What makes a good marriage?

There is no perfect marriage in the world, but a good marriage generally includes the following characteristics.

First: This is a marriage that is evenly matched

In a good marriage, I don't need to climb you, and you don't have to bow down to me. We are at the same height, we can share firewood, rice, oil and salt, and we can also enjoy the fog and neon together.

Many people may have some one-sided understanding of "parity". thinks that if you earn 100,000 yuan, I will also earn 100,000 yuan, it is called a close match, but in fact, this is just a way of manifestation. You have ambition, I have iron armor and steel fist is a close match; You have strength, I have tenderness, and it is another kind of equalization.

Second: This is a marriage in which two people give and support each other.

An unhappy marriage usually stems from excessive demands on the other party, or from unprincipled efforts to the other party. A good marriage must be for me to remember what you think and you think about what I love. The two care about each other and are satisfied with each other.

You are sad and frustrated, I am your backer; I'm sad and sad, and you can be my harbor. This kind of relationship is a virtuous circle.

If you don't have a sense of gratitude for my efforts, then I should also do it in time, "If you are ruthless, I will leave". <

Third: This is a marriage that can speak well.

Marriage is a long road, no matter how happy a marriage is, it can't avoid bumps and bumps, and it is very important to be able to speak well when encountering things. For example, on the issue of the elderly, on the issue of children's education, and on the issue of differences in the career development of the two people, the two can sit down, discuss countermeasures together, and finally find a balance, so that it is most beneficial to the interests of the family. If both parties feel that each party has their own reasons, and both parties do not communicate, it is easy to bury hidden dangers in the family relationship.

To sum up, Warren Buffett said that marriage is the biggest investment in a person's life, so in order to maximize the benefits of this investment, please be sure to manage your marriage carefully.

First of all, you got married because of love. A marriage without love is not happy, so the premise of a good marriage is that your union is because of love. No one can tolerate the fact that someone they don't love can sleep with him for decades, so only love can make the marriage between you last longer, and only a marriage where love exists can be a good marriage.

Second, you are both willing to give for each other. When you decide to get married, it means that you have made the decision to pay for each other for the rest of your life. Marriage is a matter of mutual giving.

Only one person gives silently, and the other person asks for it unlimitedly, such a marriage cannot be called a good marriage, and she cannot grow for a long time. <>

Then you both trust each other, and a marriage without trust is like a plate of sand, and any wind and grass can make it fall apart. Believe that each other will not do anything to be sorry for each other, and believe in what is in each other's hearts. Believe in him as a person.

With the existence of trust, your relationship can be more stable. Such a marriage is considered a good marriage.

No matter what the problem is, you will work together to solve it. No one will abandon anyone, and they both believe that no matter how big the difficulty is, as long as two people work together to solve it, any difficulty is not terrible. Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and the marriage that flies separately when the disaster comes is definitely not a good marriage.

All the efforts you make are made to make your common home better and better. Conflicts will inevitably arise between husband and wife, but when there is a conflict, you will not choose to ignore it and run away from it. It's about communicating in a timely manner and solving it.

A good marriage is one in which there is something to say about each other. You are willing to talk together and discuss each other's thoughts.

Many people are looking forward to their marriage, thinking that they have a happy family, I have experienced the divorce of my parents, I hope that I have a harmonious family, this is what I have dreamed of for these years, so the question is, what kind of marriage is a good marriage, I think there are the following characteristics.

The first feature is that the husband and wife will quarrel, but after the quarrel, the two people will still live a normal life, and the relationship will be better. A good marriage must have quarrels, if there is no quarrel in a marriage, I think this is not a marriage with love, but like a marriage with interests, quarrels are the catalyst for the enhancement of feelings in marriage.

I think there will be some small quarrels between the husband and wife in a happy marriage, just like the little story I saw some time ago, a couple quarreled, two people quarreled very fiercely because of something, and then the two people almost fought, and then the boy asked what the girl wanted to eat before going out, and then the girl said one casually, this quarrel not only resolved the contradiction, but also made the relationship between the two people stronger.

The second characteristic is to treat both parents as if they were their own parents. Treat your lover's parents as if they were your own parents, respect your lover's parents, and let your lover not be embarrassed in front of his wife or parents.

