How to be an optimist? Please, thank you

Control your conversations with your mind.

No matter how you really feel, and no matter what happens in your life, be sure to keep yourself in a good mood and never look down.

The ultimate freedom of humanity is to choose to be oneself in any environment that exists.

There are four distinguishing characteristics of an optimist, and these traits are learned through repeated practice.

The first trait is that optimists look at the bright side of things in any situation.

The second characteristic is that optimists are always able to learn from setbacks and suffering. Difficulties arise not to block the way, but to point the way out.

The third characteristic of optimists is that they try to find solutions to problems.

The fourth trait, a positive, optimistic person is constantly thinking and talking about their goals. Look ahead, not back.

Have the courage to face reality, take responsibility, and keep yourself positive. No matter what happens, don't criticize, complain, or blame others. To improve, not to blame.

This lesson was hard for me, and I was a complete pessimist. And habitually complaining and blaming. I also understand that it is not good, and it is a bad atmosphere for myself and the people around me, but I can't change it when I know that I am disturbed. Today's four are also a good guide.

Some people say that the happiest thing in life is the age of 45 - the age of 55, because in these ten years, you must first accept the fact that your body is no longer healthy and various diseases are coming one after another; secondly, in this process, career, family, etc. have tended to be dull, but it is also the most unstable time; And more importantly, in the past ten years, most people have to experience their parents getting old, getting sick, or even dying, and if you judge by that, I am entering such a stage.

For my filial piety, whether it is work, family or son, I am not very worried, although it is not perfect, but it is basically under control, there is no pressure for the time being, the biggest pressure comes from parents. Every time I go home, I see that my parents' mental state is getting worse day by day, my father's ears are getting worse and worse, my mother's hospitalization is getting more and more frequent, and every time I am hospitalized, I will regress in both spirit and action, and I can't do anything about it, and I feel really stressed. I know that it's not right to worry about the sky, but many things, whether you want to face it or not, will come sooner or later, it's just a matter of order.

However, I will also comfort myself: no matter how many problems there are, there must be a road in front of the mountain, and the soldiers will come to block the water and cover the earth. My definition of myself is:

Optimistic pessimist. (An optimistic pessimist is one who, under normal circumstances, has pessimistic thoughts about everything, but is full of fighting spirit and confidence in his life and future.) ）

When I think back to exams or competitions or other things that have been competitive, I think of the worst outcome first, but I try to do my best in my actions, with the idea that "I won't be lucky enough to die", so that even if I don't achieve the best result, it will not be so uncomfortable.

Of course, the most envious is the kind of person who is completely optimistic, doesn't take anything to heart or can get out quickly, but the nature of the country is easy to change, and it will change slowly in the second half of his life.

Wake up early in the morning, drink a cup of cold tea, slow down Tai Chi for a few minutes, halfway through, forget how to continue, and start all over again. Still can't fight, just stop, take dozens of deep breaths, and then say to yourself: "It's done!" "Have another cup of tea, and the morning class is over, and it's fun!

Writing calligraphy in the quiet room, grinding ink is too concentrated, ink into a cylinder, and the word is not written, and the back is sore. Stare at the words for ten minutes and say to yourself, "It's already written!" "Take a walk around the room a few times, wipe the pen and collect the paper, it's a lot of fun!

Sitting in the conference room, the room was full of scholars and masters, and their expressions were as good as they were. Peeking at the hands of the watch is almost frozen, and the speech in the ear is unintentional, and the days are like years. Suddenly, I saw a few conference programs on the case, quietly moved the origami boat, the boat was good, gently put the table and pushed it around to play, and then looked at the watch, the minute hand moved two squares, and I was very happy!

He lived in the mountains for several days, did not read the newspaper, did not listen to the radio, did not open the letter in the morning, and did not receive the letter. When I went down the mountain, the world had not changed, and it was still like me, and I was very happy!

A few days ago, I agreed to meet with a friend, and after a few days, I completely forgot about it, and I was shocked that the time had passed, and I apologized urgently, and found that the other party had also forgotten, and the two did not owe each other, and I no longer made an appointment, and I was very happy!

The car turned back again, and the man in the rain was still panicked, seeing the car stop, the man stopped and made a precaution, and he was very happy!

I didn't see my parents and siblings for four days, I went home for a small gathering, time flew by, and then I came up the mountain, and I was surprised to see the lonely lamp alone, the room was lonely, the mountain wind shook the window, and the wild dogs cried at night, and refused to go down the mountain again, I was very happy!

Shopping for a whole day with birds, buying less than half of the clothes, empty-handed. When I came home and saw my old clothes, I felt that everything was hard to come by, and the thief didn't steal even a single one, and my heart rejoiced. Exhilaration!

In the dead of night, the sound of knocking on the window did not stop, and when I first woke up, I thought that the soul was visiting, and then I woke up to make sure that it was not the soul, and I was in a panic, and I got up and called softly, saying, "Don't come!" I don't recognize you. "There was no silence in the window immediately, I covered my head and slept again, and I woke up with the sun shining, and I was very happy!

Hurriedly went out, tied his shoelaces hard, and the shoelaces broke and were thrown in the corner. When I came home, I found that the shoelaces could be braided, so I pulled the other one off and got a new headband, which was very happy!

Tired of friends calling, chattering, suddenly heard a bell ringing, knowing that this friend actually played public **, before breaking the sentence, the other party hurriedly said: "I'll call again, you pick up!" "**Break, quickly put the microphone on the table, leave for a long time, and don't pay attention to it anymore.

Twenty minutes later, put it back**, stare at it for a few seconds, the disgusted friend has left, no longer calling, happy!