What should I do if my child has early love, and what should I do with my child?

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What should I do if my child is in early love?

In China, early love is generally opposed, but in fact, this is a manifestation of children's psychological and physical maturity, and parents need to carry out some correct guidance, not blindly prevent it.

It is generally believed that adolescent love will bring many problems, such as affecting the physical and mental health and academic performance of adolescents, especially for girls, but generally not too serious impact. Early love often ends in failure, and it is rare that early love can stay for life; Some people also believe that early love is an exploration and learning of the relationship between men and women by teenagers, and should not be excessively forbidden or suppressed in preparation for future love and marriage.

In adolescence, while forming intimate friendships among people of the same sex and age, the sexual development leads to attention and love feelings for the opposite sex, and this attention will continue to increase, so that it is natural for a particular person of the opposite sex to develop affection. Parents should trust their children, talk to them as friends and on an equal footing, and help them deal with emotional fluctuations, which can cultivate children to consciously restrain their actions and lives.

After the child falls in love, he must not reprimand, beat and scold the child for his pure hands, go to school, find the other party or parents, but should believe in the child, accept the child, communicate more with the child, and accompany the child more.

1.Believe in children: Parents should be honest with their children, communicate with their children calmly, believe in the pure and beautiful feelings between children, treat children with an equal, sincere and trusting attitude, respect more, care and understand children, and believe what children say.

2.Accept children: It is natural for puppy love to occur during adolescence, and parents should not be regarded as a flood beast.

Parents should treat their children with acceptance. When a child feels that his or her feelings are accepted and appreciated by his parents, he or she will express his or her feelings to his parents, and it is possible for both parties to communicate further.

3.Communicate more with children: children are growing up and have feelings for the opposite sex, but have no experience, at this time parents can appropriately expose themselves, talk about their love experience and experience, give children some guidance, let children understand that liking and falling in love are two different things, teach children to correctly handle and treat their feelings, do not hurt each other, but also protect themselves.

4.Spend more time with your children: Most children's early love is related to the lack of companionship from their parents. Because they don't care enough for their children and have very little company, they seek attention and love outside.

1. Congratulations to the child sincerely: "Congratulations, you are starting to grow up!" ”

When parents find out that the child does have a tendency to fall in love, you must be calm and objective, rather than using a tough attitude to oppose, it is better to understand the child's true thoughts, and use a praising tone to start the conversation between you, such as "Knowing that you are in love, mom is really happy for you, baby, this shows that you are beginning to know how to love and be loved!" "I believe that when children hear such words, they will definitely not make loud noises with their parents. Perhaps after listening to your words, the child will take the initiative to say the "specific situation" of his love.

2. Tell your child your attitude: "Don't object, but let me know how you're doing." ”

When you understand the situation of your child's early love, your parents must clearly state your attitude: "Although we don't oppose it, we don't support it, you can fall in love, but you must abide by the bottom line, let us know your progress at any time." In addition, parents should also clearly state the bottom line, such as not stealing the forbidden fruit, maintaining the enthusiasm for learning, and not entering marriage early for this unstable love, so that the child knows that although the parents do not object, these bottom lines cannot be touched.

3. Usually talk to your child about "each other": what kind of person is he?

When learning that the child has a teenager's "love", although the parents do not object, they still have to talk more about the "one" with the child, on the one hand, to understand what kind of person the child is, only by understanding the child, can they know whether their baby is likely to be taken "astray". On the other hand, by communicating with children, I can also grasp more clearly "how to let children return to the right path".

4. Share with your children that "real life is cruel, and life is not only about love." ”

In life, parents can combine the reality of life and convey a concept to their children: "Only with better people can you live a happier life, and there are many more important things in life besides love." "Let children understand the cruelty of reality, love without economic foundation will suffer more in the future.

Let children know that life is very long, everyone's thoughts are changing, and the current stage of the relationship is fragile and turbulent, so that the child understands the uncertainty of this feeling.

5. Let your child know that you will always love him and that he will always be guarded.

Finally, parents should often "show love" to their children, telling them that no matter what happens or when, parents will always love you. When children receive more attention and love from their parents, the already empty feelings are less important.

This relationship is normal, and we come over like this, to the point where we still need to be guided by our parents on what to do and what not to do.

