What should I do if I am rejected by others and suffer from low self esteem?How to get rid of it?

It's normal to be ostracized.

First of all, I want to tell you that even if you are beautiful and white, tall and thin, capable and kind, there will still be people who reject you and do not like you.

The world is like this, there will always be people who will reject people who are different from themselves. They maintain their sense of being right by denying people who are different from them, and they are afraid of being proven wrong and bad, so they improve their self-confidence by hitting others. This is the cowardice of human nature.

Secondly, psychologically speaking, people will have a good impression of people who have a good impression of themselves. That is, if others like me and praise me, then I will like others too, at least not repulsively.

Social networking is like this, if you want others to have a good impression of you, then you have to learn to understand others, praise others, and accept others. The reverse is also true, if you want to make yourself feel good about others, you must give them the opportunity to understand you and praise you.

So you have to figure out that just as you have people who you like and hate, there will always be people in this world who like and hate you.

For those who like you, we give appreciation and acceptance, and for those who reject you, we don't have to be too demanding, and avoid over-recalling the details of your interactions.

Interpersonal relationships are like this, if you are too introspective, you will become sensitive, and you will follow the trend in the relationship, which is not conducive to your interpersonal communication.

There is a limit to everything. It can't be excessive, nor can it be excessive, so I hope you will slowly learn how to control your own proportions and slowly understand in the relationship.

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I don't want to say anything about the pain, how come I haven't had this kind of mentality...

Until one day I read Gu Long's book and saw how those people lived in his pen, I found confidence.

For the word inferiority, most people may not care, there are so many people who think that they are powerful, is it not okay to have low self-esteem. No, long-term inferiority complex will make a person more and more depressed and decadent, so inferiority complex needs to establish a correct mentality, tell friends, and put away sensitivity to carry out**.

For everyone, as long as it is a person, there will be powerful and cowardly, there will be excellent and ordinary, people know their own shortcomings through comparison, and some people take this as the goal of their efforts, positive. But some people use this as an excuse for low self-esteem and collapse, so low self-esteem has a great impact on a person. So what should you do with low self-esteem?

1. Establish the right mentality: If we want to do a thing successfully, we need to have a correct mentality, first of all, we must understand ourselves correctly, neither overestimate ourselves nor underestimate ourselves. In our ordinary life, we should follow the principle of equality in getting along with others

Don't be overconfident, pretentious, look down on others, and don't be too inferior, underestimate yourself, and be afraid to associate with others. In short, we should take a correct view of our own strengths and weaknesses with others, and establish good interpersonal confidence for ourselves. Therefore, we can dress up in our leisure time, so that our self-confidence gradually improves.

2.Tell your friends: When we encounter sad things, we must confide our troubles and distress to our trusted relatives and friends.

At this time, we can also cry to vent our bad emotions, and don't keep it in our hearts, so as not to lead to autism. At the same time, when we encounter happy things, we must share them with our relatives and friends, so that you will make your friends feel that you will also be a pistachio, and it will also bring them fun, so your friends will be more and more, and you will gradually become cheerful and outgoing.

3.Put away sensitivity: Put away sensitivity, most of us spend our lives in the world, many people are busy in their own careers, and almost no one will have any thoughts about other people.

Don't always feel that anyone dislikes you and looks down on you, these are just your guesses, and don't make assumptions. Besides, you can't take all of their negations, you have to judge them yourself! Think about whether what they say is right or not, in fact, any attitude of ignoring, avoiding, and covering up is an internal feeling of one's greatest inferiority, and the individual realizes that there is a certain gap between himself and others in one or more aspects, and then produces an emotional experience of shame.

To build self-confidence and overcome low self-esteem, we must first raise our self-expectations, be good at discovering our strengths, and learn to affirm ourselves.

** Methods of low self-esteem:

1. Try to take the initiative to talk to strangers, boldly look into the eyes of the other party, have the courage to express yourself, and expand your social circle.

2. Face it bravely, believing that everyone is important and indispensable in this world.

3. See your strengths. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and those who are confident because they see their own strengths.

