I have a very severe social phobia and it has cost me a lot

I also have a problem like you now, I am also very miserable, I can't eat well, I can't sleep well, I can't study well, and I'm about to graduate, so all kinds of pressure makes me lose the energy to breathe, I don't have a good way to tell you, because I can't solve my own problems. After reading the enthusiastic friends above, I think that maybe our situation is also very common and can be overcome. Friends are not inseparable.

You should have solved this matter a long time ago, and it would have been done three years earlier.

Anyway, it's not too late to start doing it.

Your situation is not affected by your own mind, it is a similar external force affecting your mind. You have to overcome. It's you who are flustered.

Maybe you're paying too much attention to yourself, and sometimes you have to face your own stupidity and inadequacy. To be faced. Some can't escape.

It's better to face it. You do the exercises. This will increase your confidence and concentration. Sweat a little, maybe better. For example, jogging.

Chat with netizens. Voice chat is possible. I'd love to voice chat with you. Write to me first. You want to increase the experience. I used to be like that. It's also painful. Don't want to see people. Now it's a bit too.

This is not a disadvantage.

The bottom line of dealing with people is not to make people feel that you can be eloquent, but not to make the other person feel offended.

A sincere smile, a gentle nod, and a steady handshake can make you more than half successful.

Good listeners often have a better understanding of the mentality and psychological thoughts of the good speaker, and are more able to help the other party analyze and solve problems in a positive way. The premise of the so-called sales is not to understand the customer first, not to let the customer understand you first.

You can give full play to the advantages of body language, such as leaning your upper body slightly forward when listening to others' conversations, looking into the other person's eyes when communicating, nodding often or using some affirmative words to cooperate with the other person, and controlling the distance between you and others within 60-80 cm, etc., these communication etiquette you do well will make others feel natural, new and familiar.

And you also think that a person who speaks 10 words of philosophy to the point a day is better than 100,000 useless words of gossip.

Play to your strengths and avoid your weaknesses.

The most important thing for people is to believe in themselves. I wish you an early breakthrough and early success!

If you have a chance, you can talk more, mine.

In fact, everyone is like this, sometimes I see others like this, you just don't believe in yourself too much, from what said above, your language skills are very good, find someone to talk to, netizens are good, at least you don't have to see his eyes, if you can, I will be your permanent netizen!

Personally, I think social interaction is very important, and I would like to talk about my own experience in your situation! In the past, I was also such a person (although it is getting better now, but it is also forced out by force) Maybe each of us has more or less occlusion, at this time we should be brave to face the crowd, because only in this way can we live a better life in this society! At that time, I chose to do a sales pitch because it was a must-greet (and mostly strangers) and you might as well try it!

Look for me, no one can help you, I turned out to be the same as you.

The more scared you are, the more courageous you have to do it to overcome it.

Be brave and do everything you are afraid of!

Happiness will come, and you will never fear it again because you have overcome it!

I used to have classmates in the same situation as yours, the most important thing is that you have to work hard to overcome it, since you brought it up, it means that you want to change it and improve, first of all, you have to increase your self-confidence, you have to think that I can, I can change it. Or read more psychological books, or chat on the Internet or something. Go for it!

Your sister still needs your help. My QQ is 260746121. Hope you come out of this shadow sooner.

Ask me if I'm not a good fit Even since the fourth grade, I have friends all over the world.

Social phobia is a common anxiety disorder, but it can be helped to cope and alleviate symptoms by:

Seek professional help: If you feel that social phobia is significantly affecting your life and daily functioning, it is advisable to seek help from a professional counsellor or psychologist. They can provide appropriate** and support, such as cognitive-behavioural (CBT) or psychological**.

Challenge yourself gradually: Start with small, low-stress social activities, and gradually increase the difficulty and challenge of socializing. For example, you can start with a conversation and communication with a close friend or family member and then slowly expand to interaction with strangers.

Positive Thinking: Change your way of thinking and cultivate positive self-talk. Try to focus on your own strengths and successes instead of worrying too much about what others will say.

Plan and prepare: Be well prepared and planned before attending a social event. Knowing what the event is about and who is involved, and thinking about possible conversation topics, can increase your confidence and sense of security.

Seek support and understanding: Share your social phobia with someone close to you, seeking their understanding and support. They can provide encouragement and companionship and play a positive role in your growth.

Self-care: Maintaining good physical health, getting enough sleep, and eating a balanced diet are important to manage anxiety symptoms. In addition, taking up hobbies that you can relax and enjoy can boost your sense of self-worth and happiness.

Remember, overcoming social phobia takes time and patience, don't be too yourself. Gradually try and provoke and fight yourself, and slowly build confidence and self-confidence.

Social phobia is an anxiety disorder that makes people feel uncomfortable and nervous in social situations. For people with social phobia, finding a job that is more suitable for them can help reduce social stress. Here are some industries or careers to consider:

Remote work: Remote work allows you to work in a comfortable environment and avoid face-to-face social situations such as sales, customer service, programming, and design, among others.

Freelancing: Freelancers can work in a variety of settings, including home offices, coffee shops, and public libraries. This profession allows for one's own time and social activities, such as writing, graphic design, translating, and photography.

Technology industry: The technology industry often requires working in a relatively quiet and isolated environment, such as software development, cybersecurity, technical support, and data analytics.

Art industry: The art industry can provide an opportunity to work independently, such as painters, writers, and actors. Although these jobs also need to be in front of the public, they can usually be done on stage or through the Internet.

Academic research: Academic research often requires independent work and can be done in a laboratory or office setting. This kind of profession requires a high level of academic literacy and research ability.

