What should I do if my child is introverted and doesn t have a partner and doesn t like to talk?

Mothers often say that their children are quiet, polite, and don't talk outside, and ask how to change their child's introverted personality. First of all, what are the manifestations of introversion? <>

1. I like to be alone and don't want to be in contact with others.

2. The attitude towards the people and things around you is relatively indifferent, and the enthusiasm for the things around you is not high.

3. Except for close friends, reluctant to contact outsiders.

So what are the causes of introversion in children?

1. Innate temperament. In Hippocrates' theory of humoral humor, Green (Galen) derives four types of human temperament, among which, the performance characteristics of mucous people: mucus is equivalent to the quiet type with strong and balanced neural activity.

People with this temperament are calm, good at restraint and forbearance, have a regular life, are not distracted by irrelevant things, work hard, have endurance, have a serious attitude, are neither humble nor arrogant, do not love empty talk, and are serious and serious; But they are not flexible enough, their attention is not easily diverted, they are conservative, and they lack enthusiasm for their careers. <>

2. Family environment. When the child is serious or has a controlling mother, the mother directly decides what the child wants to do, rather than trying to let the child do something, in such a serious and indifferent atmosphere, otherwise the child will be reprimanded, which is also easy to cause the child's timid character.

As a parent, how can you help your child change his or her introverted personality? <>

1. Encourage your child to play with extroverted children. Extroverts and introverts can help them learn the strengths of the other person's personality and make up for the flaws in their own personality.

2. Advocate taking children out for a walk more to expand children's horizons. During the trip, parents can encourage their children to participate in activities that they want to challenge but are afraid to go to, so as to increase their children's self-confidence. <>

3. Don't hit your child's self-esteem. Parents should not accuse their children of being too honest, or say in front of outsiders, "Auntie is here, don't you know how to say hello" and so on, such accusations will increase the psychological burden of the child, but will make the child more introverted.

The child's personality and personality account for 30% of the congenital genetic factors and 70% of the acquired education, so the child's cheerful personality can be cultivated.

Many mothers have such a misunderstanding, that is, when they see their children introverted, withdrawn, and do not like to talk, they think that their children's personalities are born like this, so they do not train and change them.

If the child is allowed in this way, then his personality will be more withdrawn and introverted, so the mother must pay attention to the shaping and cultivation of the child's personality.

Children who love to talk are more active, proactive, confident and individual.

Children should have the courage to say what they want to say and do what they want to do, and mothers should also insist on encouraging children to boldly express their thoughts, emotions, and wishes for a long time.

At the same time, we should also provide children with opportunities to interact independently, so that they can practice expression and experience the joy of socializing.

Of course, when the child behaves well, praise and encouragement should be given in time, and appropriate guidance should be given to promote the cultivation of the child's perfect character.

First, encourage your child to socialize with others and create opportunities for him to speak.

Second, don't do your child's own affairs, especially talking.

Arrangement will make children lose the opportunity to communicate, and will also make children lose the right to make decisions about their own affairs, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's cheerful personality.

Third, start with the small things around you and seize the opportunity to encourage your child to express himself positively.

Mom can induce her child to speak in a pleasant mood and give him positive feedback.

Fourth, if you want your child to become talkative, mothers should be prepared for the long term.

The cultivation of children's speaking ability should be persistent, and mothers should not expect their children to change in a short period of time, but should continue to let their children participate in various activities and cultivate their children through bits and pieces of daily life.

Young children do not like to talk and are introverted, and the observation records are:

1. When he first entered the park, he kept crying when he entered the park, and he had almost no self-care ability, and he was afraid to climb stairs and play slides.

2. During outdoor activities, I organize children to play with sandbags. After a series of plays, I gave everyone the freedom to find partners in pairs to play the game of "you throw me and catch it". The other children quickly found their partners and started the game.

And you stand there still. At this time, I asked Yangyang to play a game with you, and you readily agreed.

3. When I came to the kindergarten in the morning, the children all happily entered the classroom and greeted me politely. You took Daddy's hand and hid behind Daddy, not daring to speak.

