What is the difference between compliments and appreciation

Compliment: To praise or praise for the purpose of pleasing the other person. Also known as "Gong Wei".

Appreciation: A good thing that people praise or a noble moral deed.

A compliment is a compliment from a subordinate to a superior, but most of it is sycophancy, not sincerity. If it's a compliment from the same level, it may be bad for you.

Praise is generally the recognition of superiors to subordinates, or sincere compliments between peers. It is rarely a lie.

A compliment is generally a request from that person.

Appreciation is to see the achievements of others, a positive attitude to affirm others, to envy others.

I want to be different. One is true and the other is in good conscience. Just for.

Make someone happy or something.

One hypocrisy, one sincerity.

A very good talker, often complimenting others and saying a lot, but you may not remember that the person who really appreciates you, even if he speaks very briefly, you will be impressed.

It makes no difference! Good people are scheming and wise, while bad people are cunning when they are scheming. Do you see the difference?

If you are a receptive person, then judge from a variety of factors such as the environment.

If you're the sender, then, as long as you're sincere, don't do anything else

Well, support the statement of this comrade upstairs of mine.

Praise that is not based on facts is called flattery.

Flattering means: flattering people with nice words. Pinyin: gōng wéi

Citation: "A Little History of Civilization: Part II": "At the moment, he said some kind words, and Governor Liu really complimented him, so he got up and said goodbye." Mao Dun's "A Woman" III: "They compliment you to your face, but they turn their backs and say bad things about you." ”

synonyms: flattery.

synonyms

Flattery [ fèng cheng ].

Interpretation: Say nice things to compliment and stammer.

Citation: Zhou Erfu's "Morning in Shanghai" Part 4 35: "Xu Yide ignored Mei Zuoxian's flattery, he anxiously wanted to understand the party's intentions earlier." ”

The day before yesterday, a friend posted a ** in the focus group. **, a lady said, the most ruthless way I have ever seen to abolish people is to "kill" - to hold a person high, to the point of unworthy morality, this person will be arrogant, frivolous, self-righteous, this person will make a big mistake because of arrogance. When the words are pleasing enough and beautiful enough, who cares about the advice that goes against the ear.

So the partner asked a question: what is the difference between the praise and the praise commonly used in our coaches?

Some friends explained that the praise with the goal of killing is a compliment.

In my opinion, the distinction between praise and compliment is not in the goal.

In his book The Weakness of Human Nature, Dale Carnegie quoted the great philosopher John Dewey as saying that the deepest impulse of human nature is "the sense of presence."

One of the signs of this "sense of presence" is to get some pleasant feedback.

These pleasant feedbacks can be said to be compliments or compliments.

It all depends on which angle you look at.

Some languages, from the perspective of the recipient, have a very strong sense of empowerment. When he hears these words, he is encouraged, he is better, he works harder in some areas. From an outsider's point of view, the person being praised is completely unworthy of those good words, and he can certainly call these words "gluttonous words".

It has been said that you can distinguish a compliment from a compliment just by looking at the intent of the person who compliments it.

The praiser is fact-based, while the language of the complimenter is often empty.

The complimenter has no selfish purpose, whereas the compliment has an obvious personal purpose.

The question is whether it is based on facts that can be distinguished, and it is often difficult to distinguish between altruism and altruism, and sometimes, altruism is also altruism.

From the perspective of the shaping process of focus, whether the language used is based on facts depends on whether the other party has used these words to describe the facts, and also to see what role they will play in the future.

There are some languages that you have organized for a long time, which are also based on facts, and are beautiful, and you may not have any purpose of your own, just praise for the sake of compliment, but the other party just turns a blind eye. Because in his opinion, it is "worthless, cheap".

These compliments are also not compliments, but only false compliments.

A savvy complimenter will understand what kind of language will work and what form of praise will make the other person want to accept it.

Some compliments are not necessarily verbal, but also behavioral.

For example, being willing to follow someone is a compliment.

Because, these behaviors satisfy the other party's "sense of presence".

In the final analysis, the distinction between praise and compliment is a moral judgment, which is specific to a certain thing. Without context, there is no point in lexically distinguishing.

In coaching, compliments are ineffective compliments, they are like grass in a rice field, they look like they look like rice, but they are not really rice.

As for praising and killing, praising can still be praise, but there is a goal of "killing" hidden behind it, and this kind of praise is no longer ethical. In other words, the rice is still the cherry blossoms of the front of the world, but it is moldy.