other fear is that such people will "jump ship" to other better places to develop, such as through the selection of better units. People with strong comprehensive ability will definitely have an impact on the unit after leaving, and the employees who can do practical things are also a good "helmsman" in the unit, which can bring more and higher benefits, and if they change jobs or leave, it is bound to be a loss.
People with negative energy.
There is another kind of person that leaders dare not provoke, and that is people with negative energy. There are also such people in the unit, who like to pass on negative energy to you in communication with you, complain about the leader and work, and then after complaining, you receive a bunch of negative energy, but he returns to the leader like no one else and becomes very positive.
They are forever depressed with resentment and suspicion in their hearts, feeling that nothing is fair, and everything bad about them is caused by the outside world. The greatest pleasure of every day is to watch others make mistakes and then watch and complain. It can be said that this is a very clear polarizing phenomenon:
The busy are busy to death, and the idle are idle.
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For example, if you get too close to the leader, it is easy to accidentally break the leader's secret, and any leader does not want his subordinates to know his secrets. Leaders need to maintain a sense of majesty and mystery in front of their subordinates, and when you know that there are too many things to lead, that is, when the leader is on guard against you. If you are not careful, you bump into something that the leader does not want others to see, and it may directly lead to unemployment.
After all, the leader is in order to protect himself. Being too close to the leader is not conducive to hiding in the workplace, and the leader does not like the kind of person who is shrewd in everything and has a good relationship with Qi Nai in all aspects.
If the subordinates do too well and their popularity is too good, the leaders will be jealous on the one hand, and the leaders will be jealous on the other hand, and at the same time, the leaders will have no room for criticism and no desire for guidance. Often around the leader, always want to express himself, many times, it is easy to cross the line.
If you get too close to the leader, you are more likely to expose your weaknesses and defects, which is similar to hiding clumsiness. While you show your good side, your bullish side, you also expose your weaknesses and weaknesses. Once the leader finds out, he will never reuse you, be too restrained and conservative, be too careful, follow the same step, have no courage at all, and the same is a hard injury, and the leader will not reuse you.
Excessive greed for personal gain and unprincipled handling of affairs are also hard injuries, and the leaders will still not reuse you.
In the end, there is a situation where you get too close to the leader, and it is difficult to have a good ending if you are hated by your colleagues and almost all the celebrities around the leader. Because, the resources of a unit are limited, and the leader has absolute control over the resources. Gao Pan leader, this kind of person who takes the initiative to approach is nothing more than wanting to get more benefits in limited resources.
So it's not a good thing to get too close to the leader.
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Why don't you envy the leader offend, because as long as you are still in your current position, you will have a handle in the hands of the leader, which is related to your promotion and money. Sometimes a word from a leader, an opinion can determine your promotion or the criticality of your position, so are you willing to joke about your future? When the speed is dry, it is not necessary to follow the will of the leader in everything, adhere to the principles, establish correct values, and adhere to the right and correct things, even if the leader is offended, we must adhere to the principles.
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I don't think most people want to offend anyone. Leaders, in particular, cannot easily offend them.
Because, when you work under the leader, of course, you must obey the leader's leadership and obey the leader's assignment, and it is impossible to get bored and have a conflict with the leader because of a trivial matter, and then the future work will be more difficult to do.
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Powerful people, talented people.
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Those who have the power and ability cannot be replaced by others.
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The leader did not dare to easily offend those people who had a hard relationship.
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Here's how to offend your boss:
1. Face the problem head-on, don't talk to colleagues casually: many people feel that the relationship with colleagues in the workplace is better than the relationship with leaders, so when they encounter these problems, they like to discuss solutions with colleagues.
But we need to understand that in the workplace, it is difficult to have colleagues like friends, because most colleagues have interests with each other. When there is no influence on each other, you can say whatever you want, but once there is a conflict of interest, the previous whispers may become a landmine that hinders your progress.
