Sometimes your parents talk really hurtful, have you ever been disappointed in your parents?

It was when my final grades regressed that my parents told me that they had lost hope and that they were particularly disappointed. It made me feel like I was disappointed in my parents.

When my parents brought my boyfriend home, they never gave my boyfriend a good face, just because my boyfriend's family was poor, and I was really disappointed in my parents at that moment.

My parents actually asked me to use the bride price money to buy a house for my younger brother and make a down payment, saying that this is what I should do as an older sister, which really changed my attitude towards my parents and made me very disappointed.

I told my parents the good news as soon as I got a raise, but my parents came directly and said, "It's just that", and they didn't look happy for me at all, and they also said that other people's daughters were tens of thousands of dollars a month.

In the process of talking, my parents suddenly said to me, we know that you will never succeed, at that moment I was very disappointed in my parents, I think as a parent should encourage your child more, no matter his success or failure, you should encourage him, comfort him, not hit him.

When I was a child, my parents said "If you don't obey again, I'll throw you out", I was disappointed in my parents, and I thought it was hurtful to say such things.

When my parents scolded me for not doing well in my exams, I was very disappointed in them because they used me as a tool to study.

Obviously, I have an older sister, but when my parents encounter something, they will only call me ** and let me solve it, and never let my sister help me share the slightest, I feel very disappointed.

I don't have a child like you. Because sometimes our parents' words are very hurtful, so we sometimes do. Be rational too. Forgive these words, because many parents say things that are unintentional.

My parents, under my persuasion, still disagreed with me being with my boyfriend, and I instantly became disappointed in them.

I remember my father saying to my mom when he was younger, and I was like that, broken cans and broken pieces.

Have I ever been hurt by a word for a long time? Then this one is definitely there.

For example, I was once sentenced: If you don't do housework and study, what else can you do? It's been a long time since I've been hurt.

This sentence actually. It may be more common in families, because it may be more normal for parents to get angry sometimes. In the families I have seen, this is the case, because if you don't do the housework, then you may say that you are not filial or lazy or something, which is what your parents think.

Moreover, in the post-00s generation, there is indeed a relationship between them and their parents. There are some generation gaps or some different perceptions. And parents may be influenced by the older generation, and they will feel that reading is the only way out.

To be honest, I think reading in my mind, he is indeed a good way out, and he can get you very quickly. Crossing a class, let's say you used to be a farmer, then you learn to become a merchant or become a merchant by studying. Intellectuals, or not professors, etc.

Learned people. But reading is not the only way out, for example, you may have some business acumen, or you have more perseverance, you can make your own outstanding achievements from other aspects, but your parents don't think so. They say that reading is the only way out, and this sentence has a deep impact, so we often clash with them.

At home, it probably is. We may play for a long time, so parents may see you when you play, and they will feel very angry because they are working hard outside, and they may be very angry when they see you playing very leisurely. And then at this stage, for example, in middle school or high school, then there is a lot of competition, because everyone may not just learn them in school.

There is also the possibility of enrolling in cram schools outside of class, that is to say, you may be in class six days a week, and you may have to write homework one day on Sunday, so the competition is very big, you are excellent, others will be even better, then this competition will be very great, not that you don't work hard, but that you work hard, and others will learn from the dead. So his parents are not. I know this too well, and they will often compare you with other people, for example, other people who are so good at reading, and you can't, if you study and do a little bit of housework, it's okay, so this is also very, very hurtful, this is something I can't get out of for a long time, because at that time I was powerless to refute, I do think that I can't read.

Then I feel sorry for them. But this one has to go slowly. Look at it, learn to be tolerant of yourself, and be kind to yourself.

Because everyone is constantly being chased by others on the road of life. Sometimes it's okay to give yourself relaxation, but what? You must do what you want to do.

That makes sense.

How so?

Your parents grew up under the culture of "filial piety under the stick", in fact, they want you to be good, but the method is not right.

It is not difficult to see that since they think that "children should be raised cheaply, the more they scold, the more powerful they are, and the more powerful they will be." You're not there yet, so you have to work harder", they just want you to be better.

