What kind of psychology is it to choose to be a dink?

It may be because the cost of raising a child is too great now, raising a child is the same as buying a house, it is still very expensive, so people will choose not to have children, because the current pension level is gradually rising, the country's medical insurance and other social benefits are ensuring people's lives, more and more people are no longer worried about the problem of old and helpless, they are more focused on the present, as long as they live a good life, enjoy the present, enjoy the world. In fact, Dink is not only an attitude, but more importantly, a psychology, I want to choose to be a Dink family to withstand the pressure of parents, it is also a very difficult thing, parents always hope that their children can give birth to a child as soon as possible, when they still have the ability to help their children take care of children, children can do as they wish, the traditional idea of inheritance still exists, if the child chooses Dink, then I want parents to accept, it is a difficult thing, but it does not rule out accidents. But as a dink, it doesn't mean that there is no love between husband and wife, but a consensus has been reached on whether to have children or not, so Dink's life is not as boring as imagined, and it is also a beautiful thing for two people to live a comfortable life with peace of mind without parenting pressure.

So Dink is a more like the idea of being responsible for the child, at least when both parents do not have the financial ability to raise a child, choosing to be Dink, which is a responsibility to the child, so that you can better avoid the family will fall into the dilemma of being stretched thin in the future, and even better plan your own life. But now those who choose Dink are more rich or celebrities, I think this is not a matter of economic pressure, but more of a change in thinking, so that more and more people accept Dink's ideas.

The Dinks, although they are not very common in life, at least most people have heard of them and at least know what they mean.

Dink is actually an abbreviation for Double Income No Kids. It means that both parties have an income and have no children.

The Dink family is more common in European and American countries, and more in China, but it is still relatively rare in China.

The specific reason for the lack of domestic is naturally due to the concept of raising children and preventing old age in China since ancient times.

I won't judge too much on the correctness of this concept, but I will mainly talk about the reasons why there are many Dinks in European and American countries, and what kind of psychology they use to "Dink".

I'm not an expert in social psychology, so I can't say how authoritative my views are, but at least they can be used as some references for discussion.

First of all, some of the Dinks are financially unsatisfactory.

The money for milk powder, diapers, and reading is not something that those who have never understood can understand.

Having a child is indeed a huge burden financially, in this case, it is better not to have children than to let the child become a drag on life, and at the same time not to give the child a good life.

In addition, there are also Dinks who want to make themselves "happier".

Some people may wonder, how can they be happier without children? Doesn't not having children make you more lonely?

I read a book called "This is called Psychology", which is a psychological book, and it is mentioned in this book that in psychology, there are many worldly wisdoms that have been scientifically studied and found to be wrong. The book gives this example: "Children bring happiness to parents. ”

People often confuse the point of view of reminiscence with the experience of real events. It is indeed pleasant to recall having a child in old age. However, in terms of sustained or immediate well-being, children actually make people feel less happy.

Therefore, from a psychological point of view, the pursuit of happiness by the Dink people is also understandable.

With the development of society, there are more and more Dink people, and many celebrities are also Dink. Some people are active Dink, while others are passive Dink, and there are friends around who are Dink families, and we support their ideas.

There is a friend who was first brought up by her husband when they were Dinks. His husband feels that the social pressure is so great now, and he is so tired of living, and he doesn't want his children to come to this world to suffer. In fact, their family is quite good, their friends are high-paid families, and from an economic point of view, they have no problem raising a child.

Her husband's family was unhappy when he was a child, he was worried that he would not be able to give his children a warm family, worried that he could not be a good father, and felt that he could not take care of his children, so he persuaded his friend to be a Dink family.

A former colleague liked the world of two, and the two often traveled around the world. They feel that two people are enough and there is no need to have children. Another colleague once asked her if she wanted to have children, and she said she hadn't thought about it.

Fortunately, the parents on both sides didn't urge them, and then they didn't have any pressure to come, so they kept living in a two-person world. Actually, I envy them very much, especially when the children are noisy, I think how comfortable Dink is.

There is a relative who has been married for more than ten years and has never had children. It is said that the man was infertile, so he passively became a Dink family. Over the years, their parents have urged them many times and advised them to adopt a child.

But they have already made up their minds to dink, and they have persuaded the old people to be brave enough to face the gossip of outsiders.

In the current society, there are still some people who will look at Dink people with colored glasses, and it takes a lot of courage to choose Dink for whatever reason. Everyone is still more tolerant of them, after all, everyone has the right to decide their own reproductive rights.

During this time, I also thought about this issue very seriously, and the result of my thinking was that I didn't want to have children, and it was good to be a Dink. Although I like children very much, and I like to make them happy, I don't like the pain of having a child and the series of consequences that come with it.