2. Find the right time to speak: When we decide to talk to the leader face-to-face, then we need to find the right time to talk.
There are three good scenarios to talk to the leader about this topic, the first scenario is the time when the leader is relatively relaxed. Because only then will he have the energy and patience to listen to our explanations. In the second scene, when the leader is in a good mood, because he is happy at this time, it is easier to forgive others.
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What to do if you offend the leader? Offending the leader in public.
If you offend in public, then you are invisibly challenging the prestige of the leader, which is intolerable to all leaders. Because he wants to manage the team, he has to let the team members execute their own intentions. The leader will definitely attack you, even if there is no personal conflict, you must kill the chicken to show the monkey, otherwise no one in the team will listen to him in the future.
If the team doesn't listen to orders, it's going to be a mess, and that's something leaders are trying to avoid.
In this case, in order to avoid the leader wearing small shoes for you in the future, you can do the following actions: first, apologize to the leader in public, this has two purposes, one is to also lead a face, maintain his authority, and the other does this also contains some "coercion" meaning, that is, I have apologized to you, and there are so many people around watching, so as a leader, you should show your own measurement, and you can no longer act on me, otherwise you will be a leader and you will be left with a small amount of energy, Unworthy of the reputation of being a leader.
Secondly, after apologizing in public, you should go to the leader again in private to make up for the relationship. Because a public apology cannot completely eliminate the leader's emotions, buy something appropriately to send to the leader, cheer for home, and apologize to others in person, so that most leaders will not be angry. People make a lot of decisions when they are emotionally out of control, and leaders are no exception, and when the mood is stable, there will be many fewer opportunities for you to wear small shoes in the future.
Offending the leader in private.
If you're offending the leader in private, that's much easier. Because of private offenses, most of them did not challenge the authority of the leader, and the leader did not feel ashamed, but just angry. If you really want to make up for the relationship between the two, then go directly to his house, of course, you can't go empty-handed, but it should be noted that if you come to the door for the first time, the gift should not be heavy, otherwise the leader will feel that you have other plans, dare not accept, just take some common fruits and other gifts.
Apologize for your behavior, apologize to find a reason for your previous behavior, you can say that you have become very irritable recently because of family reasons, and you have not controlled your emotions for a while, so you are angry with the leader, and now you feel very regretful, I hope the leader will not take it to heart, etc., in most cases, this contradiction will be resolved.
Because there is no essential contradiction between you and the leader, because there is no challenge to his authority, the leader will only think that you are just emotionally out of control, since you have apologized, then let the matter pass, after all, you will not look up and see you in the future, and it is not good if the relationship is too stiff.
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You must apologize to the leader, apologize very formally, and then make up for the mistake with your work results. Bear the guilt and make up for it.
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Offending the leader is the most unwise choice, unless you want to leave your job, sincere people are wrong, give some gifts.
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Resign, to your workshop director said.
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What they are afraid of is not the leader of this person, but the identity, status, and ability of his representative. Think about the stranger you meet on the road, even if he is a big leader or boss, you don't know and don't know his identity, then will you be afraid of him? Of course not.
We retreat and avoid because we are afraid of the leader's spring trouble, and once we have retreat and avoidance, we will always be like this, which is actually a communication barrier, and we will not be able to master this social skill, and over time we will fall into a vicious circle.
What causes fear and leadership contact?
1. Fear of socialization and authority;
2. Not confident enough in yourself and not confident enough in the completion of the work; Have an inferiority complex;
3. What is in the hands of the leader, which threatens you;
4. There is a problem with the mentality and a sense of oppression; Blind State.
5. Make a bold guess that you may be a woman, and your boss has coveted you. And there has been sexual harassment, and you are afraid to see him.
The solution, mentally suggesting that there is nothing to be afraid of, and if you have a handle, then resign. If a woman has been sexually harassed by a leader or some kind of hint, there is only one point, reminding him that he must not do this, or sue him.
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