It's just that they never know that it is precisely because of their improper education methods that they don't treat you as a human being, but just want to exercise your willpower, you can try to communicate with them and instill correct educational ideas.

Of course, their ideas have long been ingrained, and it is difficult to change, but you can also choose to accept it and adjust your mentality.

Soon, you will be in the society, you can be independent, and you will have less time with your parents, you can choose your own life, choose the friends around you, and make more positive friends, which can keep you a positive and healthy heart.

Don't interpret your parents in this way, it's not their fault that they suffered the loss of culture. You need to understand their love for you, forgive them for the mistakes they have made with you, and tolerate their cultural flaws.

In fact, as long as you are doing well, even if they are scolding you, they are still happy in their hearts.

I don't know if they have nowhere to vent, just a little thing, just make a big noise,

This kind of parents have no quality, and they will move out and live by themselves when they work in the future.

LZ wings are stiff, fly it, although my parents have the grace of nurturing, but I don't want this kind of kindness.

In fact, many children are very good at following a garbage parent.

Nowadays, a lot of children kill their parents, in fact, from a few aspects, if you look at it from a human point of view, then parents deserve it, and if they are pushed to a limit, they can do anything.

From the point of view of family affection, it is not good.

Just live on your own. I'm like that now, sad at home. Then go out more, although I can't go out either.

Anyway, just don't care. Secretly, I just finished being scolded, and I was understood by those backward and dirty thoughts, so I had to laugh it off.

The first time I brought my girlfriend home, my girlfriend is the mayor's daughter, she has a big temper and a bad personality, and she doesn't even have to think about doing housework, her parents' angry faces are green, and she doesn't agree with it, OK, and finally break up.

The second time, I brought my new girlfriend home a few years later, my new girlfriend's family has no background and no money, and the gentle and virtuous lady blushes when she sees people cooking, and her parents sigh: It's still the first one. . .

People are selfish, and it's human nature to prioritize one's own interests when faced with problems. So it's possible that your parents are trying to prioritize your own interests and not put yourself in your shoes.

It is also possible that they are too short-sighted to take into account the troubles they will encounter in the future and make the decision now.

Therefore, it is normal to feel cold because of the behavior of your parents, or to be hurt by the behavior of people around you.

But with such a boyfriend, I advise you to break up!

There is a lot of time when I feel that my parents are indiscriminate and I don't get approval for what I do. But when I grew up, I found that they just wanted me to be better, and a lot of chilling things came from a lack of communication, and because of the difference in understanding, we couldn't understand the views of my parents' generation. So, be tolerant, there are many things that are not infallible and inherently right and wrong.

If you marry with good conditions, the bride price must be a lot.

Your parents can think so, I think they are quite snobbish and care about face, so they don't think about your feelings.

You have to believe in your own judgment and yearning, break up if it's not suitable, the long pain is better than the short pain, and you won't be able to live with your parents when you get married in the future.

In fact, when encountering this kind of thing, many situations come from your own family conditions are not good, and your parents treat you as a cash cow, which makes you feel disgusting when you think about it.

You'd better immigrate and change your passport. Parents in my country can sue you for not supporting or visiting. You can try borrowing money from your parents now, and they will help you find another one. Talking to the bustard about the chill??

It is inevitable that a person is destined to suffer a lot in his life. When you were a child, you didn't feel the pain of life because your parents protected you well, and when a person grows up, he naturally has to learn to bear pressure and pain. The more you are able to withstand stress and pain, the more mature you will be, and treat stress and pain as a natural thing.

Because it is not easy for people to survive in society.

But to be honest, I'm also sad that your parents don't understand you. I also had high ideals and aspirations, but my parents didn't understand them at all, and I really hated them. But human destiny is that there are many things that will make you miserable, and only the truly strong can understand the value of patience.

My advice is that you should never marry someone who will hurt you deeply, even if your parents are against it, because if you marry someone who will hurt you, you will be more miserable in the future. So I thought it would be better to fight to the end, or maybe take your parents to see a psychiatrist to help you!

Bring people back to the love of men and women. Tell you to do the right thing, because of loneliness. It should be understood.

In the end, I want to say that the feelings are yours, and you have the right to choose the legs to grow on you, can they manage it?

