Why do you feel unhappy after helping someone?

When I was studying in college, I was studying in a place where I was not familiar with life, my fellow was the most cordial, I was inseparable from a fellow countryman, I loved egg yolk, he loved egg white, he used money more economically, every day I would buy an egg, the egg yolk belonged to him, I ate egg white, and it lasted until my junior year, we were very good, we were friends who were envied by others, and we talked about everything. I even sometimes think that he is my own sister, and we will be in the same city and together for the rest of our lives after graduation. I definitely didn't expect our relationship to break up because of an egg yolk.

A few times, another friend who has a good relationship with us to eat, it just so happens that he also loves to eat egg yolks, I sometimes unconsciously give him egg yolks, unexpectedly, my inseparable silently remembered in my heart, and finally once, we had a conflict because of a little thing, he said the grievances in his heart, when he said why you give my egg yolk to others, I was stunned. How horrible the habit was, turning my stuff into his. Our relationship has not gone back to what it used to be.

When you help someone, they don't think you should help him, but they will find the reason from themselves, and find a suitable reason for you to help him, no matter what the reason is, once it is established, then it is inevitable that you will help him, because his brain will give you a very reasonable reason to help him. In this way, the guilt in his heart will be reduced a lot, and this genetics seems to be extremely helpful in reducing stress.

There is no love for no reason in this world and there is no good for no reason, since others must be good to you for a reason, if it is not a parent, it is even more for a reason, for these good when some people have felt that it should be, in his heart has never been grateful and reciprocated, in the long run will inevitably lead to the alienation of friends and even relatives.

Others don't say that they must repay anything for their goodness, but it is still very necessary to have a grateful heart, especially those who think that others should be good to him, and they should have a clear understanding of reality and self, and it is very undesirable to look at others as they should be.

I'm an example, sometimes after work colleagues want to take a ride, I think anyway, I also agreed to the way, this weather may have a strong wind, heavy rain or something, and then a long time, go to work also take a hitchhiker, soft-hearted, think about people after all the girls have spoken, and it is not easy to refuse, and then once, she was late for work, and the reason for being late turned out to be that I didn't wait for her on the way to work. . . I'm here to work for you.,This makes me angry.,See.,Kindness didn't get a good word from others.,It's taken for granted.,And then after getting off work and waving at me.,It's all invisible.,But when I encounter bad weather, I'll still take the initiative to carry a section.,No way.,I'm soft-hearted.,But she also knows how to get off the lane and thank you.。

For example, I usually like to shop online, and occasionally I buy a bunch of things that I like to eat. Everyone is in a dormitory, and if I eat by myself, I will always be very embarrassed, so I will give them some shares. If you say that it's okay to feed them the first time, you may feel embarrassed, but if you do it the second time, then they will assume that you should be good to them.

Once, my boyfriend bought a more delicious snack, and I didn't give it to them like before, although I didn't say anything from my mouth, but I felt full of malice in my eyes.

Cong Fei has helped many people and sponsored tuition, which seems to be more than 3 million in total. But then he got cancer and died. When he was sick, none of the people he sponsored visited him.

Later, some of the sponsored people said in an interview that I did not ask him or force him to sponsor me. I don't owe him anything. Some of the sponsors ran out of money and even asked him for money if they wanted to change their mobile phones.

Today I met a little girl at the train station who said that her wallet was stolen and asked me to give her some money to eat, and then I took her to the next Tex to eat a burger, and then she asked me to add her and said that she would pay me back, but my friends didn't pass. Later, she said that she had a sister who had no money, so she asked me to transfer some money to her on WeChat, but I felt a little wrong, so I rejected her. So far, she still hasn't agreed to my friend request, and now I regret helping her, and I feel like I won't help if it's a similar situation in the future.

1. Your little love is the hope of other people's lives;

2. There is a fresh life that is about to wither, and they still want to take a look at the world more and try more things that have not been cultivated;

3. A little pocket money can rebuild the building of life;

4. Such a young life has not yet bloomed, so it should not wither early;

5. Give a fight to imitate love, and life will be eternal because of you;

6. Save others and water and fire, life will also be more meaningful;

7. Reach out and let love fill the world!

8. When someone falls, we stretch out our hand to pull him, and others will look at him with gratitude; When others are in trouble, everyone lends a helping hand, and there is no difficulty that cannot be solved.

It's that you're thinking too much.

Your own sister, you know that she doesn't mind at all, but you yourself feel embarrassed to speak, because you think too much, you feel that you shouldn't trouble her too much, you shouldn't disturb her rhythm of life too much, you want her to have her own space and time.

It is not easy to listen to other people's hearts, because it is full of negative energy. It's not easy for you to digest the negative emotions that come with listening. What's more, you don't feel the point of helping him because he doesn't show gratitude.

If you're going to listen, make sure you're prepared to be ready to melt away negative emotions and not expect feedback.

Of course, to help others, there is no obligation and moral kidnapping, only whether you want to or not. If you want to, you can help, help as much as you can, if you don't want to, you just say no, it's none of your business.

It's not worth it to mess up your mood because you've helped someone else, you say, right?

So, in the future, based on my own feelings, I will help if I am happy, and withdraw at any time if I am not happy, ok?