I believe everyone knows that the pregnant woman incident some time ago, that left a big shadow in my heart, in case one day my husband and his family who have a bad vision are like that, then how sad I am, even if the child is born, the life may be uncomfortable. At that time, when I watched the monitoring**, the pregnant woman was in pain like that, and I felt that giving birth was even more terrible when I added the 3D birth dynamic picture I had seen before. When I was pregnant, I was uncomfortable, and I was even more tired after giving birth with a child, and my whole life was on this, and at this time I would sigh that my mother was too powerful and too great.

There is a bunch of things after the child is born, the cost of raising a child is really too high now, the child just came out to start thinking about his kindergarten to go to **, go to school in the future, and buy a school district house, all kinds of things have to worry about, they are not comfortable yet, they are going to be tied to the child, although they will be very happy after having a child, but these costs and happiness compared to I think it will still make people think about whether they should have children.

In fact, now more women are because they have a happy marriage and a successful career, there is no need to have children, and it is good to live a two-person world with their husbands, or children will affect work or something, anyway, it is a state that does not need children.

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Dink is a homonym for dink, which is a literal word for doubleincome no kids, which means that there is neither income nor children. The reason for this choice may be due to their financial problems, or it may be due to other factors such as physical or personal development and family influences.

Dink's first criterion is that they are fertile, but they choose not to have children. In addition to the subjective intention of not having children, it is also possible that they choose not to have children because of other subjective or objective reasons, but this is not caused by their psychological problems.

Maslow, an American psychologist, proposed in his 1943 hierarchy of needs theory that human needs are like ladders, from low to high, which can be divided into five types according to the level. They are physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs.

Maslow argues that these five needs, like the ladder, are gradually increasing according to the hierarchy. In general, when a low-level demand is satisfied, it will develop into a higher-level demand. However, this hierarchical hierarchy is not absolute, and sometimes human beings will pursue higher needs when the lower levels are not satisfied.

As for the Dinks, most of them are high-income people and are the middle class of society. For them, the basic material conditions are already sufficient to meet their own needs. After their lower needs are satisfied, they pursue higher self-actualization needs.

If they don't have children, they will have more personal time and money, and more energy to realize their self-worth. In addition, they can spend less time busy with their children and more time for their own pleasures.

There is also a part of the Dink family, they have a completely different and new view of marriage and love. They believe that marriage is not connected by children, and children are not the preservative of marriage. On the contrary, children will also occupy a large part of their own time, affecting the higher quality of life of two people.

At the same time, the current social competition is very fierce, and without this great pressure of life, the cost of raising a child is very high, which will increase the burden on the two to a large extent.

For women, every time they give birth to a small life, they will go through the ghost gate. They have to endure medical grade 10 pain, and having a baby is very risky. First of all, the child may face the problem of deformity, and in addition, the mother will also have the risk of childbirth, so many families choose to be a Dink family in order not to face this risk.

I think it mainly depends on personal preferences and economic strength to decide, some people like children, and are willing to raise, then you can have two more, the latest national policy is three. Some people don't like it or the conditions are not good, maybe they will have one, mainly depending on the actual situation of their family.

When I was pregnant with a child, I was hospitalized, and I risked that the baby might be infected in utero, and finally more than 4 pounds were dissected, and I thought in my heart, the old lady will never give birth again! However, the scar forgot the pain, three years later, I felt that I didn't want to have another baby in my life, and now the second child has passed two years, and my idea is that in the future, I will have the condition to have another one, no obsession with boys or girls, and I have a son and a daughter.

If there is hope, I hope there can be many. As the old saying goes, there are more good people and more power, and if there are more brothers and sisters, everyone can work together to deal with whatever they encounter in the future. But I just hope that although the second child is now open, there are very few who can raise two children.

For now, wages are low and prices are high. It costs a lot of money to raise a child, if two people have jobs, it is quite stressful to work alone, and there is also the problem of supporting the elderly, now 80, 80% of the post-90s are basically only children, because in that era you were fined if you had more children, so the small couple means to support both parents and children, this is of course also a kind of pressure, some parents will have pension insurance, but they need more to take care of their children, so to sum up, If the financial letter allows, a daughter and a son are sufficient, and the children will have a care when they grow up. Therefore, not only hope is enough, but strength must also allow, now as before, parents now want to give the best to their children, <>

I think that if the child does not need to be old-aged, then the meaning of having a child is to get more fulfillment. There are more people who share our love and our homes for a better purpose. And for the sake of a better home of ours.

I think it's first of all because of love. I love that person, and I want to have a child for him, a child who unites our flesh and blood, and he is also a testimony of our love. As for whether he was raised by us to be a child who also loves us and is as educated as us, it is another matter, we only remember that the original intention of giving birth to him (her) was because of the love of her father or mother.

The reason for having a baby is to experience a sense of family fun. Raising children knows that it is hard, but it also brings us joy. When I came home after a hard day, I saw the child's innocent smiling face and a "daddy hug", and all the hard work disappeared.

This is the simple joy that children bring us, without any utilitarianism. Even the older generation of parents also need this kind of unparalleled pleasure together, and no happiness can catch up with seeing their children born and grown.