I beg you to give me advice, I don t know how our marriage should continue

What happened in the marriage? There will be all kinds of problems in marriage, after all, it is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, so contradictions are indispensable. So the main thing is to see if the solution is the right way, if you understand and tolerate each other, then everything is easy to do, if no one gives in to each other, do not bow your head, then the problem will only be ossified, and even the resentment will get deeper and deeper, like a time bomb, which will be ** at any time, causing a marriage crisis.

Therefore, we should treat everything in moderation, try to solve problems as much as possible, and do not accumulate.

You and your wife have a good talk. Marriage is a matter of two people, and running a family is also a matter of two people. Communication is important.

You first arrange the child at your mother-in-law's house or grandma's house. Then, think about what to talk about with your wife first, don't get excited when you encounter problems halfway, and calm down first. If she is perfunctory and unengaged, I think you should calm down.

Separate for a while and see if both of you figure it out. Economic ability is one thing, family is one thing, both are to be paid by two people together, it can be a little less for one party, but it is not that it does not pay, because anyone who fights alone all the time will be tired. Don't rush to solve this problem right away, there is no way to solve it right away.

Secondly, you also have to prepare for the worst, if you don't end up together, what problems do you need to face? What about the children? In any case, communication is the first step in a family, speak calmly, speak with facts, do not bring emotions, emotions will not solve any problems, will only intensify the conflict.

And life is forward, not to deny the credit of what has been done in the past, but not to live in the past all the time.

I think your marriage is over, there is no need to continue, a marriage and a family are maintained by both sides, it takes two people to manage carefully, in order to live happily, now look at your life, just like you said a mess, as a woman, don't work, don't ask at home, don't care about children, indulge in their own games every day, talk and don't listen, live like a worm. It's my words that I don't think there is any need to continue this marriage and end it early.

It's not easy for a man, it's even more difficult to meet a woman who doesn't know how to feel sorry for you, it is recommended that the two of you find a suitable time to communicate calmly, talk about your thoughts, feel that she is dissatisfied with some parts of you and have opinions, the home is for two people, you should work together, understand and tolerate each other to be harmonious and happy.

There are a lot of such people, social phenomenon, if you think you can't accept it, then you can divorce, but you have to consider two children, your divorce hurts the most or the children, divorce is not a trivial matter. Be cautious, you can talk to her, and if she also wants to divorce then you must have an account for the child. Otherwise, it will ruin the child's life.

If you don't want to divorce, then you don't have to work overtime, always work overtime to clean up the housework, manage the children, there is a return for paying, a family must see two people to maintain, and the family can be prosperous.

Sit down and talk about business intentions, now that you have a family, you have to come up with a good way to live a better life. Otherwise, you can only get a divorce. Men have to work to earn money to support their families, and women have to take care of the affairs of the family when they are not working at home.

I don't know how old the child is, if possible, the woman is looking for something to do near home, so that she will not hold her mobile phone, and whoever is free to do housework should not worry too much about housework. As long as you work hard, this home will get better and better.

I understand your mood very well, the daughter-in-law's "mobile phone disease" is more serious, which has affected the normal life of the family. In addition to the reason for personal intemperance, this is not unrelated to the "expansion" of mobile phone functions, which seems to be "overnight", regardless of gender, young and old, regardless of time and place, mobile phones do not leave their hands.

Suggestion: Make some preparations and communicate well. can't expect to stop playing with mobile phones all of a sudden, you can guide her to pay attention to the "Child Cultivation and Education" and "Healthy Family Life" (**) columns; At the same time tell:

Looking at your phone for a long time can make you feel haggard, wrinkled, and accelerate aging. You can prepare some expert analysis materials on this content, so that she is afraid that uncontrolled mobile phone play will affect her appearance.

Can you continue to discuss, you can't separate until you have to, you are discussing and discussing that if you don't go to work at home, clean up your home, don't keep immersed in the live broadcast, it will also bring bad children, you should be able to continue to live this after you discuss it, in fact, she is also working hard to make money in live broadcasting, but there is no progress. Once a little fan makes more money than you. It is good to discuss and discuss family conflicts and not escalate into a broken home.

Typical mobile phone disease, you have to plan a holiday trip, arrange some other meaningful activities, children can be handed over to the elderly for a period of time, to help them find a job, for ordinary people, once living in a self-centered world is terrible, so have to go to relatives and friends, looking for opportunities, instilling hope, stimulating morale, people in a difficult environment will think about how to get out of the predicament.

You two should have a good talk. Talk calmly, tell the stakes, she doesn't care about you, but the child must be managed, I think people can't live without a mobile phone now, you have to play properly, manage the family well, and no one can say you when the child sleeps and then plays. For the sake of the children, let's have a good time.

The home is maintained by two people, not one person, dirty and messy! Why don't you take care of it, she gave you two children, did she work hard for you to replace it? If a woman does everything, what do you want a man to do, it seems that you are also an incompetent person, if your ability is enough, take care of the nanny!

Don't complain.

You should communicate more, be reasonable, you can't be so nothing, this is a home? What is that like normal family life? If it continues, then get a divorce and start a new life!

It is recommended that you communicate with her formally. Talk about life, talk about the future. If you really can't communicate, then forget it. For the sake of their own happiness. Happiness for children.

Such a housewife is too much, and she can't stand it on anyone, so I suggest that you enlighten her more that she must have two children, and the marriage still has to go on.

If this situation cannot be improved, we will resolutely divorce, and we cannot continue to hurt like this. Only divorce can free you.

If the marriage is not good, you can also choose again, now that the marriage is free, don't wronged yourself for various reasons, because life has passed in a hurry for decades.

The Tao is different, don't conspire with each other, you really haven't done anything, you think it's all what she should do, she won't do it and you will collapse, or don't live together, you are really not suitable.

Such a woman is terrible, selfish and can't see your contribution, you can use divorce to scare her, only if she realizes her mistakes can she change.

Looking at what you write, I feel that you are a woman with culture and a sense of life. The main reason why your marriage is in the current state is that your husband, your problem is that he didn't ask for it from the beginning, so that he always feels that he is right now, and you should talk about it seriously.

You feel like you can't get on with it and get divorced, and it's not uncommon for you to get divorced now.

People are greedy and want pie in the sky. Dreaming of getting a gold bar and getting rich overnight. With Wei Ya, Li Jiaqi's generation was born, and the online live broadcast is known as the outlet of ordinary people. Standing in the tuyere, pigs can fly.

Brushing live broadcasts every day, listening to the so-called live classes that earn tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of live broadcasts every day, this is to make money from people who want to make money, and they will cut leeks. It's the same as when you were successful, you pay to listen to my class, you don't know if you're successful, anyway, the lecturer is successful.

Everyone brings goods, who is the buyer. Every day, my head is full of all kinds of anchors who make a lot of money, believing that the next Internet celebrity is me, and it's time to wake up.