I tried to try, but I failed. Really helpless.

Have you ever looked for a reason why you can't work? Is it because you don't want to be in contact with the outside world? Or is it something like that?

Trying to find your cause, can you avoid it in your next job, or do you overcome it yourself?

Since you have been looking for so long, it means that you are not too young, you should be sensible, and you should be self-reliant, if such a big person still thinks about suicide, your parents will be very sad.

Be able to work in a stable job, and then work consistently for a year or two, and slowly adapt to the outside world. And then the main thing you have to do right now is to go back and see your father first, and then go out and look for a job ...

First of all, I feel sad and sorry for the misfortune suffered by your family, the closest thing in this life is your parents, you must know that no matter where you are, there are always 2 hearts that care about yourself, so we can never do anything sorry for our parents in this life, misfortune is always inevitable, the important thing is that we are strong. For things at work, I personally think that I should make a plan for myself, ask myself what I like to do, what I can do, keep changing jobs for us young people, it is not a good thing, time is wasted, youth is also consumed, so sorry for myself.

Finally, I want to say to you: I wish your father a speedy **, and I wish you can get through this as soon as possible.

You have been working hard, but now you feel very powerless, this is related to your ability and learning level, you either need to improve your ability, or improve your academic qualifications, in the face of rapid social development, people are under pressure is a good thing, to be able to recognize their own shortcomings is also a kind of progress.

I really want to work hard, and I have been working hard, but I can't do anything, maybe my ability is limited. Or maybe the way you do things needs to be adjusted.

It's good to work hard, but you must pay attention to the method and need the support of wisdom.

It's normal for you to be in this situation, you have thought of a thousand roads in the morning, and you still take the old road in the morning. No matter what people do, it is important to persevere. What you pay is not necessarily rewarded. But if you don't pay, you will definitely get nothing. Keep a heart and do one thing well.

Maybe you haven't found a better way yet, so now your efforts have not yielded results, so you should still work hard.

Start from the present, do what you can, and slowly improve your ability, all say to ride a donkey to find a horse, first find a donkey to ride and then say, the body will not be weak when it is busy.

Without the goal that makes you work hard, without the goal, people are easy to relax!

I want to work hard but I don't know how to do it, and it doesn't seem to have any effect when I do it, so it's hard to persevere.

The idea that you want to work hard is good, but you lack motivation, so you can make the following appropriate adjustments.

1.Relax appropriately. Stress from all sides of life is one of the things that makes us feel lost in life.

2.Confide in someone. The reason why we are confused about life is because we have encountered failures and setbacks, and many times people will feel that life is boring and unmotivated when they encounter this situation.

It is recommended to find someone to chat, talk about your troubles and frustrations, and spit out all the depression in your heart by confiding in others. The premise is that this person can listen carefully and enlighten you.

3.Self-motivation, self-resolution, and self-suggestion. Everyone is confused for different reasons, so we must analyze it according to our actual situation, know how to motivate and encourage ourselves when we are confused, and know how to solve problems by ourselves, after all, we have to rely on ourselves to do our own things.

Psychologically suggests itself. When we are no longer motivated, we must constantly remind ourselves that we still have dreams to chase and goals to achieve. Or you can write your dream goal in a conspicuous place so that you can see it at a glance, and then you have to work hard for the dream.

4.Maintain an optimistic attitude towards life. In life, we have no motivation and feel lost, a big reason is that we always encounter difficulties in life, so we will feel confused.

Therefore, we must know how to maintain an optimistic attitude towards life, and know that there are always more solutions than difficulties. When encountering difficulties or difficulties, we must dare to face them and solve them.

People live to experience joys and sorrows, birth, old age, sickness and death, in order to understand what people live for?

In order to realize their own ideals, pursuits, goals, desires and values.

It's tiring, it's hard.

Because society is very unfair, it is very helpless to live.

If you are sad and sad, you have to cry, and if you find something to do, you will not be bored.

Because that's how life is.

No one's life is smooth sailing.

As long as you work hard, it's wonderful!

Be optimistic about anything.

Keep a normal heart.

Life is inevitably about falling and waiting.

Be brave enough to look up.

The sun is always after the storm!

I'll give you advice, can you see it?

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

Don't give up at the first setback, be courageous, and don't be afraid of failure. Hahahaha, why am I so good at saying this all of a sudden.

Keep working hard and still haven't arrived.

A From the beginning of preparation, I wore the stars and the moon, learned to annihilate brightly and auspiciously day after day, and was pregnant with the feeling of October. I have been endorsing since August, and I don't stop until I vomit, hoping to defeat my opponent on the battlefield of the special upgrade.

At the beginning, B did not plan to upgrade to the bachelor's degree, and only planned to start the upgrade at the end of the year, due to the time constraints, he only reviewed the simple basic questions, and ignored the difficult problems.

As a result, B was admitted, but A was not.

A felt frustrated: Creation makes people, obviously I have worked so hard, but I still failed, and luck in this life is also very important.

But will it really be like this? There may really be an element of luck, but when most people say "I worked hard", do you really work hard, maybe you just work hard.

For another example, a certain lady wants to **, and posts her dieting ** in the circle of friends every day, shouting that she eats so little and is not thin, but is this really the case? Girls should feel this way, can you really do a completely planned and regular diet? This is the case:

Make it for others to see.

Let's go back to student A who "tried hard but failed", what is his superficial effort?

"Real learning" is not done

For example, he originally planned to learn English for 3 hours in the morning, but in fact, these 3 hours include 15 minutes to find a seat and sit down, 15 minutes to make coffee, 20 minutes to scroll through Weibo, reply to n text messages, and accumulate half an hour in a daze if he can't learn.

So I've heard a lot of people say that I go to the library at 7 o'clock to get a place, and I study 12 hours a day, but when I still didn't get in, I don't know if I should show sympathy for their bad luck.

To be honest, learning is one of the few things in the world where effort will pay off, but the premise is that you must be honest about your study time, and sometimes, you are just "preparing to study" or "doing some peripheral work related to learning", and there is no real "study".

Pursue a sense of form, perfectionism

Spend a lot of time every day writing a planner, making plan revisions, revising the notes of each subject, and recording the study status of the day......Even forced to constantly check the ...... of his plans before going to bed

Is this seemingly extremely serious learning method really effective? Studying is a brain-draining thing, and he allocates so much energy and time to these things like obsessive-compulsive disorder, which will make him more and more headaches.

With a plan in place, a day of study should be carried out without distractions, rather than desperate perfectionism.

Can't always "drink chicken soup".

"Drinking chicken soup" is a trigger-like thing, but it doesn't get you to the goal, what makes you reach the goal is a habit.

Habit is to solidify your enthusiasm after "drinking chicken soup" and fix it into a pattern, so that when you are in a bad mood, when you don't want to study, and when you are not in a state, you can still move forward according to the path you have set, instead of being swayed, hindered and stagnant by your emotions.

Let's see if these situations are happening to you, and if so, correct them as soon as possible, otherwise you may also cause a situation where you get twice the result with half the effort.