Why are there things that you know you can t do, but you can t control yourself?

False empathy bias, think about it, each of us has experienced this kind of psychology, we often overestimate our own perceived judgments, consciousness and behaviors, this psychology makes people often adhere to a certain kind of thinking or behavior, it is less likely to be affected by the outside world, and it is possible that because of this influence they are more determined to carry out, this situation in your problem arises. When we are also experiencing this situation, we need to cultivate a sense of self-awareness, when you are clear about this concept, then you may fall into this psychological dilemma at any time, we need to listen carefully to the opinions of others, combined with a comprehensive analysis after deep thinking, and then make plans.

In fact, there is an ambiguity in thinking, in most cases, we think that the thing is wrong, so we think that they should not do it, and they do not have this kind of thinking mode of correcting mistakes. As the saying goes, "the bystander is clear", so when we, as bystanders, can clearly realize the development path of something, the person concerned does not necessarily have this awareness, and once a person falls into this kind of thinking dilemma, only self-verification can be freed, so there is another saying to describe this behavior:

Don't hit the south wall and don't look back".

When people are rational, they can control themselves well, but when they are impulsive, reason loses its effect. Therefore, Buddhism teaches us to reduce our desires, such as eating vegetarian food, skipping lunch and so on, in order to reduce people's impulses from food, especially sexual impulses. Zeng Guofan's method is also very good, making himself busy life, but it is also difficult to do without cooperating with dietary restrictions.

In addition, ideologically, we must continue to study and improve our ideological realm. We should all read some of the books of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism. The books of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism not only improve our understanding of all things ideologically, but also point us to how to better control our thoughts through some convenient methods.

So as to achieve the purpose of self-cultivation. Usually do more good deeds, and finally we can slowly achieve the unity of knowledge and action.

I know that I am wrong, and I admit my mistake in my heart, but I can't change it, because I haven't hit the south wall yet, I don't have a broken head and I don't have a blood, and I go back if I don't have pain. At that time, we can't watch ourselves fall all over the body, we can't get in and out, and the loading here includes all aspects, such as knowing that he has a family but he has to love someone who shouldn't be loved, love is scarred, knowing that he shouldn't be greedy or possessive, he has to be those flies, he knows that he can't drink and drive, but he wants to be greedy for a drink, etc., there is no painful lesson, there is no comprehension.

Because there is no clear goal. To do something, first of all, you have to go in the right direction. Then implement it step by step. In this way, you will regulate your own behavior. Moreover, the surroundings are important.

Not everyone's opinions and suggestions are correct, or simple, so this requires a comprehensive judgment of the thinking ability, take the essence of the dross, this is what we need to think about on the road of life, whether it is a person or a person. Whether a person is good or not, in addition to one-sided ability, the ability to coordinate oneself as a whole is also very important.

In fact, I know very well that if you don't stop the precipice, you will eventually fall into the precipice. Whenever I have some bad thoughts, I try to control myself again and again, let the mistakes be nipped in the bud, think more about the consequences of going on like this, think about the worst, don't hold on to the luck and let the mistakes continue.

Different questions have different interpretations. The authorities may be deliberately confused, but the bystanders are clear. Ask the bystanders. Human desire and vanity are what we know we can't do!

Self-knowledge. Self-discipline means that your actions depend on the belief that you can make the best decisions, not on your emotions at the moment. Therefore, the first characteristic of self-discipline is self-knowledge.

You need to decide what behaviors best project your goals and values. This process requires introspection and self-analysis, and it works best if you try to write it down. I highly recommend taking the time to write down your goals, dreams, and ambitions.

It would be nice to be able to write out the terms of your own mission. I've found that writing such a clause makes me clearer about who I am.

What am I going to do and what am I worth.

Sober awareness.

Self-discipline relies on a clear awareness of what you're doing and what you're not doing yet. Think about it. If you don't even know that your behavior is undisciplined, how can you discipline yourself?

When you start self-discipline, you may catch some of your own undisciplined behaviors, such as biting your fingers, not wanting to go to the gym, eating a piece of cake, or checking your email frequently. Self-discipline takes time, and the key is that you are aware of your undisciplined behavior. Over time, this awareness will become simpler and make you aware of the undisciplined things you do, rather than waiting until you've already started doing them.

This can give you the opportunity to make the best decision for your goals and values.

For example, swiping your mobile phone, you will waste a lot of time, make yourself unproductive, or become a serious procrastinator, you can throw away your mobile phone, it is unrealistic to turn off the Internet, you can try to listen to books, I am not advertising, so that you can quit Internet addiction without losing your mobile phone, I mean that there may be nothing wrong with this thing itself, you can look at it in another way.

You can use the mental control method to make yourself unhappy when you want to do this, so that you will have this reflex, so you will force yourself not to do it.

You have to control yourself not to do that, first, you have to be firm in your own ideas, and second, you must be silent and resolutely not to do it! This will allow you to control yourself.

If we control ourselves and don't do one thing, then we don't think about those things, but just look away. Self-emptiness controls self-emptiness.

Since it is an important thing, it is related to your future, and with a bright future, how good it is for you to do what you want to do. You should work hard. Clear your head, think it through, and control your behavior.

It's better to find another thing to replace it, it's so easy to stick to it, it's a bit hard to get through willpower alone.

You should limit yourself to doing this through certain hardware conditions, or you can create a more favorable surrounding environment.

Make it clear that control doesn't do anything.

