Do you complain about your parents because you come from a poor and humble background?

I don't dislike your parents for being poor, I dislike your parents for being poor, you are still reasonable, you think you are poor because you sent me to study, God knows, you have me in your thirties, you didn't plan well in the previous decades, worked hard, and were picky about eating and drinking, and didn't save half a penny, and blamed me for everything.

To be honest, I disliked. When I was a child, I loved my parents very much, even if the conditions were average. However, when I grew up, I saw the gap between myself and other people's families, especially when I had dreams but didn't have the money to make the most basic preparations, and I began to dislike them. I don't want to touch my parents too much. I'm terrible, right?

Yes They often say that I am inferior to whoever I am, but they never look at the reasons of other people's families. I once laughed at me that everyone went abroad to study, why didn't I go? I actually feel so sad that our family has the money to let me out?

Parents have no ability, the biggest feeling is that they have been discriminated against by relatives since they were young, and all the delicious food and drink bought at home cannot be moved because they have to give it away. I have to give a lot of money and buy a lot of gifts for the holidays, but no one has ever come to my house, and no one has ever sent anything to our family, including relatives, because our family has no value.

Yes, to be honest, the longest thought lasted 5 seconds, because I knew that I had to rely on myself, I wanted to grow, I needed to be independent, I couldn't decide who my parents were, but I could decide, to say to myself to give up, I would always just talk, I still had to cheer up, I knew that my parents loved me, this was enough, I didn't try to convince them, of course it was the best, but I just wanted to be independent and strong and live happily and brightly.

Lack of ability is objective, and dislike or dislike is subjective. In other words, parents who are incapable are incompetent, and poor are poor, but you can dislike them or not.

I'm disgusted right now. My family doesn't have a car, and my parents don't drive. There are no trains, no high-speed rail, and no planes in my county.

Tomorrow there is an urgent matter to go to a place that is more than an hour's drive away. What to do? I thought it would be nice to go to the bus station and take the bus, but it might be delayed.

It's too expensive to take a taxi. Parents wanted relatives and friends to drive us there. As a result, they all happened to be out of time.

So, my family had a fight over this matter. The root cause is not because there is no car, because it is poor, because it has no ability.

Yes, when I was forced to take the civil service examination in a public institution, I especially felt that they were useless, and I had to do some unrealistic things if I was useless. If I had this ability, I would have been 211 a long time ago, and besides, I have no ability, otherwise I will arrange for me to go in casually, I will only say, you look at who is who is admitted to the single unit, I want to say that you look at who has bought a villa.

It's not my family! There has been no change in more than ten years, the furniture at home is still the last century, and I am sad every day looking at the broken furniture in my home! But that's how they don't want to go, and they think it's good.

I asked them why they didn't want to develop, and he said, "That's what I'm going to do." The point is that they also have a mindset that is, worse than worse! When I occasionally complain about my family, they always say that there are more people who are poorer than us, and some of them are of good use, you must know that they are satisfied!

It's not terrible that parents don't have the ability, but I'm afraid that they don't realize that they don't have the ability and like to blindly command and force the next generation to do stupid things.

I didn't dislike them for being incompetent, but I hated them for ruining my life because they thought they were smart, and they still want to control me.

Because he has no ability, he expects to have children and daughters to improve his life, but he finds that the life of his children is not good, so he dislikes it.

But this is also the case, if his parents are poor, but the parents have been working hard for the children to go to school, giving the best to the children, and the child thinks his parents are poor, then the child has this kind of thinking is very wrong. Therefore, it depends on what kind of occasion the child has to look at whether this kind of psychology is normal or not.

In fact, sometimes parents like to compare their children with other children, and if they think that other children are better than their own children, they will say how good others are, and count how bad their own children are. If their family is poor, it will make the child have a comparative mentality. He may feel that his parents are very nagging, and some parents are very rich and very good to their children, and he may dislike his parents for being poorer.

This is because the starting point is relatively low, maybe most people's starting point is at the starting line, some people have gone forward a lot, and some people have gone backwards a lot.

If you think too much, parents from poor families do not resent their children for not having the ability, but will feel that they are not capable and have not given themselves a good life.

Summary. It's a very sad thing to be disliked by your own parents! Even if you really don't want to make progress and don't want to be motivated, parents should give their children more encouragement and more correct guidance, which is the responsibility of parents, rather than giving their own children and disliking them first!