4. Congcong is a little boy who usually doesn't like to talk and make trouble, his self-care ability is poor, scissors, drawing, etc. are his weaknesses, and he always likes to stay in places where the teacher doesn't pay attention.

Analysis: Judging from the case, these are children with more introverted personalities, who are not active in communication, lack courage, and dare not realize their inner needs and hopes. In fact, it's not that I don't want to socialize, but I don't dare to socialize, and I am very eager to get the care and love of the teacher.

However, he is not good at communicating with others in words.

Look for the crux of the matter:

In response to your behavior, our teacher communicated with your parents. I learned that you are very well-behaved at home, you don't talk much, you are very attached to your parents, and your parents also think that many things are done when your children are young. Usually, your parents don't socialize much, don't take you out often, and close you in your own small home, resulting in a lack of opportunities for you to socialize.

Change measures: Enhance your child's self-confidence, seize the opportunity to praise you more, you are usually in the "corner" position in group activities, and it is not easy for people to think of you. In daily activities, our teachers will give you more care, observe you carefully, catch your shining points, affirm you in front of the group, and let other children understand you.

Parents need to be patient and helpful. Don't keep telling your child to be bold, the effect is very poor. From the beginning of accomplishing various activities with the child, gradually letting go of the hands and feet, allowing the child to deal with various situations independently, parents praise and encourage.

Some parents are often worried, anxious and crazy because their children are introverted and timid. I try my best to make my child a lively, outgoing, and sociable type, but it often backfires. What to do if your child is introverted and doesn't like to communicate:

First of all, a correct understanding of introverted children. Most people would think that lively, outgoing, and sociable children are more likely to succeed when they grow up eating well. On the other hand, introverted children lack a presence in the crowd, are not very gregarious, and will not achieve much in the future.

In fact, this perception is very biased.

Secondlyto accept the child's introverted personality. Now that we know that there is nothing wrong with being introverted, if you find that your child is introverted, does not take the initiative to communicate with your child, and is unwilling to express himself in public, please stop complaining and blaming. Kids, not to mention because you feel lively and outgoing.

Children are more likable, so try to change your child. When a child does not live up to your psychological expectations, you will show disappointment and dissatisfaction. What we have to do is embrace the child's introverted nature.

Againto improve the child's introverted personality. Of course, while there's nothing wrong with being introverted, you can't rest on your laurels. We can better improve the character of the child.

Parents should not say "this child is shy and doesn't like to talk" or "this child is timid and shy......" just because they don't like to communicate or say helloDon't be arbitrary Label your child as "shy", such as "timid", children often hear these derogatory terms, and they will have an inferiority complex and self-denial.

FinallyParents usually communicate with their children in language to understand their children's inner thoughts and let them learn to express their own ideas. Encourage and praise your child to build on his strengths and avoid his weaknesses to make him more confident. Parents should encourage their children and do not treat interpersonal communication as a task.

Find activities that your child likes and is good at, help him develop hobbies, give timely encouragement and praise, and enhance his self-confidence. Create more opportunities for your child to play with other children. Take the kids to the playground, the park, try to meet new friends every time, or invite other kids to your house, or go to other children's homes to play.

This is to take the child out to play more, contact more people, and then communicate more with the child, encourage the child more, and let the child have confidence.

Every child has their own characteristics, and you can tell your child not to swallow his anger when he encounters something, and to fight back when he should fight back.

Children should be educated well, so that children have their own principles and bottom lines, and they must learn to reject others, so that they can become stronger and better.

Talk and communicate with your child more, and let your child get in touch with some lively and cheerful children, so that you can change your child's personality and like to talk in the future.

Even young children have self-esteem. Parents cannot criticize or slander their children as if they don't understand anything, even in public. If children feel that they are not respected and protected by their parents, they will feel insecure, and then lose their enthusiasm and willingness to communicate with others, and gradually go from being reluctant to speak to not being able to speak.

Parents are the best guide and the best example for children, and slowly children will like to talk.