The third feature is that both husband and wife have their own hobbies and jobs. In marriage, both people have jobs and their own hobbies, which not only avoids the conflict between two people all day long, but also increases the thoughts of two people about each other.

The fourth characteristic is that they will have breakfast together every morning and dinner in the evening, and they are in contact all day, knowing that each other is in love with each other and accompanying them. I think the happiest marriage is when two people get up together every morning to eat and then kiss each other and confess, no matter how many years of marriage will not change this situation.

Understand each other, support each other, and respect each other like guests, such a marriage is more complete.

Everyone's marriage is different, I think as long as you can get along well, think about each other in everything, and give in to each other in conflicts, it is the best marriage.

When it comes to the quality of marriage, men may think of home and prosperity, and women may think of it if they were a good mother-in-law. In other words, the quality of a marriage is largely related to the quality of the relationship between people. Of course, in addition to the maintenance of relationships, it is inevitable that the family economy will be satisfied.

In other words, a good marriage, the first must have a harmonious family relationship, and the second is the economic foundation, and a marriage that satisfies these two points is a good marriage.

There are many harmonious family relationships, such as husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, parents and children, and the most important of them is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often arise, and how to avoid them is a problem. When something happens, how to adjust the relationship is also very crucial.

You don't have to be preconceived and set any mother-in-law to only make things difficult for her daughter-in-law by default. As a mother-in-law, you should not be static, the times are changing, you should also understand young people more, and don't do everything according to your own standards. Only by continuing to run in and being tolerant can we become a real family.

It's just that sometimes contradictions can't be avoided, and how to adjust it depends on the woman's liking of men. Generally speaking, the palms and backs of the hands are full of meat, and as a wife, you don't have to let your husband do multiple choice questions, so it's meaningless. Of course, I can't let my wife be wronged.

It is necessary to speak according to the situation, change the topic, and resolve the contradictions. A family, no matter how good a marriage is, there are more or less disputes, so there is no need to panic, solve difficulties, and understand each other, so that they can become stronger and stronger.

In addition, one of the factors that endangers marriage is probably the family economy. For a family, daily expenses are inevitable, but in reality, many family conflicts are caused by lack of finance.

In addition to daily life expenses, there are too many places where money must be used, and in many cases, it is not easy for couples to change too much in each other's income, so they must learn to allocate resources effectively, and only then can they live better and better. There is also a reserve fund that must be set aside just in case. Running a marriage is its own, and if you need to get it right, you have to work a little both fronts.

You must have your own principles in life, and you must treat your other half very well, and do not cheat on each other, you should also pay attention to your feelings for each other, and you should have more time to do some good things, so that you can make your relationship better and your marriage happier.

The husband and wife must trust each other, think about each other, and the husband and wife must also create more surprises for each other, so as to make a marriage as good as possible.

The husband and wife must communicate effectively, the two people must trust each other, do not always suspect each other, and do a good job in these two aspects in order to have a good marriage.

A good marriage: Accept each other's shortcomings and appreciate each other's strengths. In this world, the hardest thing is to change a person. As the saying goes: the country is easy to change, but the temperament is difficult to change.

Many of us make the same mistake in marriage: always confident that we will change the other person and that the other half will change for our own sake.

**。When Luo Xiaobei and He Chunsheng first got married in the TV series "Mendi", they both confidently believed that they could change each other, but they ignored the difference in growth environment and education level, and the two people had different views on many issues. He Chunsheng didn't understand the difference between instant coffee and the coffee shop, and what was the difference between the orange juice he bought and the freshly squeezed orange juice.

Every time Luo Xiaobei paid his salary, he would give Chunsheng a lot of money for daily expenses. She always thought that as long as she had enough money, Chunsheng would change her habit of slamming the door. But he didn't bury Xun and knew that the inferiority complex and dignity in Chunsheng's bones could not be changed.

The two of them later went through many twists and turns, and Luo Xiaobei finally realized such a truth: After going through many things, I now understand that the main obstacle between me and Chunsheng is not you and Ma Xiaolong, but the deep-rooted concept of absoluteness. Not only us, but everyone around us knows it.

