After a breakup, I still can t help but imagine a lot of possibilities, what should I do?

Now many people have broken up, but they still think about a lot of possibilities, maybe because they like each other too much, or realize that they have done a lot of wrong things before, and now regret it, but what's the use of this, he has left, then break up well, after all, the entanglement after the breakup is a very bad performance. This will also make the other person hate themselves and have bad emotions.

In fact, if you can't help but think about a lot of possibilities after breaking up, maybe he can't find a good partner and will come back to find himself, maybe he still can't do without himself, maybe he regrets it, this is all possible, in fact, reality is often completely different from what you think, people can't live in fantasy, so there will be no real happiness, we should pursue our own happiness in real life.

So in order not to let yourself be cranky, do something meaningful, such as learning something that can improve your ability, reading books, exercising more, or finding your good friends to travel and broaden your horizons, which are all very good choices, which will make your mood very happy, so that you will forget the bad emotions brought by the breakup, as well as your own crankiness. And these things can help you become a better person, and now there is no one in society who is really reliable, so you can only rely on yourself.

In fact, there is another way to find another boyfriend, after all, the past is only the past, there are so many good boys around, after starting a new relationship, they will naturally put their energy into this new relationship, how can they imagine a lot of possibilities for their ex? At most, I silently bless him, hoping that he can also find a good person and live a happy life. If you can like another person, it means that you don't really like the person in the past, so let time help you forget about him.

In fact, many people will think a lot of things after breaking up, which is normal, because they are sad, and even some people can't think of suicide? So sometimes we should also be optimistic people, not our own is not our own, in fact, the best things always need to wait, maybe in the near future we will meet better things.

In order to prevent yourself from having some thoughts about that person, you can tell yourself that he actually has a girlfriend, or think about some bad things about him, so that your thoughts about him will be greatly reduced, and you will no longer think about it. In fact, although some people will get back together with their ex now, there are still not many good results, and in the end they are separated for the same reasons as before, so it is better not to see each other after the separation, so it is good for each other.

I also think a lot after the breakup, I think about whether we will get back together, I will think about whether we will never contact again. Actually, these thoughts are normal, but in any case, you have to look forward, and don't think about getting back together if you break up, because getting back together will only repeat the mistakes of the past. Keep yourself busy and you won't have to think about these worries anymore.

Then don't be delusional, and take action yourself to see if there is any possibility of recovery.

Then check whether you still like that person, and if you still have feelings, you should continue to fight for it.

What moment did you get disappointed with your boyfriend and want to break up? I think there are a few common phenomena.

1.He may not love you, or not as much as you think. For example, he is willing to buy things for himself, but on various festivals or anniversaries, people who have you in their hearts will understand your preferences, and even if they don't understand, they will carefully prepare a gift, and all the girl wants is whether you put me in your heart.

Of course, a little gift will make the girl more open-minded.

2.The values of two people, you keep trying to be motivated, hoping that you will live a better life in the future, and your boyfriend is like a frog in warm water, not enterprising, not motivated, and full of negative energy.

3.Under the banner that it is not easy for parents, for example: the bride price for marriage, it is not easy for parents, so the bride price is not given; When I have a dispute with the other party's parents, no matter what the reason, it is not easy for my parents to raise me, and your juniors let me ......

So do you regret breaking up? People who take the initiative to break up will not regret it. Maybe it's to meet someone who is better and more worthy of love than the other person; Maybe because of some external factors, I had to break up ...... irresistiblyDifferent people have different reasons, but one thing is certain:

Since it was an initiative to break up, it must have been decided after careful consideration.

Nothing is absolute, though. There is a little bit of regret when you regret it, after all, you have been together and have feelings, and some even have skin kisses, can you not regret it? Since you have broken up, you must know how to let go, learn to let go, as long as you make yourself better, "there is no grass in the cliff".

I used to chase someone for a year, and then we broke up for nine days, and I was the one who was broken up, and after four years, I lived the way I wanted, and he was still standing still, and just last month, he told me that he hadn't let go of me, in fact, whether he really regretted it or was hypocritical, I really loved at the beginning, and it was really humble, and now he pursued me, and I told him, The person who let go first is not qualified to say regret, and on the other hand, does he really regret it? It's not just that after leaving me, he didn't meet anyone who was better than me and didn't ask for anything in return.

Modern young people are very avant-garde, and they treat feelings as child's play, what they like, and what they annoy; What is gathered is gathered, and what is scattered is dispersed.

When you quarrel with each other, have a cold war, and find that you have few topics and disagree with each other, you will want to break up. If you break up on impulse, you will definitely regret it, and if two people really have no feelings or the other party betrays you, you should not regret it.

It's when your boyfriend doesn't understand you, when you want him to accompany you, he is not by your side, and at this time you especially want to break up, but after you break up, you regret that you did too much.

When he scolded me unscrupulously during the quarrel, I felt that a man could be angry because of the quarrel right now, and insult you like this, and it is possible to go down to domestic violence in the future, and I will not regret breaking up.

