Is it okay for a 40 day old child to go to the cemetery to worship the elderly?

It's not good, don't take your children to these places

After the child is 2 years old, he can go to the cemetery to pay respects to the elderly.

Generally speaking, children under the age of 2 are not recommended to go to the grave with their parents, on the one hand, they walk unsteadily, basically have to be carried by adults or on their backs, and adults can't do anything when they go to the mountains, but they have to take care of children. But if there are many people in the family, taking children will not affect other people, it is really okay to bring children under the age of 2, anyway, mothers can see for themselves, and it is okay to ask the opinions of the elderly.

Precautions for children going to the cemetery:

1. There are many mosquitoes, do a good job of prevention: there are many mosquitoes and ants in the mountains, and they especially like to bite, so bringing mosquito spray can effectively alleviate them; Wear long sleeves, long pants, and hats, and minimize the exposure to the outside; When climbing a mountain, try to be careful of spiders and insects hanging from trees.

2. Firecrackers should be informed in advance: At the end of the tomb sweep on the mountain, firecrackers will be basically set off, at this time, regardless of whether there are children in the area, you must inform the people around you loudly in advance, after all, other people's families may have children to follow, and it is difficult to say if you are scared of children.

3. Look at the weather: no matter how old the child is, as long as the weather is bad, don't take it, on the one hand, it is unsafe on the mountain during thunderstorms, and on the other hand, it is easy to slip when walking on rainy days.

There are taboos to take children to visit graves :

Children under the age of the age should not go to the grave, as it is said that children can see bad things when their eyes are confused. In addition, the environment of the cemetery is also poor, children are easy to get sick, more likely to be frightened, and children are easy to cry and easily startle the ancestors, which is also disrespectful to the deceased around the cemetery.

2. The custom in some places is that the family of the newborn child must bring the new daughter-in-law and the mother who has just given birth to the child to go to the grave to sweep the grave during the Qingming Festival of this year. First of all, it shows that it recognizes its ancestors and returns to its ancestors, and secondly, it also comforts the ancestors: the family has spread branches and leaves, and new people have been added!

3.In the smoke of the firecrackers, the couple should kowtow in front of the grave, and the children should let the adults hold each other and salute together, and say "Father (mother), daughter-in-law (granddaughter-in-law) has saluted you!" Of course, how to call it will vary depending on the identity of the ancestors and the different generations of Lu Clan.

4. When going to the grave, avoid loud noise, laughter and scolding, and loud speech, all of which are disrespectful to the ancestors, and you must control your emotions and attitudes, so as not to disturb and offend the yin spirit.

5. Do not run and jump when going to the grave. When going to the grave, you should be solemn, and you should not step over the grave and your offerings, and it should cause a nuisance to the spirits in the vicinity.

Since ancient times, different places have different funeral customs, which is also a kind of mourning and farewell for the deceased, which can bring spiritual sustenance to the family. When a funeral is held, relatives and friends are usually present to say goodbye. However, there are many places that have different rules, and it is not recommended to attend a funeral if the child is too young.

So can a 4-year-old child attend grandpa's funeral, and at what age can a child go to grandpa's grave?

A 4-year-old child can attend his grandfather's funeral, but it depends on the actual situation, if the child is supervised. Try not to take it to the funeral site, because 4-year-old children are relatively young, and seeing some of the funeral goods and people's clothes at the funeral may also have fear.

There are also many places where there is such a custom, and it is not recommended to go to the grave of the elders if the child is too young. Generally, children under the age of 7 do not need to go to the grave. Generally, the conditions of the grave site are eerie, and children who are too young are not very sensible, and they may accidentally touch some objects around the grave.

In addition, the funeral is crowded and the environment is noisy, and the 4-year-old child's body resistance is not very strong, which may cause discomfort such as colds, which should be seen according to the child's physique.

If the children are too young, adults should try not to take them to the funeral to avoid the child being frightened. In addition, the funeral is more complicated, and it may affect the health of the child.

Now there is nothing taboo about sweeping graves. The key depends on whether the child is willing to go or not. The following conditions can be met.

One: The child is older.

Parents should not bring children who are too young to go to the festival, especially those who are a few months old or a few years old. In general, it is best to wait until the child is 10 years old before taking the child to the festival. Because at this time, the child's psychological tolerance is enhanced, and he has an understanding of the sacrifice and the deceased relatives, not out of ignorance, and the fear in his heart is weaker, and it is easier to feel the meaning of the festival.

Two: The child is willing to go.

To take a child to the sacrifice, he must first be willing to go. If the child is unwilling to go, parents must not force the child to go together, otherwise it is easy to cause the child's psychological shadow.

Three: The child can correctly understand the meaning of death.

People are afraid of death, and children are the same, and they are even more afraid. Sacrifice is a sad thing, children can not correctly understand the meaning of death, to sacrifice is undoubtedly to exacerbate the child's fear of death, is not conducive to the child's character and emotional development. Therefore, it is more meaningful for children to take children to sacrifice after they truly understand the meaning of birth, old age, sickness and death.