(1) Give yourself a goal and plan to drive away those irrational thoughts and behaviors. (2) Anticipate the worst outcome for yourself.

Start with the cultivation of things that are easy to do from a young age, such as getting up half an hour early every day, reading a book for half an hour a day to insisting on exercising for 1 hour a day, improving your self-control ability, and then always hinting at yourself what you can't do, and slowly you can control it.

You can cultivate some hobbies that can make you calm, such as playing chess and fishing, so that your personality will change over time, and you will not be unable to control yourself.

Explain that your self-discipline is relatively poor, take three deep breaths first, and then think about whether you should do it, be calm, and have a correct attitude.

If you can't control it, do less, so that it won't cause too serious consequences, but in the future, try to eliminate it.

If you can't control it, just do it, but all the consequences must be borne by yourself, and there is no excuse.

To exercise your self-control, you must first think about the consequences of doing so, and you may be able to restrain it.

Then don't do it, you can choose to do something else to distract yourself.

I remember that so-and-so once said such a sentence:

The road has been chosen, even if I kneel and I will finish it."

At that time, I wanted to say, you chose the wrong path, why do you still insist?

Perseverance and perseverance are things that are worthy of praise from others, so why do you insist so much on something that is not right??

Laughed at her more than once, this is a disease, it has to be cured!

She really still does her own thing.

Is she obsessive-compulsive?

No, she just doesn't want to change.

Because change creates variables, and the future becomes uncontrollable.

A known future, and a future that no one knows what it will look like.

It's better to choose the one that is known, at least the known one will make you feel at ease, and there won't be so many accidents.

Change is a difficult decision for a person to make.

Maybe you don't think it's right, but the other person thinks you're going to be happy in it.

Inertia is the most labor-saving and comfortable thing that will make people feel the most.

The interference of an external force will always make the trajectory chaotic.

"Knowing" is wrong, but it doesn't mean that you really understand what's wrong.

You simply receive such a message, but you don't take it to heart, you don't think about it, you don't appreciate the meaning.

The difference between reason and emotion is always enormous.

People have feelings, so sometimes they get emotional, and you just care about the process of the thing and the outcome you know you can live expecting.

Then for the impact of other people, sometimes I don't care so much.

That's it, I'm happy! Why should I feel other people's feelings?

Some people say that such behavior is too egotistical.

However, every time you are grabbing a train ticket, do you still care about the loss of those who did not grab the ticket? No.

Sometimes people are strange animals, knowing that some things are wrong but still insist on doing them, I can understand this mentality, because everyone wants to give it a try, for example, if you don't hit the south wall and don't look back, but some people just hit the south wall and don't look back, so sometimes I think this kind of problem is just a personal personality problem, and such a character should belong to that kind of stubborn or a little paranoid personality characteristics!

In the last few days, I've been watching a news, that is, a mother can't bear the pain from the fifth floor of the story, in fact, the initial initial I think the family must be a natural birth attitude, in the hearts of the older generation, because the children who have given birth feel that the pain of giving birth to a child can also be tolerated, but they ignore one thing, the pain will gradually fade with the passage of time, so when they really face that kind of pain, how desperate they feel, if this story originally chose to solve it, I believe that there should be no follow-up so many stories, sometimes when faced with pain for a long time, some people will hold a kind of luck psychology, has been hurting for so long, then it hurts again, maybe it's good, it can't hurt in vain, so it means that you know that it's not right or want to continue to gamble, and you always think that you can win in the end, this is the psychology of people, sometimes people are very smart, but sometimes people are too smart, and sometimes I think this is human nature!

So sometimes in the face of that kind of stubbornness, I can't hear other people's opinions at all, I am helpless, of course, I also have stubborn times, I do something whether it is right or wrong, I will have a result, this is a little bit of everyone's character, so some things know that it is not right but continue to be just a personal character, I understand the luck psychology of all people, because I know in my heart that it is wrong, but I always think that God or Buddha is on my side, and then gamble, the final outcome is always a bit unexpected, but sometimes it makes sense to think about it!

The reason why we can't control the things that we think is wrong is probably because we still have too much desire for it, and when we really lose interest in it in the future, we may be able to solve it, and there is nothing to worry about, but at this time, what will we become?

Sometimes things that are not right can be persevered, and although they are wrong, we can learn from them and improve ourselves. However, there are some things, but when we find that something is wrong, we should immediately and resolutely stop, otherwise after a long time, we will only fall deeper and deeper, and eventually harm ourselves.

Not long ago, while chatting with one of my seniors, he told me something that really impressed me. One night, he went to the laboratory to do an elective physics experiment, which was supposed to be a small matter that was done according to the process in the booklet. But because my senior didn't look carefully at the experimental process before doing the experiment, but when it came time to actually do it, he really did it wrong, and after a while, in fact, without the teacher's words, he clearly realized that he had done a wrong step before, but it was not good to give up halfway, so he decided to finish the experiment.

He didn't know what the end up would be, but he persevered, and he told me that not only would he avoid making this mistake in the future, but he would also be more comfortable doing that experiment in the future.

I have been addicted to the Internet since junior high school, and I remember staying up late every day to watch at that time, which not only damaged my eyes, but also damaged my body and delayed my studies. We all know very well that once we indulge in something, we will find that time flies very quickly. I was like that at that time, I would see the second half of the night as soon as I saw **.

At that time, my academic performance declined, and I naturally understood that this was wrong, but because of the lack of self-discipline, I often couldn't control myself, and the final result was also harmful.