It is important to note that any profession requires certain social skills and abilities, including communicating with colleagues, clients, and management. So, if you decide to pursue a career, make sure that you can gradually adapt and improve your social phobia symptoms, improve your social skills, and increase your confidence.

Hello! I want to help, but I don't know where to start? (Provide some methods for reference).

Let's talk about it in detail with the example of afterglow and facial distress"Drop it"。

Teach you to face the afterglow and facial troubles correctly.

If you accept it sincerely, you will realize this!

Why should we be sad and sad when the expression (afterglow) is unnatural? Because, you think that's one.

The real "symptoms" that make you lose face, the "symptoms" that need to be removed, in fact, it really has no reality.

The body, which is nothing, is said to be nothing, because:

1. If you don't reject it, welcome its arrival calmly, slowly. It will dissipate, and the more sincere it will be.

The faster it disappears, but if you reject it, it will hold you, and the more you repel it, the more it will hold on.

You. Recall your past experience, isn't it?

Your experience is easy to tell you that acceptance is transformation, and you don't have to do nothing in order to maintain a false self-image.

Considering this fact: "Acceptance is transformation".

2. Who of us hasn't had the experience of stiff expressions? Who hasn't had the experience of looking at someone else?

It's just that many of us don't realize it, or realize it but don't take it seriously, they're like you in childhood.

Feel free and easy. Actually, it's normal! And you, but you blame yourself, treat it as a loss of face, and reject it all the way, and now you freeze when it comes to someone's situation.

Notice: Once "the afterglow is excluded, the eyes are cross-gazed, the expression is stiff, and the speech is stiff......"It became a strong purpose, and it would.

There is an inner tension that becomes a conflict, a burden, and this in turn makes your expression stiffer, looking at each other.

And the afterglow is more difficult to be natural, and the speech is not fluent.

Initially, the afterglow, the eye to the eye, the stiff expression, and the stammering of the speech were individual, temporary, and the impact on the person was also.

Individual, temporary, and perhaps even non-existent, and thus ignored, so to speak, nothing. But later, because of the analysis in the previous paragraph, the afterglow, eye contact, stiff expression, and stammering speech are comprehensive and persistent.

A vicious circle is over.

Although everything is nothing, the impact on our psychology and relationships is real.

If you don't calm down and reflect seriously, it's easy to be confused by these real influences and keep going.

On the wrong path of rejection! Until it finally consumes you.

3. Haven't you been looking for a standard for when you can take your eyes off others? But ask.

Others, what is the standard? I'm afraid they won't be able to answer either. Unnatural and natural, there is no standard!

Fear, sadness, joy, fear, anxiety, loss, despair, etc., are all because we cling to "all things".

For the real, the attachment to the "symptoms" is real, the attachment to the "false self" is real, and the attachment to the "exam" is real.

Yes If it were nothing, would you still be afraid, sad, joyful, fearful, anxious, lost, hopeless?

Find the source of the fear and it's solved.

I have it too, but I don't know what to do.

Read your instructions. I was distressed and angry.

I used to have social phobia in junior high school, I didn't have a single friend, and I spent nearly three years alone, so I know the pain very well. I'm angry because you let it go through your junior year? Indeed, you may have some bitterness, please forgive me for my ignorance.

The reason why I was able to come out was partly because of my determination to change, and on the other hand, I was able to owe it to the tireless guidance of a certain teacher. Social phobia is a type of neurosis, which occurs due to personality traits and social factors. If the condition is severe, it is difficult to heal on your own (I don't know if you have been professionally diagnosed, if you are diagnosed, the course of the disease is relatively long).

Neurosis is different from general psychological problems, which can be alleviated by online counseling, and must have a professional **.

Therefore, actively seeking professional help is the only way to go for mental health! Moreover, phobias are one of the easier neuroses, and as long as they are handled properly, they should be able to be resolved before you graduate.

I wish you more and more happiness!

Do you communicate fears with people on QQ? Or only.

Is it fear in a strange situation?

It will be fine when you go out of society. This kind of thing has to be done slowly, and I am like that.

Believe in yourself first and believe that you can overcome your fears and express your emotions. It's okay.

Do you have social phobia?

Hello dear! For social phobia, you must first go to a tertiary psychiatric hospital to find a psychologist for psychological intervention and medication. At the same time, you also need to communicate more with friends, often consciously find people to chat, and slowly adapt.

There is time to run every day to exercise, excrete bad emotions, and increase pleasure hormones. As long as you are persistent, you will definitely succeed.

Questions. Do I have to see a psychiatrist?

Yes, a psychologist can counsel you.

When it comes to socializing, "overcoming fear" is always the number one element: ask yourself, what exactly are you afraid of? Afraid of saying the wrong thing? Afraid that others will think you are superficial? Afraid that the high-ranking senior will ignore you? You don't know the effects without saying it?

Questions. I changed, but it didn't work, I kept telling myself not to be too sensitive, but once I knew that people didn't like me, I didn't want to take the initiative, I didn't have people I talked to a lot in the dormitory, or sometimes I talked to them in the dormitory, and they didn't talk to me outside, so I didn't think they were very accepting of me, I didn't even dare to speak.

Dear, you should be more automatic, more confident, and find a psychiatrist.

Questions. I took the initiative to talk to them, and they wouldn't pay attention to me.

I don't want to be cheeky enough to talk to them.

Open yourself and release yourself.

Don't mind other people's attitude towards you, as long as I don't feel embarrassed, others are not embarrassed.

Questions. I said that they ignored me several times, which caused my already introverted social phobia to become serious again, and I didn't dare to speak psychologically, so I squeezed around them.

Then we can jump out of this circle and choose another circle. Reacquaint yourself with a new group of friends. Overcome this level of fear.

Questions. Then my dormitory relationship is still not good.