If you were seriously ill, would you tell your lover?

This question is really a problem with distinctive characteristics of idol dramas.

I just wanted to say why not tell?

Every time I watch a TV series, there is this kind of plot, the male or female protagonist finally determined each other's intentions after a lot of difficulties, and finally fell in love with each other, and finally went to the happy finale.

As a result, one party began to break up when he had a terminal illness or something, and he swore that "I would rather he hate me and hate me, than let him watch me die".

And then doing some duplicity, doing everything to push the other person away.

Whether it is on the screen or off the screen, they have earned enough tears, making the audience cry with a handful of snot and tears, and the actors themselves are moved to cry.

To be honest, I couldn't stand this kind of plot before.

Because of what? Because I'm young, because I'm emotional, because I'm soft-hearted, sometimes crying is more emotional than the protagonist, and I always feel that their relationship is really great, selfless, and touching.

Now, I can't stand this kind of plot either.

Because of what? Because I feel speechless.

You said that two people are finally together, so they should cherish their time together, right, if they drive each other away because of illness, is it that the time together will be reduced?

In this case, it's too late to cherish each other's time together, and they still want to push it away, which really doesn't understand me.

There's a line that doesn't say that, "If you say that you will be together for a lifetime, you can't miss a year, a day, a minute, or a second."

You see how conscious this sentence is, since we are together, we should have the consciousness of being in the same boat through thick and thin.

Don't use your self-righteousness and self-righteousness to reduce the relationship between two people in disguise.

If two people who love each other can only share joys and sorrows, it will be a harm to anyone.

Don't say that illness keeps the other person away because of love, in my opinion, it is all self-righteous practice.

If you love each other, then you should also tell the other party if you are sick, whether to go or stay should be left by the other party's own choice, if you leave it is excusable, if you stay is affectionate.

If one day after we get rid of our other half, we are really far away from the world, in case our other half knows the truth of the matter, how heartbroken it will be, and we will regret and blame ourselves.

They will definitely blame themselves for not sticking to your side, why they didn't keep you, why they don't cherish the time together.

I think sometimes the duplicitous intentional hurt from the lover can also make people's hearts cold.

Therefore, I believe that the best love to give the other person is to leave enough respect to the other person, respect their choices, respect their right to know, and respect their ideas.

Instead of always judging whether one thing is good or bad, good or bad for the other half from your own standpoint.

Maybe you think that it is better to break up with your lover first than to watch you leave, so as to reduce the harm to them, in fact, how do you know which is more serious than the damage added to them?

Of course it is, and I'm sure people in real life tell their significant other about their illness. Only the screenwriter of a TV idol drama will make up this kind of plot, it is a completely illogical plot, and he doesn't want to think about the other half is sick, how can he catch the blind as his lover and not know?

When we got married, we all swore that no matter how rich or poor, sick or sick, we would always stay together and never give up. Not to mention how much water there is in this vow, human nature is not so selfless, and I have never seen anyone who sends himself to hell for the sake of the other half's well-being. On the contrary, if the other half suddenly goes to shit and gets rich overnight, he is very likely not to tell his lover and silently swallow them privately.

Let's talk about myself, I had to let my husband accompany me when I first went to the hospital for examination, how could he not know? Don't say let me go to the hospital alone, my mother just went to the clinic to see a cold, and I had to let him accompany me.

Besides, we've both bought insurance, so why don't you let him know how to handle these things for me? I'm married far away, and my parents can't stay here for a long time, so I can only rely on my lover for bed care or something.

Even if I don't have insurance, even if we are so poor that we really don't have the money to treat my serious illness, and I have decided to give up**, then I have to let him know, I have to let him cherish me, cherish the precious days we have together, and let him be mentally prepared, otherwise my sudden departure will hit him hard.

And in my last days, I can arrange everything for me, enjoy the last heat of his life, and most importantly, I can die in the arms of my lover, which can be regarded as a romantic and perfect ending.

