How to eliminate hatred, how to eliminate resentment and hatred?

Hatred doesn't come out of nowhere on its own, someone must have done something that would make you hate. But hating someone is really fortunate, and it is impossible to get rid of it immediately. But time will dilute everything, you can choose to forget it temporarily, and then over time, the hatred will naturally fade or even disappear.

First of all, you have to look away, but since you want to eliminate hatred, it proves that you don't want to hate anymore, you have seen it.

You can do things as much as possible to keep yourself busy every day, so that your life will be full and you will naturally not be cranky, and you will naturally forget about hatred if you stick to it and keep yourself busy every day. Even the greatest hatred will one day be eliminated.

If you're cheerful, it's not so easy to hate someone, so the main thing is to be cheerful!! o ( o May you come out of the shadow of hatred soon

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Think about it from another angle, why do you hate him, why he deserves your hatred, you still have a lot to do. From another perspective, if you were him and he was you, would he hate you as much as you did?

To be a man, you can drink a bottle and be positive.

Is it necessary to hate something?

Time is a medicine, it dilutes everything.

In general, hatred that is not very deep should be eliminated after a while, it is possible to relax and relax, not always remember. But if it is a deep hatred, you can take the initiative to talk to him (her), if he (she) thinks the same way as you, maybe you will get better. If he or she is not, you don't have to pay attention to it, and you will treat it as if you don't have it in the future.

Forgetting is the best thing to do. Wishing you happiness!

1. Always be grateful.

We can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own attitude towards life. The world is so big, without parents, there would be no us, and the grace of birth and nurturing is greater than the sky.

Compared to the life given by the parents, ideologically"Imperfections"It seems insignificant. Even if our parents don't do well, we must always be grateful, because often remembering the warmth given by our parents can help us resolve some of our dissatisfaction and resentment.

Second, you still need to rely on yourself on the road of life.

In the TV series "It's All Good", Su Baochun's mother can smash pots and sell iron for her son's schooling, and even sell her house, but Mingyu just wanted to spend money to enroll in a tutoring class, but was ordered by Su's mother to stop it, and finally Mingyu ran away from home with grief and anger.

Many years later, Mingyu is already a gold collar in the workplace, and she has walked out of it on her own"Sunshine Boulevard", financial freedom is achieved, and when the material simplicity is abundant and the spirit is independent, the past grievances and hatreds will also be alleviated.

Third, the bell must be tied to the bell.

As the saying goes, the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, even if the parents have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, I believe that they also love their daughters.

Since you have a problem in your heart, it is better to sit down with your parents, talk openly and honestly, tell your parents your thoughts, and at the moment when you "release your suspicions" and hug your parents, all the complaints and hatred will be resolved.

4. Seek professional help.

When you have a bad mood that you have been holding up for a long time, when you can't solve it independently, it's better to seek professional help.

You can find a psychologist or psychological counselor, and under professional guidance and resolution, complaints and hatred will also be well resolved.

Summary. I think the first point is not to force yourself to let go of resentment. We can imagine our sensibilities as a naïve and clumsy child.

The child's likes and dislikes are particularly distinct, and if he is victimized, he will definitely be very sad and angry. At this time, if we forcibly suppress him and ask him not to have emotions, we are essentially "repaying grievances with grievances", which is like blocking the gas valve of a pressure cooker with force. It may be calm on the surface, but it may be boiling on the inside, which will only make the resentment more solid.

I think the first point is not to force yourself to let go of resentment. We can imagine our sensibilities as a naïve and clumsy child. The child's likes and dislikes are particularly distinct, and if he is victimized, he will definitely be very sad and angry.

At this time, if we forcibly suppress the code and ask him not to have emotions, the essence of Yinwei is to "fight late and repay grievances", which is like blocking the gas valve of a pressure cooker with force. It may be calm on the surface, but it may be boiling on the inside, which will only make the resentment more solid.

It is better to block than to slacken, so we need to allow ourselves to face up to our resentment and express it. There are many people who "dare to be angry but dare not speak", only allow themselves to hate in their hearts, but cannot resort to their mouths, or when talking about the matter of dust shouting, they must express that they are not resentful, not blamed, and not hate. But in fact, the envy of brother Ashigami cannot face up to resentment or even deny resentment, which will only make it last longer.

To accept your true self, it is very important to accept yourself as if you are not a good brother, not beautiful, and not right. If I hate now, then I am like this, I allow myself to exist like this, but at the same time I am trying to move towards not hating.