What to do about this? I still can t untie the knot in my heart.

After reading this passage of yours, I can feel the pain and sorrow in your heart, and sympathy and pity welled up in my heart. Although I can't put myself in my shoes to help you, I can't personally experience such a seemingly unfair relationship, let alone do it. But all I can tell you is:

You have to be strong. It is not difficult to analyze that what you are writing about is a bizarre experience, and "she" is your stepmother. I don't know when such a combination started, and I don't know when your first conflict happened from **, but I can clearly understand that you are now similar to a wild goose with wet wings from the rain, and you want to fly as hard as you can to catch up with the team ahead, but you can't catch up, and you urgently need someone to help you.

What I can tell you is that there are many kinds of friends, but there may not be a friend who can participate in this kind of problem. It's hard for a clean official to cut off family affairs!

I don't know what else to say other than telling you to be strong and learn to be independent! Let me show you a little story! It should be an idiom allusion called "the dry fish":

During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, there was a man named Zhuangzi, whose family was very poor. In order to make a living, he went far to borrow grain from the Marquis of Jianhe, but the Marquis of Jianhe said, "Okay, can I lend you 300 gold when I receive the land rent?"

Zhuangzi was very angry when he saw that the Marquis of Jianhe was unwilling to lend him grain immediately, and immediately said with a sudden change in his face: "On my way here yesterday, I heard a voice calling, so I approached the cry and saw that there was a carp in the rut where the wheels had run over. I asked

What are you doing here, O carp? "When the carp saw me, he begged me bitterly: 'I have come from the East China Sea and have been trapped here, do you have a bucket or a liter of water?'

Okay, I'll go and lobby the king of Wuyue to dig a canal and bring water here to save you, okay? When he heard this, he was very angry and said, 'I'm stuck here, I just need a bucket or a liter of water, so if you say so, you might as well come to the shop that sells dried fish and find me earlier.'"

Not sure what this story can bring you!? But I hope you can understand that since you have grown up, you should learn to be independent on your own, and you should be stronger. Don't:

Don't hold a grudge against your parents, they naturally have their own thoughts and difficulties. If you want, you can find a suitable time to have a good chat with her and talk to her heart. There's not a lot of communication between you.

Although there is a pimple in my heart.

But don't hate her.

Because hatred only makes itself more miserable.

If you see her, you will make yourself sad.

Then avoid meeting her.

We can't change the people and things around us.

Only we can change.

It will be fine after a long time.

Don't say they're your adoptive parents.

Even if it's biological parents.

That's what happens, too.

Embrace her with a generous heart.

We did everything we could.

We just have peace of mind.

No matter what, she has raised you, but she should not complain about you too much, and people should be grateful. Didn't you say that she was worried that her efforts would not be rewarded? Then you will prove it to her with your actions?

Action is the best proof of this, so why say so much? There is a kind, kind side in the heart of any person. You will always be moved, and you have to try not to give up.

When I'm unhappy, I want to relax in many ways, for exampleTalk to friends, go out for a run, eat something, adjust your mentality, and want to open up a little

I think if you want to untie the knotIt's a great way to talk to a friend. Because friends are friends because they can be with you and comfort you when you are unhappy. I think if you can talk to your friendsI think your friends will definitely be able to figure it out for you.

2. Self-digestion

Not all people have friends to talk to, I think, yesRegulate yourself through self-digestion. For example, going to the playground for two laps, having a big meal, and going out to see the scenery can really be solved.

Sometimes a lot of worries are because we think too much, so I think we can adjust our mentality and think less about unhappy thingsIt's not about thinking about something happy, so that your mood will be unraveledThere are no worries in the world, and I can think about them very much every day, so there are troubles.

If you can't get out of the knot, it will affect all aspects of your life, and even have a negative impact on work and study. This situation needs to be resolved in a timely manner, and can be resolved through three methods: confiding, diverting attention, and seeking help from a psychologist, as seen in the following four points:

1. Confide. When we have a knot in our hearts, we can confide in those close to us, express our unhappiness and knots, and seek help and understanding from others. Avoiding digesting emotions on your own can make knots more difficult to unravel.

