Why does Yue Zhang feel more lonely?

Have you ever heard the song "The Older You Get, the Lonelier You Become"?

The lyrics are right.

When I listened to that song, I finally understood why I felt lonely and lonely, but I felt so happy. Because of two words - growth; Because of two words - independence.

I finally understood that this is the way we have to go in life.

With dreams but setbacks, friendships, love but obstacles, and many unexpected situations, no one will be as close to you and love you as they did when they were children. It's not easy to change a life that's been stereotyped.

From another point of view, birth, old age, sickness and death, in the end, there is only one person, but it is the process that enjoys.

Even though I used to feel lonely, I believe that I can make myself not lonely, and so can you.

Loneliness, first, is because you have your own opinion on loneliness, children can only play, only look for toys, and a person can also play with taste, but when you grow up, it is different.

Second, it's because you don't know enough about society. Society is originally a network of relationships, and it is normal to be busy and busy for work, and it is difficult to make like-minded friends. However, if you are afraid of one person, you have to learn to know different people.

Third, you don't know enough about yourself. Do you know what your interests are? Find it and do it. Even a person can be as addicted as a child.

The more you grow up, the more lonely you become, the more uneasy you get, because you grow up, the focus of your life is constantly shifting, and if you don't adapt for a while, you will make yourself nostalgic for the old times, and maybe when you find the fun of the present, this feeling will go away. Savor the feeling with your heart and remember the past with all your heart, and this feeling may be forgotten overnight.

Loneliness is a mental journey that people have to go through, just as people grow up and grow old.

Because I understand a lot, I also understand what the world is hot and cold, and what is called the difference between the heart and the mouth.

What does it mean to have a heart but not enough strength?

The first stage: When I was a child, I had a lot of friends, and I was cared for by my relatives, carefree, and grew up happily.

The second stage: from adolescence to starting a family, you have more and more experiences, and you have more and more responsibilities, and there are fewer and fewer like-minded relatives and friends, and many times you have to rely on your own hard work. At this time, don't doubt yourself, recognize your goals and positioning, and stick to it.

In the process, you may have good friends to join, but if not, believe in yourself. Because of your own achievements, it is definitely not as simple as playing and playing with your friends when you were a child, the road has to rely on yourself to walk, go on, your attitude towards life is positive, and your life is extraordinary.

The third stage: self-breakthrough and continuous growth. When you are busy, you work selflessly, and when you have time, you cherish the happy time with your family, and manage your family and business well.

You won't feel lonely when you have your own hobbies, have new friends, connect with old friends, and still be happy like a child in your spare time.

When you grow up, you will have your own three views, your own way of doing things, and your three views are different from others, and the three views determine the way you act, and the way you do things determines the perception and impression of others on you. Those who have a good impression of you are naturally willing to communicate with you in a friendly manner, and those who have a bad impression are not willing to communicate with you in a friendly manner.

In addition, as you grow up, your demand for various resources increases, which inevitably leads to conflicts of interest with others.

And at home, there will also be conflicts with parents because of the difference in three views, (the so-called chasm).

When you grow up, you have a lot of responsibility, and you won't have so much freedom.

Generally speaking, you can feel that friends in elementary school are the closest and most sincere, and they are good friends for life. Because everyone's thinking is not mature in elementary school, everything will be turned into a big thing and a small thing, and they are still good friends. But as we grow older and our minds become more and more mature, we will have a feeling of boredom and dislike for everything around us, and I also have this feeling.

After falling out with your friend Hunger God, it won't end like this, although it will still be reconciled in the end, but as long as you quarrel once, the relationship is not as good as once, and over time you will be lonely, and you will feel that the people around you are not your confidants.

But don't be in a hurry when you encounter this situation, you have to try to open your heart, accept everyone, avoid quarrels, walk around outdoors with friends more, go on outings together, watch movies, picnics, and try not to refuse. This time, you'll get more bad friends. In this way, your personality will gradually become extroverted, of course, the opposite sex is also very important, and friends of the opposite sex are also very good!!

So, will you still be lonely? No, that's my own experience

Yes, when I was a child, I was innocent and immaculate, I didn't have to think about anything, and when I grew up, I had to bear a lot of things, and I would become more and more lonely, but correspondingly, there would be more luck and no friends would help you share, which was also a kind of happiness.