How can I change myself? Please advise you

Even though I don't think you're handsome, it's not like you can't find a girlfriend.

It's true that your face is a little cute, and I have a very good friend who is chubby like you, but I don't feel that he is immature. So you don't have to feel inferior, if you feel mature enough, then you are mature enough, those girls say you are immature, that's her judgment error.

Of course, it is also possible that people think you are fat, that you are not handsome, that they don't look down on you at first sight, and just find an excuse to reject you, after all, it is a blind date. How many girls who can become leftover girls and have to go on a blind date are fuel-efficient lamps?

I've met a lot of women who don't judge a person by first impressions. That is to say, you just always meet the same type of woman on a blind date, and not all women will judge a person by their first feeling, just as not all women worship money. It is arbitrary to judge a person based on first impressions, and this kind of woman herself is immature.

For boys, in fact, appearance is very secondary, and you have embarked on the blind date route, so you must either be busy at work, or more introverted and homely. I expect you to be in the latter situation, because a lot of girls say that about you, so you're going to have to find out your personality. Because of your introversion and homeliness, you don't understand girls very well, and there may be many details that you don't do well in the blind date process.

Of course, this is all my subjective speculation. Actually, the first feeling is very important.

Go and design a mature hairstyle and dress up mature! That's it!

Don't wear red, wear suits, and casual clothes of other colors, don't wear these eyes, wear cool sunglasses if you do.

Dear, I've been like this for a while, setting a goal for myself, but for various reasons I finally gave up, and then waited for the next opportunity... Well, I feel like I've made it past this period, so I think I can talk about it

Well, how to say it, first of all, what is the reason why you think it is difficult, is it because of lack of action, and you can't start, well, everything is difficult at the beginning, you set yourself a goal, a plan, but you don't have the courage to complete it, or you don't have the perseverance to stick to it, in this case, you need to think about what you are doing now, what are the goals you are working hard for, such as finding a good job or going to a good university, or getting good grades at work. Or if you want to make your family's life better, think about it clearly, and then think about what kind of effort you have to put in to achieve the goals you have set, and whether you are ready to make these efforts, if not, think about the first question again until you think that your motivation is enough to support your actions, and then, put in the effort, and then, reach the goal!!

If the reason for not being able to act is that you can't communicate with others, that is, you can't ask others for advice, then you don't have to, it's a good virtue to ask questions without shame, and you must have a teacher in a threesome, and you must know how to ask others for advice, and know how to enrich yourself with other people's knowledge.

Well, let's talk about the problem that you feel that you can't find common ground between ideals and reality, or that you can't balance ideals and reality. First of all, I want to say that I don't think there is anything wrong with idealism, although in reality there are many people who think that idealists are too extreme, but for persistence, successful people are called persistent, and losers are called stubborn, in fact, I think idealists are more likely to see the problems that exist in reality, and it is easier to make beneficial changes.

However, when there are too many differences between your ideals and reality, you need to find a balance between the two, you need to see clearly what you need, what you want, for example, you feel that the people around you are not what you imagine your companions to be, then you can find the place in them that makes you identify with them, and then, interact with them, or expand your social circle, find new friends, if your work environment is not what you want, then, you must first do your job well, and then, Seek a breakthrough.

In short, don't be afraid of action, a little action, maybe you can achieve a different effect!!

Hope it helps

It's good to experience more failures and maturity, and it's okay to read books, except for inspirational.

chengzhangzhongdejingyan gained experience in the growth of the process. That's how people live. It's nice not to have to change anything, to be yourself.

You have to think like this: the past has passed, we are powerless to recover, and tomorrow is what we can grasp now, as long as you have a beautiful, longing heart, you will be happy, come on.

Doing some moderate exercise can change a person's mentality and physical fitness.

It also makes a big difference to your mood.

Watch more humorous books or TV and eat what you like.

Sometimes I can talk to my elders. Keeping your own journal is also a great way to self-regulate.

You're actually called autism! Don't want to face anything, too introverted! This disease depends on your willpower to overcome it, be cheerful, don't run away from things, and believe that you can do it!