Whether it's good or bad, I obviously didn't say anything about it, but my mother told others what she thought and then I said it. Once my mother was unhappy, she would go around looking for people to speak ill of her family. The first thing that got hurt was definitely her cynicism, and she really hated her mother.

My younger brother was very naughty when he was younger, and once he drew on my homework book, which caused my homework to be ruined. I was angry and scolded him, and my father not only didn't comfort me, but also beat me.

Parents must look out for you in their own way, right?

I didn't get married before I often worked overtime until one or two o'clock, at that time there was no mobile phone at home and there was no pager, a few families had the era of **, I was timid since I was a child, often went home in the middle of the night and was very scared, when I went back to hear my parents snoring and sleeping, I was very chilled, often tired and fainted at work, the leader asked me to go home to rest, my mother gave me a face, felt that I was hypocritical, and did not say a word of concern, let alone let me change to a light job, every day I only know to emphasize that the money earned before marriage is the family's money, It had to be handed over to her. Father is a more thoughtless person, one winter night, there was a dead body lying at the door of my father's unit, and it was not transported away until the next day, there was no electric car at that time, I must see the dead body on the way home in the middle of the night, I saw it at that time and pretended not to see the courage to go home, and my father excitedly asked me if I saw the dead body on the way back? My eyes were full of eagerness for me to answer quickly, and my heart was frozen to the extreme!

I'm a girl, what do you think?

When you think you can't do this, you can't do that.

When imposing their ideas on me.

What's the matter, parents love you.

You need to reflect on yourself ** to chill your parents.

It's divided, and I'm still in the mood to ask this question.

Parents are the first teachers of children and teachers for life, children will be educated and guided by their parents from an early age, and their parents' words and deeds can be said to have a deep impact on their children's growth and development. When the child is young, the occasional rebellious period is convinced of the parents' words and the parents' suggestions and requirements, and they are all obeyed and followed, but when we leave kindergarten, go to elementary school, go to junior high school, go to high school, and enter university, our knowledge is constantly expanding. We have grown up, and our perception of the world has become more and more rational, so we dare not agree with some of our parents' remarks, but because we are our own parents as children, it is not easy to refute them, after all, it is the most difficult thing to change other people's minds and correct their concepts, let alone our own parents.

The first sentence is what privacy you have, in the eyes of many traditional parents, children do not deserve privacy. They look at their children's diaries openly, give birth to their children's drawers, and wipe their children's mobile phones. When the child tries to resist and refute, the parents will always say, what privacy can you have, women are born to me.

In fact, when the child begins to have a sense of self, parents should respect the child's privacy at the time point, generally two-year-old parents as the child's most trusted person should be to provide a sense of security for the child, can not snoop, even the morning of the child's privacy, do not respect the child's privacy, the harm to the child is very serious can not cause the child's basis, and low self-esteem is more likely to run away from home or self-harm and other behaviors, smart parents should take the initiative to give the child independent space, Give the child equal communication and communication, understand the way the child, many peek into the diary is the stupidest way.

The second sentence is to let the small one have a general harm around us, called how big it is, so that many parents of the small ones only have this concept, some of them have brothers and sisters in these second-child families, they should choose unconditionally and without reason, so that the younger brothers and sisters eat very well, and the fun is left to the younger brothers and sisters, even if it is the interests of the elder brother and sister, the younger brothers and sisters are indeed blessed, and the brothers and sisters are indeed seriously injured. Our parents usually have been a lot, so they want to lie down, a noble moral character propaganda and promotion period to your purpose is to educate your child into a good child who knows how to be humble, but parents are easy to fall into one, I must sleep and scream if I go to be humble? In ancient times, wasn't there Kong Rong who made the pears smaller?

What kind of pressure can mountain study have? I'm working so hard, why, isn't it just for you to study? You can't even study well, your test results are so bad, what kind of tree are you, you can't understand anything in class, I have too much pressure at work, do you know?

What are you learning to do, you don't know how many children have heard these two sentences, if not, congratulations you are lucky, if there is only a hug to give you a hug to study and work, which pressure, he can not be compared horizontally, no matter what the person is doing, there is pressure, because he has the pursuit of dreams, there is motivation and pressure.