How to correctly distinguish between love and unwillingness?

Love and unwillingness, in my opinion, love is that after two people are separated, they still want the other party to be happy. Even if this happiness is not given by you, you will still smile and bless. Unwilling, that is, after the breakup, you will not be able to let go of another person, you have not thought about whether he will live a happy life, thinking that he will only be good if you have a good home, and before you have a good home, you can't see that others are not good to you.

Love is selfish, but there are also people who love just that you are doing well, just fine. My boyfriend had a crush on me when he was in junior high school, but he didn't chase me, I was with another person for a while in high school, and then broke up again, and after that, he chased me, and I agreed, and later, I said that I had a relationship in high school, and he said that he knew, and he knew it from the time I had an affair with that classmate, and I said why didn't he chase me at that time, and he said that he also thought that boy was good, and I liked it, maybe, that boy would give me happiness, and he just wanted me to be good, even if the person who was next to me was not himAs long as I'm doing well, he is even willing to watch me hold hands with the boy from a distance.

Later, I asked him, how can he be willing, after all, he has liked it for so many years, he said, in fact, I didn't feel unwilling at the time, I didn't think about it so much, I just thought, I like that boy, and that boy also likes me, so, maybe I and that boy will be happy, since I will be happy, how can he bother, he wants to give me more, better, but, since he can't give it, then let someone else replace him, take care of me, as long as I am good, even if the people around me are not him. As for himself, he said that the person he identified was me, and at that time he thought that if they couldn't be together in this life, then it didn't matter what else they had, maybe when they reached a certain age, they would find a suitable person to marry, but he gave me his love, and he could only settle down with the other half.

Luckily, later, I turned around and saw him, and it was okay, we were finally together, I don't know if we would have a lifetime, but I knew we liked each other.

He made me believe that love can really be regardless of gains and losses.

In fact, love and unwillingness, when they are just separated, are not particularly easy to distinguish clearly, because love is also a kind of possession and selfish emotion, and unwillingness is also possessive, reluctant and selfish, so if you want to distinguish between love and unwillingness, the first thing to do is to calm yourself down, and then consider who proposed it when you separated.

And what were some of the things that came to your mind after you separated? In fact, whether it is love or unwillingness, it means that the other party has a high position in your heart, and the other party is also very important to you, because if the other party is not important to you, then you will not think that you still love each other, let alone feel unwilling.

I think it takes a while to calm down, because no matter what the reason for separation, after all, you have been together for a while, and during this time of getting along you have become accustomed to his existence, people will have uneasy emotions about unfamiliar environments or new things, and when you are separated, you need to adapt to new habits, and it will be difficult for you to adapt to this new habit at this time.

So when you haven't adapted to this new habit, it's hard for you to tell whether you love each other or are unwilling to lose each other, so when you calm down and gradually adapt to not being there, you can slowly find out your feelings for him, whether it's because of love or unwillingness.

Because if you still love each other, your reluctant memories are all the good things with him, but if you are unwilling, you think more about what you have done for each other, or you will feel that why he left you and what is wrong with you sometimes.

It actually takes time to precipitate, and when it's really long enough that you think about these things and the person is no longer hysterical, and it can tend to be dull, you will think of a lot of things.

To love someone is to hope that he will live better, two people can come together, from liking, and then it will be love, when two people go together, there will always be friction, and the person who proposed to break up must first feel uncomfortable and feel inappropriate, so he will want to go separately. If two people are not suitable, they will not go smoothly in a relationship, there will be troublesome quarrels, and it will even affect the development of two people. Really love someone, even if you love him again, once you find out that he no longer loves you, or this relationship imprisons him, you will let go, although it will be uncomfortable and sad, it will be painful for a long time, but the person you love will live well, at least when he breaks up with you, he is to live better, and he also thinks that the breakup will be better, you will be happy because he is better than anyone else, although you are wronged, but love this action, the important thing should not be the subject "I", but the object "you", This object of your love is really good, this action is complete, and love will end in a beautiful form, and finally it will become "loved", and what will be left in the memory will always be beautiful.