This notion has cast a shadow over our marriage of unhappiness, and what we have done over the years has been more of a struggle than a breakthrough. Because we are subconsciously, we have a premonition of the unhappiness of marriage. That's why there is an episode between you and Bruce Ma.

And we re-attribute this episode to the concept of the door, and then the mind goes astray. It is true that Chunsheng and I have many differences, we have different growth environments, different educations, different social status, different economic income, and consumption concepts, and there are great differences, but these differences can be run in, and the way to run in is not to blindly tolerate and accommodate, but to learn to appreciate each other, appreciate each other's character, and then get closer to each other. My biggest regret is:

By the time I really learned to appreciate the spring students, it was already too late.

**。Marital boredom begins with discovering each other's true appearance, and when two people become estranged in marriage, it starts with changing each other.

I once chatted with my eldest sister, who was a teenager earlier, and she told me that when she was in love, her husband was obedient to her. It's just that after a long time of marriage, I'm starting to become a little impatient.

will be a little critical of each other. Every time I am at home on weekends, I feel inexplicably annoyed when I see him playing games. In my mind, I always thought that playing games was not a proper job.

How could he do that? There was a time when there would often be a quarrel over this. But it still can't solve the essential problem.

No matter how hard I tried to persuade him, it was to no avail. Later, I also looked down on it, so he can play if he wants to! I tried to change my mindset.

I found that everything became clearer, and we stopped arguing. So it's hard to change a person. But it can affect one person.

In a marital relationship: learn to accept each other's shortcomings and appreciate each other's strengths. Love is not about finding a perfect person. But.

Learn to appreciate the imperfect person with a perfect eye.

I think marriage still has to pay attention to a certain right person.

1. The marriage of "the right family" is the most stable.

The formula for marital happiness is that two people are evenly matched. If there is a huge difference in the strength of two people, the strong party can maintain the face of the other party, or the weak party can not be afraid of external rumors, then the marriage can be maintained. But in reality, both of these points have stumped many people.

I have observed an interesting phenomenon in life: those marriages that are very different end in embarrassment; Those marriages that are the right ones are long-lasting.

Two people from different family backgrounds will have different lives and personalities, and all their experiences determine what kind of person he will be in the future.

The grievances suffered today will be filled elsewhere in the future; The lack that I feel now will surely be captured one day. The so-called human nature, even so. Don't go against human nature, understand it, go with it. Love can not look at the family background, marriage must be the right family.

In a marriage that is right at home, no one takes advantage of anyone, no one is wronged, no one covets interests, and naturally there are not so many hidden grenades waiting to be exploded. Only a marriage with the right family can have the possibility of long-term stability.

2. The marriage of "the right family" is the most comfortable.

There is a kind of door-to-door pair, which is called the convergence of three views. When people with the same three views are together, they will come together from all over the world, and they will never get tired of looking at each other.

The so-called right family, this does not mean that two people have equal financial resources, but because of their comparable family background, their views on things and their vision of the world will be the same. Those marriages that are comfortable with each other are just spiritual matches.

You don't have to please, you don't need to please, you know what I want to say, I understand what you mean. Such feelings are truly rare and precious. The marriage of adults is nothing more than finding someone who is comfortable with each other.

3. A marriage that is "the right person" is safer.

There is a saying: "A gentleman is not guilty, but he is guilty." This sentence is still applicable in marriage. The marriage is the right one, and it is the protection of two people.

If two people with a large gap are united into the most intimate relationship, it is giving others a reason to hurt you at will. A marriage with mismatched conditions is like a princess wearing a gorgeous dress and full of jewels walking into a commoner's house, and it is difficult not to breed the idea of taking it for herself.

A good match in this world is not only to choose the right person from the beginning, but also to choose an environment in which you cannot do evil. You don't know if you don't know if people are fickle, and you don't know if the other party is a human or a ghost.

The marriage of "the right person" can at least ensure that the other party does not pretend to be with you because he is greedy for anything.

A good marriage is fatal, and a bad marriage is deadly. "Choosing a partner is a very important thing in life, not only to keep your eyes open, but also to verify your character. In addition, it is also necessary for two people to walk in the same step, have the same three views, and grow together.