Philosophical psychological problems are the reason why people are always swearing.

First, you are resistant to them, you are afraid to face them, and most importantly, you are afraid to face yourself.

Second, your speech and demeanor are not highly skilled, your thinking is not avant-garde enough, your words are too much, and your actions are too naïve.

Thirdly, your taste is not good enough, your mind is not active enough, but you have improved now, you have found yourself and can know your own shortcomings, and you have the mind to make up for it proves that you have improved.

Be careful that if you say too much, you will lose it, and give yourself strong confidence that you can do it, and you will be better than him in the future.

1.For them, it's an outlet for catharsis.

2.Once someone is given a relatively inferior "nickname", it is difficult to be changed, because as long as you do something similar, you will be mentioned by others, and no amount of good deeds you do will have much effect.

3.In fact, this is not a philosophical question, but more like a manifestation of the excessive psychological pressure of modern people.

You should be more tolerant of these kinds of people (although it will be a little difficult to do), they taunt you, and your best way to deal with it is to laugh it off and disdain to argue, and after a few times, they will be bored with themselves, and this kind of title will not be mentioned very often

Classmate relationship, not by "getting", what is needed is sincerity Sincerity is relative, don't be afraid that others will sometimes opportunistically hurt you once or twice, if you keep sincere, everyone will respect you from the bottom of their hearts, so that the classmate relationship will be the most stable and long-term.

Hehe, according to Freudian psychology, there are several problems with people who talk like this, it is certain that they do not have girlfriends, and they are not often together, so the impulses of young males cannot be satisfied, and they can only comfort themselves with words. In the coming year with Chinese Confucian culture, stupidity can be interpreted as not being talented and not wise. The subject after it is female organ, which refers to women.

In general, it can be deduced on the basis of "women's lack of talent is virtue", that is to say, they insult you with the requirements of feudal ideas for women, which is the release of men's self-hegemony, what is the reason for the release? It's that you can't appreciate each other, and their self-esteem suffers. Why can't we appreciate each other?

Because words are not speculative, the so-called seeking the same breath is unpleasant, and the ugly point is that the smell is like-minded, and they can't be like-minded, so they naturally despise each other. Mutual contempt is naturally ...... for the purpose of promoting one's own instinct and suppressing the instinct of others

Scolding is nothing more than venting, see if they say this to each other, if it is just for you to say this, it may be to use you as a bag to comfort yourself. If they say the same thing between themselves, it means that scolding is also a daily communication here, and you should scold back, otherwise you will appear very weak, as if you are not in the same circle as them, and you will be excluded.

They scold you because they are themselves or because they are joking, if it is the former then you should play less with them and meet some other friends, but if it is the latter, then you better think about whether you are right before you speak...

Let you insult me and criticize me, just like the breeze blowing the lotus. There is clear water under the roots, and it is not stained with dust.

Usually the word "forced" means dirty.

The word in front is to see which thing it is aimed at.

It's an insulting word.

Probably he thinks that this way he is very fashionable (self-righteous).

It's nothing but silly.

I don't understand philosophical terms. I understand it in layman's terms.

The crowd picked up the wood and the flame was high.

The three of them became tigers, all mouths were golden, and all of them were united.

If you don't accumulate steps, you can't reach thousands of miles, and if you don't accumulate small streams, you can't become rivers and seas.

Teamwork, unity, easy action, many people, brainstorming is like the relationship between pressure and pressure, the same strength, concentrated in one point, it is very strong.

Mob politics, where numerous falsehoods combine into truth.

The people who scold people are people who are not qualified.

Because she likes it, she always feels superior.

Scolding people are flawed in their own hearts.,There was a girl in the class when I was in elementary school.,Always bullying me and scolding me.,When I grew up, I knew that she was inferior and she didn't look good.,Whatever others say, she feels unpleasant.,I think they think she's ugly.。。 Very sensitive. This kind of person is actually very miserable, they have their own shortcomings, and even people who don't like themselves will not be happy, no one messes with them because they are scoundrels, unreasonable, and no one really wants to be friends with them, and if they are very lonely, their temper will become more and more weird.

In fact, as long as you treat them a little better, it's not a fake flattery, it's not a pity for them, it's really understanding them, being good to them, they can feel it, and they'll be good to you, and then I and that girl are still very good friends!

Maybe it's because there is too much inner drama.

Your question is very interesting, but what I don't quite understand is why you see your deep inner understanding as a distraction from yourself. The heart is precisely your truest feeling, and since he has influenced you before, it is normal for you to have that uncomfortable feeling now. Adolescent children are very sensitive to emotions and emotions, even those that have passed can be easily remembered.

Judging from your description, he doesn't have much ill will towards you, but his way of acting is not very acceptable to others. Moreover, he tends to do this only to the people around him. Since you have been apart for a year, the relationship is far away, and there is no need for him to think about it again.

So, he's still him, it's just that you see him from a different angle. Just like some people who are strong on the outside, but weak when they come home to their parents, these seemingly contradictory personalities can actually be integrated into the same person.

Coming back to your emotions, if you feel uncomfortable, you can talk to the people around you, or deal with it by shouting loudly, keeping a diary, etc. In the future, as long as you maintain a distant relationship with him, there will not be so much friction between you and him.