It's a very sad thing to be disliked by your self-deferred parents! Even if you really don't want to make progress and don't want to be motivated, parents should also give their children more encouragement and give their children more correct guidance, which is the responsibility of parents, rather than having children born by themselves, and they should first read and dislike them!

Low self-esteem won't solve the problem! If you have been stuck in this kind of gloomy thoughts, always feel that your parents look down on you, and then you also start to think that you yourself are incompetent, then the end must be, you will become more and more incompetent, and you will become more and more inferior! Because, you are powerless to resist the weight of the present Bishi brought to you!

So, let go of this bend and tell yourself that your parents are just carrying you to Earth, and their mission is over! It's up to you to go wherever you go!

Low self-esteem, because of the lack of some aspect of the individual, feel that they are inferior to others.

Psychologically speaking, low self-esteem refers to a kind of comparative psychology caused by one's inferiority to others in some aspects (height, appearance, family environment, work), and then leads to negative emotions such as sadness and depression due to the effect of comparison.

My neighbor is a girl born in the 90s, known as Rui'er. Because his family was poor, he came out to work after finishing secondary school. Unlike other post-90s generations, she has no opinions of her own, and she has a deep sense of inferiority.

After graduating from secondary school, her parents told her that her family could not afford to go to college with your sister at the same time, or you would not go to school. So she gave up the opportunity to go to college and came out to work for her sister to go to college.

She now basically has an income of nearly 100,000 yuan a year, which is relatively high in this third-tier city. And the inferiority complex in her bones is not decreasing at all.

Once, after dinner, she came to my house to chat. Inadvertently, we talked about the process of decorating the house and buying furniture and appliances when it first came down. So she pointed to my furniture and appliances and asked me the price.

This group of cabinets is more expensive, more than 6,000. The coffee table is about 1300. Probably because of the solid wood, so it's not cheap. "When I bought furniture at that time, because I ran multiple furniture markets, I was able to shop around, so I naturally remembered the price more deeply.

I bought the whole set of furniture, and it was less than 6,000 yuan, you are really rich. Ruier said. In fact, in Rui'er's heart, the criterion for judging whether she has money or not is whether she spends more than her.

I bought the washing machine when Gome Electric was engaged in activities, about 1700. I found the boss of Gree for the air conditioner, and finally it was 300 yuan lower than the market price, and I bought it for 1900. I recounted them one by one.

When Rui'er heard these numbers, her eyes lit up, and she seemed to have finally found the person who was inferior to her. She said proudly: "My air conditioner and washing machine are bought for more than 3,000 yuan. ”

People with low self-esteem usually look for self-confidence, which is to gain a sense of superiority in comparison with others, and then find self-confidence.

Disliking one's parents for being poor reflects the deep inferiority complex and lack of security in people's hearts.

In the face of their parents' poverty, most people show distress, while some people show disgust. This is especially true in today's social environment where comparisons are serious.

I read such a story two days ago, a mother is afraid that her child will grow up alone, and in order to reduce the burden of supporting her parents in the future, after the opening of the two-child policy, she gave birth to a second child at the age of more than 40. To tell the truth, women of this age, when they are middle-aged, old and young, are about to enter menopause, and their bodies are also going downhill. At such an age, raising a second child is a very hard thing to do, and it also requires a lot of courage.

One day, Dabao forgot to bring textbooks when he went to school, and after his mother found out, she was afraid that her child would be embarrassed by no books in class, so she wanted to send the books to the child. But no one watched Erbao, and my mother was anxious. tried his best to put Erbao to sleep, but he was afraid that Erbao would wake up and no one would care, so he hurriedly didn't care about changing clothes, and went to Dabao School to deliver textbooks after wearing home clothes.

I thought that the child would be very happy to see his mother go to deliver books, but when the child saw his mother appear at the door of the classroom, he walked to his mother very angrily, dragged his mother for a long distance, and then blamed his mother for coming to school dressed like this? It's just a shame! After speaking, he snatched the textbook from his mother's hand, turned around and left.

Mom froze in place, tears rolling in her eyes. At this time, I suddenly remembered the two treasures at home, hurriedly wiped away my tears, and went home to the two treasures in a hurry.

Indeed, each of us likes to see our parents look well-dressed and extraordinary. But life backgrounds are different, life experiences are different, poverty and wealth are not something that can be changed by thinking about others.

As children of parents, we can have low self-esteem, but we cannot dislike them. We can't compare with money, but we can compare with effort and ability. We can also make our parents live a rich life in the future through our own efforts, and let ourselves live a rich life, so that our children will no longer have low self-esteem.

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