If I am a class teacher and I find that a student is in love, I will choose to deal with it in a convincing way.

First, I will find the student to talk to him or her and get to know his or her thoughts and feelings. If I feel that the student's puppy love behavior is more serious, I will patiently admonish him or her, telling him or her that puppy love will have a negative impact on learning and growth, including academic performance and mental health. At this point, I explain to him or her that students who are emotionally entangled due to early love are likely to have a negative impact on their studies because of their distraction.

and criticize the student's behavior.

I would then communicate with Kai Qin, the student's parent, and let them know about the child's early love behavior and ask them to help me stop it. I will talk to parents in an affirmative tone, encourage them to continue to pay attention to their children, guide them to talk to their children, avoid their children from indulging in early love, and let them understand that they still have a long way to find a more suitable love.

Finally, I will give the student some ways to deal with puppy love correctly and guide them to fundamentally change their way of thinking. Let them understand that in adolescence, people's spiritual world and physical development are not fully mature, and if they fall into the wrong feelings, it will affect their lives and future.

In short, it is human nature to pursue love, but this nature needs to be properly guided and handled correctly. The class teacher can use his wisdom and love to help students return to normal learning and life.

Most of the children's early love is for a sense of freshness, to satisfy their vanity, or to be loved and petted, as long as they do not delay learning, there is no big problem.

There are often things like puppy love, as long as you are well enlightened. Sometimes puppy love doesn't interfere with learning. Many children in early love are measured, so you don't need to push them too much.

They should be encouraged to socialize with each other. Don't stop blindly. Guide them correctly. Tell them what love is. Teach them some sexual knowledge in moderation. Don't listen to the first floor fart.

Now it is normal for students to fall in love, it is just a kind of ignorance in adolescence, as a parent, you should give more care, communicate well with your child, and avoid early love.

Correct guidance, don't blindly manage and stop, it will cause a shadow in your heart.

Be open-minded, it's nothing, communicate well with them, look at these problems correctly, don't prohibit them, it may be the opposite, causing the child's rebellious psychology, talk to the child more about this issue, like the child's friend, let the child open his heart.

Don't go and insult your child. Puberty is normal. In politics class, the teacher also told the students that it is normal to have a hazy feeling about others. But be respectful of others and keep your own secrets.

Don't expose her (him) head-on, then his self-esteem will be damaged. I don't think parents want that.

So you have to pay attention to his or her behavior. We all have our own judgment now. Cut off on her own. The parents cut off their contact, but the love could not be broken. So get out of this on your own!

Puberty is normal. And it's not some early love, it's just the admiration for the opposite sex in adolescence, and you will get tired of it after a while. Parents should not reprimand their children too much, otherwise it will become more and more serious and cause psychological trauma to the children.

You can often take your child to play and tell him about the consequences of her early love. You must educate him [her], but you can't beat and scold the child, you can't leave a shadow on his [her] heart, and you can talk to the child's [man] girlfriend!

Communication is very important, the family is very don't lose your temper with your child, the adolescent child is very rebellious, if you don't let him do anything, he will do more, so tell him seriously that the harm of early love will delay learning and affect the future.

Some parents have a lot of, what do we care about you? We love how to find it. Now from the fourth grade of elementary school, there are many people who call daughters-in-law and wives.

Small children? I think children like each other very much at most, childhood sweethearts, two little guesses! But this kind of liking should be very simple!

Children know what it's like to be in love! Parents should make them good friends! Don't use force, it's counterproductive.

Today's children are rebellious.

I think it depends on the person. Some children are mentally mature, of course. Of course, students are mainly interested in learning during the study period, and parents should care more about their children, which is the first priority. When you are friends with your child, you will get twice the result with half the effort when talking about your heart.

Communicate with him more, this is a normal phenomenon, and parents can't mess around. Children have a rebellious mentality, and correct guidance can help them learn.

Let him (her) fall in love, talk to him (her), let him (her) not take it too seriously, after all, not many people can go on, just don't delay studying.

Don't block it, otherwise it will cause rebellion, and the consequences will be far more serious than early love.

Let him go, but pay attention to him, and pay attention to him secretly. Enlighten him slowly.

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