I think it's because I take myself too seriously! I care too much about myself, I care too much about what others say about myself, and then I always keep it in my heart when I am unhappy or failing, and sometimes I don't care about the intention of others, I always feel that others are malicious, or others just talk casually, but I care very much, I only value what others say, and I don't look at the objective reality, and then I may change it according to what others say, but I am told by others, and then I am even more lost.

Or maybe you were confident in something about yourself, but you failed in that area. Then I feel that I am worthless, and then gradually move towards inferiority.

Actually, I used to be a person with low self-esteem. So I feel a lot about this.

But then I think about it, why think of myself as the protagonist of a tragedy? Unfortunate things don't just happen to you, but why are others so happy? They also have times when things don't go their way!

And low self-esteem is not beneficial, so why should you have low self-esteem? And so it began to change. I started to laugh more, communicate more with others, tell myself not to cry honestly, not to keep my unhappiness in my heart, to tell others, or to analyze it myself, and then I found that it was not all bad, but I could learn a lot from it.

Then learn to analyze things objectively and calmly, and you will not be confused by others. Slowly it grows up.

Hehe, when people live, they have to live meaningfully, isn't it? ^^

Connecting your value with the value of society is that you grow your own value by solving problems for this society, by cooperating with others, by caring for others, and then I am very valuable in this society, and I have a lot of people in this world who will like me, and I contribute to this society, so as to reduce your inferiority complex.

Most of them are caused by these behaviors such as criticism, accusation, complaining, and comparison from parents in the original family when they were children.

Low self-esteem is a complex emotion of not being able to help yourself. People with an inferiority complex despise themselves and think that they cannot catch up with others. a.Adler has a special explanation for inferiority complex, calling it an inferiority complex.

First: accept your shortcomings; Second: learn to boast; Make yourself valuable.

Find someone who can praise people and win people as friends, let friends discover your strengths, build self-confidence, and leave those so-called bad friends, they will only make you feel inferior.

Build up self-confidence, do simple things first, and wait for your self-confidence to increase slowly, so that you will not have low self-esteem.

In fact, basically everyone has a time or an inferiority complex, which is a normal manifestation of human nature. If you find that you have gone too far, it is recommended to reflect on whether you are paying too much attention to other people's opinions, which is very common in the process of self-building in adolescence, and it is important to make friends with people who can encourage and support you, and to know yourself objectively. Accept and accept your own uniqueness and uniqueness.

If there's something that can be improved, it's good to work on it. Change what can be changed, accept what cannot be changed. Bless you.

Don't feel that you are worse than others, in fact, you are not worse than others. One sentence can hurt you, then how fragile you are! The best thing to do is to be confident and do what I have to do, no matter what others say or do.

The main way to overcome low self-esteem is mental and self-confidence training.

The inferiority complex is mainly due to the low self-evaluation, which is manifested in the lack of correct understanding of oneself, lack of self-confidence in communication, lack of courage in doing things, timidity, and echoing at any time, without one's own opinions, and instinctively thinking that it is not good for oneself when encountering things. Low self-esteem can easily lead to a loss of courage and confidence. If you find that you have an inferiority complex, you must pay enough attention to it and overcome it in time.

First of all, we should increase our confidence, self-confidence is emanating from our hearts, not due to outstanding appearance, we must maintain full self-confidence.

Secondly, learning to self-regulate is very important for overcoming inferiority complex. Only by truly treating yourself, correctly understanding yourself, improving self-evaluation, and at the same time calmly facing setbacks and strengthening psychological balance, can you slowly overcome your inferiority.

Finally, it is to make more friends and close friends, chat with friends, confide in your heart and express your unhappiness, which will be much more relaxing. Of course, to challenge and overcome your inferiority, you can do something that you have never done before, slowly train to enhance your self-confidence, no matter what you do, always believe that you have paid, work hard, learn to bear the worst results, and face everything calmly.

Low self-esteem is comparing one's own shortcomings with the strengths of others.

Your strengths, what you like, what you work on, and then you're better than them.

That's how I got to it, and after 10 years of hard study, I developed a strength.