I've really thought about it.

Maybe it's because I've seen too much life and death around me, so I feel that life is really too fragile. Sometimes I wonder if I should tell my lover if I have a serious illness.

I guess I'll tell her anyway.

It's hard, but I know it's more cruel to deceive you than to tell you the truth. Don't think about any excuses like falling in love with someone else, let's separate, and I won't deliberately get angry with you, making you think I'm a scumbag and leave my ......I don't want to disappear into your world silently, cutting off all contact ......

In fact, this way is a huge disservice to me and you. You must know that the person you love deeply, if you do such a thing, it will only leave a shadow on each other and cause harm to each other, and if it is more serious, you may no longer believe in love from now on.

It's not the outcome I wanted, and I don't want me to be sick and mentally retarded......

I've never had to worry about money. You know, not only did I buy social security, but I also bought commercial insurance. Just to be able to give your family more protection and less burden when a major illness comes.

If I am sick and hospitalized, there is social security to reimburse me, commercial insurance can also do, and the sum insured should be enough to cover general critical illnesses.

So I'm not worried, I don't have money, what I'm worried about is, I can't be with you in the future, what are you going to do?

So I hope you can understand what I'm going to do next. It's nice to have someone around to keep you around. But what if I really can't?

I hope you will be strong and have the confidence and courage to face the future life.

It's like going back to being alone, and I can no longer use all kinds of methods to deliver delicious food to you when you're hungry. It's no longer possible to help you book a hotel and make a travel plan when you're out and about. I can't be noisy with you anymore.

I think I'll write down all your preferences and leave them for someday in the future, someone who can take care of you in my place, and let him know how to treat you well.

I've been seriously ill for a while, so I think you'll take care of me too.

I remember when we watched the movie "Love in the Sky", you scolded the male protagonist at the time, saying that he was self-righteous and actually endured a serious illness alone, but pushed his beloved girl away. It seems great, but it's actually very selfish......

And in the end, the heroine's actions also proved your statement, and the heroine still returned to the male protagonist and took care of him until the last moment.

Perhaps, for the person you love deeply, "whether you are poor or rich, whether you are healthy or sick, accompany him, protect him, and live for a lifetime", this is love.

And the kind of person who is afraid of becoming a burden to the other party and hides by himself, in fact, it just makes the other party more painful.

If I get very sick, I will definitely tell my lover. No why, I think people who love each other should be honest with each other and shouldn't hide anything, especially for such a big thing. In addition to amnesia, the episodes that are often played in idol dramas are cancer.

One of the heroes and heroines has cancer, and when they learn the news, they often find a male or female supporting actor to act in a scene, saying that they are empathetic, find a new love, and have never loved each other at all, and then let the other party leave him sadly, angrily and desperately. In this way, both people are in pain, and they hurt each other, and they also say that they don't want to be a burden to others, and I especially disapprove of this practice.

When two people who love each other are together, they must have been carefully considered, because they trust each other, they have made vows, and even if they don't have vows, they are determined to never leave each other no matter what happens. What's more, it is a serious illness, this kind of thing can happen to everyone, if you don't tell your lover, but you think it's good for the other party and choose to hide it, or let the other party leave, which not only makes you sad, but also makes your lover sad. From a lover's point of view, having such a big deal as a serious illness would rather choose to hide it than tell him, which will make people think that he and she are not trustworthy in your eyes, since both of you have decided to spend your life together, but push her away when you need someone to accompany you the most.

So I think that if you are seriously ill, you should tell your lover, as for how things will develop next, it is a later story, first of all, he and she have the right to know the truth, no matter what else, the person who loves each other should face it together, happiness and pain, health or illness.

If one day I get seriously ill, will I choose the person closest to me, in fact, this is an unsolvable question. But then, if it were me, I would have considered it in a few cases.