And unwilling is another matter, the unwilling subject is "I", there is no object, this emotion is only related to myself, I like you, I have paid a lot for you, and what I want is that you are by my side, your behavior of leaving me leads to my unwillingness, I am painful, unlike love, this is a passive feeling, because what I want, was destroyed, so I am unwilling, I always hope to match the return I pay. But in the torrent of time, unwillingness will only be painful, and eventually may be forgotten, when you meet the next person who has to pay for yourself, this unwillingness will gradually subside, until you are gone, but unwilling, will always make you unable to see your ex live comfortably.

So, when your significant other gets better after breaking up with you, and you are happy from the bottom of your heart, that's love; And if you don't, you can only be unwilling to like to fall short. Whether you like it or love, if the two of you are not suitable, it is enough, the past should also pass sooner or later, instead of entangled in love or unwillingness, it is better to turn around and plunge into a new life.

Love is a deep like, if you get the other person, you will love him as always, will not fade with time, it means that you love him, but if you don't love him long after getting the other party, then it means that you are just unwilling.

"Love" is to sincerely hope that the other party will live well, and you will be happy if he is happy. "Unwilling" means that he doesn't want him to have a new relationship, and he has been living in memories and calculating.

Love is how much you miss a person, no matter what time you think about him, unwillingness is that you love her and then you don't feel together.

I think love is selfless, and love can make us be good to someone without hesitation. Unwilling to be willing to be possessive has an element of possessiveness, and it often makes people extreme.

Unwillingness should be understood as unloved, but forced to accept it by the material and other conditions of reality. And true love is unconditional, only like this person, and other material conditions are not considered.

I think in fact, what you can't forget is not necessarily that person, and what you think of when you see anything is not necessarily that person, maybe it is the self you miss and regret that you didn't want to do for love at the beginning. Maybe it's because of unwillingness that I can't let go of love! In fact, the real letting go is not only not about not meeting and not contacting.

It's about learning to let go of who you used to be.

There is still a long road in life, so long that you never know which one will come first, surprise or accident. I will never know who my future self will be by. At the end of fate, it doesn't matter whether it's love or unwillingness, letting go is liberation!

If the heart does not move, people do not move, and if they do not move, they will not be hurt!

It's not clear what it means to be emotional. But as time goes by, you will meet more people, adapt to different living environments, and one day you meet the right person, you will naturally be able to distinguish whether the previous relationship was because of unwillingness or love.

When we face setbacks and difficulties, unwillingness and love are two completely different reactions. Resignation is a negative, frustrating emotion that causes us to lose our balance and direction. On the contrary, love is a positive, uplifting emotion that can give us strength and motivation to overcome difficulties.

Unwillingness is a negative emotion that stems from distrust of one's own abilities and dissatisfaction with reality. When we encounter setbacks and failures, our mood can easily become depressed and lost. We blame ourselves for our lack of ability and ignore what we have already worked on.

This emotion can make us obsessed with past mistakes and missteps, and we can't even imagine the future.

In contrast, this love is a positive emotion that comes from the concern and love within us for someone or something. When we face adversity and challenges, love can bring out the most positive in us and fill us with hope and hope for the future. Love can stimulate our creativity and imagination, allowing us to forge ahead and meet unknown challenges.

When faced with life's difficulties and challenges, unwillingness and love are two completely different reactions. Unwilling is a negative, frustrating emotion that can make us helpless, quiet, and lost. And love is a positive, uplifting emotion that will give us strength and motivation to help us overcome difficulties and realize our self-worth.

I think liking is liking, the inner spiritual yearning and the unifying behavior of the outer body. It is understandable that it is a pity to be unwilling, perhaps because when you want to say and do what you want to do, you don't express it clearly, or for various reasons, you don't think you can express it clearly, so you don't meet your expectations. There is a story that I don't forget where it came from, and it is like this, a teacher told the students that you should go to the orchard and pick what you think is the biggest fruit, provided that you can't give up after picking it, you can't start again.

After the students finished picking the fruit, the teacher asked the students if they were satisfied with the fruit they picked, and at this time almost all the students asked to pick it again, one student said, "Teacher, I saw a big fruit when I first went in, but I thought there would be a bigger fruit in the future, so I chose to give up picking that fruit, but until I came out, I didn't see a bigger fruit than the one I just went in, so I asked to pick it again." Another student was the opposite, I picked a fruit that looked big when I went in, but when I walked along the way, I found a lot of fruit that was bigger than the one I first saw, so I asked to pick it again. This may be what you call unwillingness.

There will be no dress rehearsal in life, live in the moment.