For me, there are three moments that make me want to break upThe first is when my girlfriend is willful regardless of my feelings, the second is when I find out that she doesn't love me anymore, and the third is when my girlfriend expands the quarrel between the two to my company and family

1. My girlfriend is willful regardless of my feelings

It's okay to say that my girlfriend is sometimes willful, and occasionally she can be cute, but if my girlfriend is willful regardless of my feelings, then I will really want to break up. Because willfulness also depends on the environment, regardless of the occasion willfulness will only make people feel irritable, but also make people have a lot of negative emotions, in this case, I am likely to propose to break up because of a momentary impulse。And if I'm already in a bad mood and my girlfriend doesn't care about my feelings, it will only make me more uncomfortable.

2. When I found out that she didn't love me anymore

Affection is the basis of two people's relationship, so in my opinion, when one partner no longer loves the other, then the relationship loses the need to continue, it would be better for two people to end up and separate early, so that it would not delay the time of two people, and it would also allow two people to keep a good memory of their other half in their hearts. And I think that since my girlfriend doesn't love me anymore, even if I still love her, I can't continue to restrain her, because it's unfair to her, not to mention that even if I persuade her to stay with me, if her heart is not in me, then this relationship will soon come to an end.

3. My girlfriend expands the quarrel between the two to my company and family

It is inevitable that there will be quarrels when couples are dating, but I think it is most appropriate to control such quarrels between two people, and I can only accept that the war between two people can be extended to good friends who know each other, such as letting them know that we are quarreling and asking them to persuade us. But if my girlfriend expands the quarrel between the two of them to my company and family, it will be unbearable for me, and I will probably want to break up because of it。Because in my opinion, there is no need for emotional matters to affect work and their respective families, and it is good to resolve the conflict between two people in private.

To sum up, the above three moments will make me want to break up very much.

For example, when communicating with the other party, I feel the other party's perfunctory and indifferent feelings, which will make me want to break up very much. Or after a quarrel, the other party can't give in, and this moment will also make me want to break up, or I will want to break up when I don't feel in love.

The moment that makes me want to break up, such as in the process of dating, if the two parties really may have some fierce quarrels, and the other party even does something unreasonable. Or when you're particularly angry. These moments will make me want to break up.

What moments remind you of a breakup? I think there are too many moments when two people want to break up together, because everyone deals with the problem of things, disagrees and divides, at this time I really want to break up, and when I leave, there are some trivial things that make everyone feel unhappy, but the ultimate goal is to solve the problem, not choose to break up to escape the truth of the facts.

As long as my boyfriend is a little bit bad to me, or my boyfriend often doesn't pay attention to my thoughts, or doesn't discuss things with me when something happens, I want to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I'm not getting a kind of happiness.

I was tired, but I couldn't get the comfort of the other party, the other party had to quarrel with me, obviously it was the other party's fault, but he would put the fault on me, and these moments would make me want to break up.

There were a lot of those moments. For example, when life is stressful, when you are upset. When I am tired, when I am tired, I will think of breaking up, but this is only for a moment. Since you have chosen each other, you must cherish each other.

It may be just a small thing, daily trivialities, disappointments are all accumulated little by little, disappointed to the core, a small thing, the last straw that crushed the camel, suddenly felt that he was tired, and he dispersed.

These moments are the moments when the other party and I get angry, the moment when the other party loses their temper with me, the moment when the other party and I are vexatious, the time when the other party hits me, the moment when the other party and I have an awkward relationship, and the moment when the other party and I have a cold war.

Two people often quarrel over trivial things, there is no way to compromise with each other on many principled issues, there is no common three views, there is no common goal, and the other party does not know how to respect me at all.

When the other party begins to engage in cold violence. Without any communication. That moment can make you feel very depressed. There was a panic about love. I want to escape, but I want to break up.

When my boyfriend misunderstood me, when we were in a cold war, when we were arguing, when he didn't come home at night, when he was selfish.

Many young people in life will fall in love, because this is also free love, and they want to be able to get married together, so many young people will talk about this relationship very seriously when they meet someone they like, but there will also be many problems in the relationship, because the personality of the two people is also because of personal quality reasons, which are very important, and there are also family reasons.

In life, if you find a boyfriend and girlfriend you like very much, you will take it seriously, and you can tolerate any shortcomings of the other party, because this is also the person you have met in your heart, and if you encounter something unpleasant in the relationship, it is normal to want to break up.

1. If the other party is violent, it's time to break up.

Because there are many people who don't understand each other's character before falling in love, and in the process of falling in love, the other party has domestic violence against themselves, so they should break up, because domestic violence is very scary.

Second, if the other party is irresponsible, it is not okay.

Because there are many people who have no sense of responsibility, it is also very important to have a sense of responsibility in marriage, so when we are looking for a boyfriend and girlfriend, once a person has no sense of responsibility, there is no need to talk about it anymore.

3. If the other party is not motivated, they can't be together.

Because the two families are also very important in the future, if they are together, the other party is not self-motivated, and they play like children, so they can't get married, and they can also break up.

So in life, if we meet each other, if he has so many shortcomings, he should not be together, because the life of two people together is also very important, if you don't think about living together in the future, it is okay to fall in love, because after all, many times there are many reasons to consider. Finally, it is very important to enter into marriage.