The first case, and that is the better one, is the better one. If you say, although I am very sick, it is completely okay. Then I will choose to tell my nearest and dearest people, and I don't want to feel indebted to me because they didn't accompany me through those difficult years after they find out.

Since it can be cured, if I think about it from a selfish point of view, I also hope that my relatives can be by my side and accompany me to overcome the disease. Back to the family I love the most.

Happy and happy life in my family. It's still a selfish thought, it's very painful to face the disease alone, and if you have the closest person by your side, helping yourself to overcome the disease shouldn't make the days in the hospital so boring. And that's not a disease that can't be cured, and there's no need to hide that everyone together may make our illness heal faster.

The rest of the thing is a more sad trend, because as we have mentioned above, although our disease is very serious, but it can be cured, then there is only one situation left, that is, our disease is really serious, and there is no possibility of cure.

In this particularly tragic situation, I still want a relatively better outcome. That is, although we have a very serious disease, we can keep us in a normal state through the control of drugs.

If that's what I'm in, then I'm going back to doing something I wanted to do but haven't been doing. At the same time, I have the people closest to me. I want to remember my loved ones deeply at the end of my life and leave without any regrets.

I will let my relatives accompany me to see this wonderful world, in my normal life, I am always busy, and I don't have a lot of time to think about seeing this world.

Leaving this world without knowing the beauty of this world may be my biggest regret, so I will go to see this world with the people closest to me.

If I don't even have this kind of situation, then I am willing to face the dangers of this world alone, at least I want my relatives to have more time to live happily, even if it is only for one day.

That's what I think if I get seriously ill, I really want everyone around me to live happily, even if this world doesn't have me.

I think I will. I'm a dying man, and it's nonsense for me in the future, and he's in his prime of life, and I don't want him to feel ashamed of me in his lifetime, so why bother? When I can dwell on it, I think I will tell him calmly, and after telling him that after me, you can go and continue the strings, and I will not blame you for being demanding.

I think he can be with me for these last few days, just let me be selfish for a few days. <>

I won't hide it from him like in the TV series, and wait until I die before telling him, then he will never live in peace for the rest of his life, and he will always live in self-blame and guilt. He is my lover, how can I do that to him? How can I bear a big living person who sacrifices a dead man in his heart all day long, just guilty, and condemns himself in his heart to let him live in pain?

My dear, I'm going to a far, far away country, I may be leaving you, don't be sad, I can only accompany you here. <>

I want to go with him to the place where we first met, even if things are not human, but the place where I met him for the first time is sacred in my heart, and I want to go one last time, and I have my wish. And to take a wedding photo, I know that the current appearance is ugly, which girl doesn't want to be beautiful? So in the last days, I want him to remember me as my most beautiful appearance, I don't want to be an ugly woman, how can I?

My pride does not allow me to do this. I want him to cook for me once, even if I can't eat those anymore now, and my swallowing function is partially lost, but the taste can still be smelled, my eyes can still see, and my heart can still feel, this life is too short, I wanted to eat his food for a lifetime, but I didn't expect this life to be so short, but I am content. <>

I would write him a letter that ran through the whole of our love, first acquaintance, slow contact, and then love until now. Hello sir, I am your wife and I love you very much. I know you, I'm very lucky, thank you for your tolerance and patience, and my little temperament gives you a headache, it seems that God can't stand it, and wants to take me away, so don't let me continue to torture you?

And thank you for being with me through the last period of my life, you know? I'm scared, I'm scared to leave you, but I'm brave to have you. <>

I'm not a superstitious person, but at the moment I want to have a next life in my life, the next life, and I also implore myself to meet you in that life, I won't tell you who I am, I want us to have a new beginning every time we fall in love, don't worry, I will find you. I'm leaving, you have to be good, don't blame me for telling you such a cruel reality, you helped me fulfill my wish, I don't have any regrets, I think I should go with a smile, I love you the most in this world, but I'm relieved that you will take care of yourself, right? <>