1. Your psychology is normal, and completely normal, which is reassuring;

2. Your "bringing a friend" (who once took you home) behavior, you can only react like this, if you don't react, you are abnormal;

3. Your friend used to be the dominant person in your environment at that time, and dominated your heart, and you were afraid of losing him to a certain extent, and as a result, you lost him;

4. After losing him, you think it's your fault or he thinks it's your fault, stay away from you and also hit you hard, it's normal for you to not be able to explain yourself at this age;

5. This is a game that most people play or have played, and you have not come to the earth in vain;

6. After your college entrance examination, the game has a new twist, and this twist is a bit sudden, so you choose to doubt, resentment or even fear, this is your problem, the story is a game with a twist, and the twist is not just a turn, but also a complete turn, otherwise how can it be called a "turn".

7 For this reason you need not doubt that the high school period is over, the turning point is not, this is the beginning of the game of the heart, and it is your excellence in its use;

8. The previous "bringing friends" has lowered his head, feeling your strength, his heart is beginning to change, he may think that you are the "bringing friends" in the new game, cherish him, and cherish a love in high school;

9. Because of his transformation, all the unhappiness, fear, resentment, and sleeplessness in high school will come to an end, and then change your good memories of college, you will think, oh, high school is really interesting, and I have a lot of trouble with my friends, but it makes me remember my high school years deeply;

10. The reason why you make trouble is because you were indeed friends, friends with specific facts, and friends with a foundation, and the basic trouble is like a "childhood sweetheart", and the awkwardness of having a friend base can only be a small episode, which will be understood later;

11. Facing him in your heart is the only thing you have to do, it is he who inspires your fighting spirit;

12. You have never been weaker than him, you have always been stronger than him, but he was the "leader" at the time, but you still challenged, you lost his face in front of the teacher, and you spent half a year or even longer to accumulate resentment towards him, why, you are stronger than him in your heart, you are accumulating the strength of resistance for the future;

13. You can only accumulate for the future, because he was a small boss at that time, and you couldn't compete with him;

14. If you don't welcome a new story, it is a deep interference in your heart, when you open your heart to meet a new story, why bother, everyone is envious of you for having such a wonderful experience, but you don't know how to cherish it;

15. This society needs to be sealed to set off itself, so it needs all kinds of people around you, and you are lucky to have a person who directly reflects your growth;

16. Remind you again to thank him, it is he who gives you the strength to grow.

I understand the kind of distress that that person used to cause you when you were younger, even hurtful, that it affected you for so many years.

But after all, it's your experience, and it's what makes you who you are.

You say that you want to see a more real world like childhood, this sentence is contradictory, our childhood only sees the world of children, just a candy can be happy for a day, but is the real world like this? No, it's not. It's still this candy, this has to be made, this has to be bought, and in order to buy this candy, we have to work hard.

This is the world. All you want is the simple beauty of your childhood.

And who was that simple and beautiful person when he was a child? It's you! So the candy is still there, you are still you, and the happiness is still at your fingertips, as long as you put aside some unhappiness, you can still get that candy, that happiness.

You're already great, aren't you? You have come out of the shadow of that person, you have been admitted to a good university, you can still face that person, this is a great place for you, I believe that such a great you can also find your own happiness again. Come on.

Finally ran into a decent point of the problem.

First of all, I agree with you, your friend is indeed a very controlling and very naïve person. So when you ask the teacher he hates, you feel like you've betrayed him. Therefore, do everything possible to isolate you.

Actually, you don't have to think too deeply, this is the intrigue between ordinary students, and it's not a big deal. This is more common among girls and less common among boys.

I feel that in his worldview, there is only one thought, that is, those who follow me prosper, and those who go against me perish. So he's very naïve.

This kind of person will naturally suffer in the future, and when he meets a really stronger person, he can no longer control the other party through various means of interpersonal relationships like in school, and he will be defeated and spurned.

In the face of such a person, I really don't understand what is worth your fear and resentment.

So I think the root of the problem is that you're too sensitive. For his various practices, your inner reflection is far greater than reality. Do you know why he came back to you as if nothing happened after the college entrance examination?

I think he's forgotten about isolating you in the past. You're right, he's actually a kid, domineering and unreasonable, but he can't remember hatred.

Under the impact of time, the memories of his fight with you are diluted, and the rest is mainly the memory of being friends with you.

I hope you will be able to recognize the facts and get rid of the psychological shadow that you have cast over yourself.

In addition, I would like to give you a small suggestion, people who are too sensitive psychologically, and even some neurotic. Regular exercise is the best way to release and relieve your emotions. We often say that some people are nervous, which means that people are insensitive and slow to react to things, but that kind of person is the happiest.

Maybe in your heart, at the beginning, you have a certain admiration for him, even if he has a bad personality, but his erudition makes you admire. And it just so happens that your classmate may be a person with a dual personality of super low self-esteem and super conceit, and the paranoia of his personality does not allow his admirers to recognize the good of others.

You have a relatively weak personality, and you happen to be in adolescence at this age, and boys at this time always like to join some small groups or something, afraid that they will be isolated and ostracized. These sensitive factors have caused some of the harm he has done to you to have a deep impact on your heart, and even have developed a certain obsessive thoughts. Even if everyone gets together to laugh later, subconsciously you still have a deep fear of him.

These undesirable factors need to be self-restrained and resolved. You don't need to be afraid of anything, you are equal in personality, even better in some aspects, be confident, don't think that others accept you because they pity you and sympathize with you. Moreover, as you grow older and have experienced life, you will become more and more mature, and your character will become stronger.

The above is just a personal thought, I hope it will help you and get out of the shadow of your soul as soon as possible.