2. Divert attention.

If the knot is temporarily difficult to untie. Then shift your attention first and avoid letting it continue to expand and affect your life. You can go out for a short trip, temporarily stay away from the environment and people that make you feel knots, and wait for your emotions to calm down slowly, and then go to untie the knots rationally.

3. Seek help from a psychologist.

If you can't untie your knot by diverting your attention and your relatives and friends, you need the help of a professional psychologist to intervene in your declining mood and find a correct way out and solution.

4. Try not to deliberately open the knot when the knot cannot be opened, otherwise it will aggravate the psychological problem.

Adjust your mentality, treat life and work with a natural attitude, and correctly handle the relationship with others.

Try to overcome the prejudice of others in your heart, don't deliberately recall the unpleasant experience, and slowly forget the previous unpleasantness.

You can also take the initiative to show favor to each other, and open your hearts to each other through emotional communication and scene reproduction, which helps to open up the knot.

The heart knot is a psychological state, which refers to the knots that cannot be untied in the heart, the things that cannot be let go of in the heart, and the depression that the heart suffers, which is commonly referred to as a heart disease.

I believe that everyone has it, and everyone will have their own different experiences, circumstances, and stories.

Once you have a knot, then you might as well take it slowly, although it is impossible to let go of it at once, but you must understand that life is short, the world is impermanent, and the most important thing is to let yourself live a happy life.

You have to try, or find a way, to open your heart knot, sometimes the heart knot is like a grain of sand in your shoes, you have to face it bravely, and only you can pour it out.

When you have a knot that you can't untie, you don't have to travel lightly, use your brains, and liberate yourself. Find old friends, old colleagues, old classmates, in short, and people who can get along and talk together, talk about their hearts, exchange their feelings about each other, and maybe they can feel a good solution from it, so that the knot can be untied smoothly.

Talk to friends, chat, people can't always live in their own world. Trapping yourself there, your friends can only be your heart knots, and when you come into contact with your friends, other people's mental outlook will affect you, and positive emotions are contagious.

In life, treat others as well as possible, do not do or let you regret the things that you regret, treat yourself as well as possible, treat the unhappiness of the past naturally, do not deliberately think about it, and do not deliberately forget it. Perhaps, as we grow older, the years go by, and we continue to cultivate, new and beautiful things will fill the memory inventory, and those old obsolete injuries will be buried and eliminated little by little.

I'll shift my mind, let things buffer, and let go of my obsessions.

It is inevitable to encounter some things in life that cannot be solved, or knots in the heart. If it still can't be solved, just put it aside, don't think about it, and let it be!

Talk to your best friend or family member, and if you don't have the above, try to write it down. When the time comes, you may be able to untie your heart.

If you can't solve it, you have to think about it.

Summary. Hello, what should I do if I can't open the knot of affection? 1.Your own world has become bigger 2Learn to put the problem in perspective3Make sure you get enough sleep.

What to do if you have an emotional knot that you can't untie.

Hello, what should I do if I can't open the knot of affection? 1.Your own world has become bigger 2Learn to put the problem in perspective3Make sure you get enough sleep.

1.Make your world bigger: The reason why some people feel that they are trapped in a certain kind of relationship and can't extricate themselves is actually a manifestation of a relatively small circle, some circles of larger communication, experts often do not spend time and energy on these things, and if their circle is very small, almost no one talks to themselves every day, then they will naturally trap themselves in this emotion and cannot extricate themselves.

If you are in this state of excessive sadness for a long time, it is easy for people to develop mental illness, so it is recommended that some people who feel that they have a knot that cannot be opened should learn to make more friends, make their circle bigger, and make their world bigger.

2. Learn to look at problems correctly: The reason why people have knots is that in fact, there are always some things that have not been thought through, for example, some people will fall into emotional panic because they are abandoned, and they dare not start the next relationship, and for example, some people can no longer communicate with other people normally because they have been bullied on campus, and they are not willing to be friends with other people. Blame all the problems on someone else's fault. Some people may have been hurt, but they should still learn to look at the problem correctly, learn to look forward, and should also deal with the problem positively, instead of choosing to run away forever.

