Family problems came in and helped me out of my worries

I don't think your mother's approach is quite right, after all, it's your own salary, and using a hard apportionment will hurt your self-esteem. I remember buying a cigarette for my dad when I first got paid, and I forgot what I bought for my mom. I feel like they raised me to adulthood, and it was really not easy.

Now that I have my child, I still have to wait to be fed, and it costs more than 1,000 yuan a month for diapers and milk powder, and I don't know what he will do to me when he grows up. Now my parents help me take care of the children, and I don't know how to repay them when I am old, or I still work hard, and giving them money is also helping me save it.

So I think so, you can be a little more considerate of your parents' feelings, a month's salary is 1000, you give them 800, but if you use up the remaining 200, you ask your parents to take it. Communicate well with them, after all, you are also making money, and there will be a lot of social interaction in the future, I hope they can understand you. In the future, you can give less, and after a few months you can not give, so that your parents also have an adjustment period, which is better.

Because you will still need their support to start a family and start a business in the future, and you will not be able to repay them if you want to repay them at that time.

Hope it helps! Happy to you!

Then don't give, move out....After all, you have the ability to live now....Governed by people, not much development....I also advise you not to spend money and save some money.

Old feudal thinking, but you give her some under the premise of normal use, if she thinks you give less, then you don't give her.

Hmm, personal point of view (only child's point of view).

To put it simply, it's you or your mom who took this to the extreme.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, since your parents are not short of money to spend, why do they force you like this.

The reason is already very simple, I said earlier that I am an only child, I don't know if you are.

If you are an only child, your mother is just afraid that you will spend money indiscriminately, and she wants to save some for you, you have to understand, I don't agree with her approach, can you communicate slowly, why be so extreme, even if you can move out.

Do you think you can support yourself with a month's salary of your own ??

Are you sure your mother wants you to hand over 500 yuan to spend it yourself? Are you sure?

You don't think it's reasonable for your mother to ask you for money, do you? So do you think it makes sense for you to ask your mom for money before?

How much do you think you will increase your monthly expenses if you move out? Why don't I have these costs for living with my mother?

Will you need your mother's help when you get married or have difficulties in life in the future? Will Mom help you? Like getting married?

If a stranger took care of you like a mother for 20 years, how would you remember her kindness?

If, in the future, you have a child, would you be willing to spend a decade or two to raise him, and then he will leave you like a stranger?

Nowadays, few children can understand their parents, few parents will sacrifice their children or wronged their children for their own sake, if things are reversed, but few children sacrifice something for their parents, which is why there are more and more people who do not want to have children.

You may not listen to me at all, but one day you will understand that only your parents will never abandon you. And other people pay for you with certain conditions.

Tell a true story, a child because of his parents' incomprehension, the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper, and finally one day he ran away from home, a few days later he had no money, he couldn't even eat, he was dizzy with hunger, sick to the side of the road, a lady sweeping the street found him, and took him home, made him a bowl of noodles, and gave him medicine, slept for a while He was sick, because he was moved to tell the aunt about his run away from home, and told the aunt that he would not forget her kindness in his life, the lady told him: " If you can remember the kindness of a bowl of noodles for a lifetime, then how can you repay the kindness of your parents who have raised you for more than ten years? ”

How can we repay the kindness of our parents? Fortunately, every parent didn't ask their children to return it!

If you can be sure that you can live alone, you don't give, if you can't, just give.

。。Give it, give it, the order of your parents is irresistible! I can only accept it! Unless you are sure that you can live well on your own without relying on them in the future, so that you can still bear a notorious reputation!

First of all, your partner is not married yet? Isn't it? Therefore, your aunt may think that he is still an outsider, and your aunt said that the chat may be about the situation in his family, or about the situation in your family.

I probably don't want your subject to hear it. Secondly. Or maybe he just said it unintentionally.

It doesn't mean anything, so don't think too much about it.

I think your aunt treats your object as a small character, and has no other meaning, and tells your object not to think too much, family and everything is prosperous.

It doesn't matter if what you write is true or not, but I still have to reply to you.

Actually, your mother is kind to your cousin, which is also normal, from your mother's point of view, your cousin is an outsider, and her son is her own, and offending outsiders will gossip a lot, but it is normal for her own son. Of course, it is understandable that the two of them could be treated in the same treatment, but in the mother's opinion, it can't show the goodness of outsiders, which is that it is difficult for a mother to be a person, and a son should understand, and the mother is also to get a good reputation. Therefore, no matter whether you have a good education or not, you must have a correct attitude, your ability is your own, and it is not because your education is lower than others, so it seems that people have a different vision everywhere.

Actually, no, let alone your own mother, how can she belittle her own son? But although this phenomenon is possible, the most fundamental thing is that you should not let your mother be angry, and you are not angry, even if you graduate from a prestigious school? Mom will think that reading is useless?

All in all, face everything calmly, cherish your life, face life happily, and have a tolerant attitude, nothing is a big deal.

It is estimated that your lover is going abroad, on a project, etc., and goes home on time for vacation. It's a similar situation to my lover.

First of all, I am sure that it is important for children to be with their mothers to nurture the mother-daughter relationship. Don't put your child in the elderly to raise, affect the parent-child relationship between the child and you, and affect the child's adaptation to a series of drawbacks of contemporary concepts.

Regarding the psychology of your lover, in fact, it must be his parents who complained to him, missed his granddaughter, and he just wanted to put the child to be raised by his grandmother. If it's grandma who is in the city with you with the children, your husband will definitely have no opinion.

Suggestion: Talk to your husband, the importance of children being with their parents, you can't grieve your children in order to save money, children can play in **, and the entertainment, medical and educational facilities in the city are many times better than those in the countryside, how many people want their children to live in the city from an early age. You can also take the kids to a special entertainment area on the weekend.

You can also let your grandmother and grandmother take turns in the city to help you take care of the children, so that your husband will be satisfied.

In fact, you are not wrong in what you are doing, no matter which way you look at it, it is not wrong to put your own children around you. It's also a great option for kids. After all, it is most reassuring for your children to be by your side.

As for your husband's affairs, I think he may be a little reluctant, but this kind of thing still has to be done. Talk to him a little afterwards and eliminate a little embarrassment.