3.Ensure your sleep time: If you are in this state of excessive anxiety and excessive sadness every day, then many people's physical fitness will become worse and worse, and some people who have heart knots that cannot be opened will always feel that they are overly depressed, and have obvious symptoms of paleness, in fact, this is a manifestation of people's physical problems.

It is recommended that some people who are not very good in physical fitness and often like to think cranky can spend more time doing what they like to do every day, so that they can try to be in a state of not being excited, and maintain sufficient sleep every day.

1.Seek professional help: Professionals such as psychologists, psychologists, and social workers can provide effective and support.

2.Build a support system: Build a good relationship with family, friends, colleagues, etc., share your feelings and experiences, and get their support and understanding.

3.Learn relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, etc., which can help relieve anxiety and stress.

4.Develop a healthy lifestyle: Maintaining good eating, sleeping, and exercise habits can help improve physical and mental health.

5.Looking for a sense of self-worth: Through study, work, volunteer activities, etc., Suijian discovers her own strengths and values, and improves her self-confidence and self-esteem.

6.Accept past experiences: Accept your past and don't deny or run away from it, but learn to face and deal with it.

The above are some of the best methods of psychological trauma, but everyone's situation is different, and you need to choose the right method according to your actual situation. If the situation is serious, it is advisable to seek professional help in a timely manner.

Self-exploration: You can start exploring your knots on your own, understanding your emotions and thoughts, and finding solutions to your problems.

Acceptance and tolerance: Accepting your past and present, and being tolerant of your own flaws and mistakes, can make you better let go of your knots and look forward.

Whichever method you choose, it will take patience and time to ** yourself. Remember, self-determination is not a long process, but as long as you are determined to work towards your goals, you will be able to succeed.

For the heart knot that can never be untied, to ** yourself, you can take the following measures:

1.Accept this fact. The first thing to do is to accept the existence of this knot and the fact that it can never be completely untied. Only by accepting it can we gradually transcend it. Failure to accept it will only exacerbate the pain and plunge oneself into endless regret and self-blame.

2.Examine rationally and resolve self-blame. You need to make an effort to look at the relevant events with a rational eye and resolve unrealistic self-blame for yourself.

We can't control everything, and sometimes an outcome is inevitable. Understanding this can help you feel guilty in your heart.

3.Reinvent your outlook on life. In the face of the knot, you may feel that life is meaningless and the future is bleak.

At this time, you need to work hard to reshape your outlook on life and find new meaning and value. Regaining new hobbies and making new life plans can slowly fill the gaps in your heart.

4.Make your heart knot a part of your life. Normalize the existence of this knot and accept it as a part of a period of life that you go through, just like any other stage of your life.

It used to belong to me, but it no longer defines me. This mindset of positive guessing and normalizing auspiciousness helps it fade out of the center of life and no longer become an obstacle to everything.

5.Talk to the knot and express yourself. Have a direct conversation with this knot and express all the emotions inside, including regret, anger, pain, and so on. Externalizing it helps to understand it and then transcend it. This is also a technique commonly used in psychology.

6.Focus on the present moment and appreciate the good side of life. Don't let the knot in your heart get in the way of everything in front of you.

Learn to focus on the present moment and enjoy the good side of life. Instead of struggling with regret and pain, it is better to find a glimmer of life and hope in reality. This process can slowly expand the spike and eventually transcend the shadow caused by the heart knot.

7.Develop the ability to soothe yourself. Understand that some regrets in life can never be remedied, and the only way to find solace is to gain strength through yourself. Cultivating the serenity of being alone, the ability to talk to yourself, can fill in some eternal voids in your life.

To sum up, the knot that can never be untied can only be transcended through rationality and adjustment. Accept its existence, dissolve self-blame, reshape the outlook on life, normalize it, talk to it and find meaning in real life, and finally cultivate the power of self-comfort. This requires both rationality and emotion to ultimately awaken the eternal hope in life.