Do you take care of your children yourself, or do you leave them to your parents?

Updated on parenting 2024-05-28
34 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    From the perspective of children's growth needs alone, unless parents are unusually lacking or irresponsible, parents are definitely the most conducive to the baby's success. Therefore, if one of the parents can leave the job for a few years, it is the best choice, but in the case of the general environment cannot understand the situation of taking a baby, it may cause a heavy blow to the career of the absent parent.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    80 days after the baby was born is grandma and grandpa together to help bring, grandpa is the school math teacher, the baby and grandpa grow up in school, my husband and I go back to the town on the weekend to see the children, I think grandpa and grandma with a good hand.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If you can bring it yourself, you can bring it yourself, and if there are difficulties, you have to overcome them, rather than sacrificing your child's education, otherwise if your family education fails, your career will be meaningless.

    In the first two years of the child's birth, if you are really busy, you can ask the elderly to help, but in the character formation period after the age of 2, the parents must be absolutely responsible, otherwise the next generation will be finished, and no matter how superior the material is, it will be a failed life.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Bring your own job, otherwise your parents will bring, it's as simple as that, don't tell me about nannies, I definitely don't want strangers to take my children, there are a lot of nannies in our community who take them alone, or grandma looks at the nanny and doesn't feel good.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    First of all, it depends on whether the elderly are able to take care of children and whether they are willing to take care of children. Everything must be built on willingness. Sometimes it's not a multiple-choice question.

    If you have a choice, my opinion is that if you are particularly capable, bring it yourself before the age of 3. Because you can still find your place in life after you come back. If the ability is not up or down, the old man is willing to bring it, let the old man bring it, and you can participate as much as possible.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I feel that if I have time, I can bring it myself, and if I don't have time, I can bring my parents to take care of the children, and it is better for the children to be next to the parents.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    For parents of children, the most important thing is at this time when you are off work. Be sure to take the child with your own hands and communicate with the child. Don't think that children don't understand anything and don't need to communicate, be sure to chat and play with your children, so that your children will slowly teach values and shape their character.

    Therefore, I think that bringing children to their parents does not mean that they are completely thrown to their parents, and bringing them themselves does not mean that they must do everything themselves. A combination of day and night is a good option.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    From the perspective of parenting concepts, after all, it has been almost 40 years since the reform and opening up, and parents really can't keep up with the changes of the times, so it's better for us to bring it ourselves.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Giving the child to the parents may cause some family conflicts, which will also have some impact on the child. But if you are too busy at work and have no skills, you can only take care of your parents. In this case, you can't be a shopkeeper and ignore your children.

    Parents are just auxiliary belts, and they have to use all holidays and evenings to take care of the children.

    There is a saying that three years old to see the young, seven years old to see the old, if handed over to the mother-in-law or their own mother to bring, the next generation with a child will be particularly accustomed to this child, everything depends on her, whether she is wrong, or do right, never to say her, will not correct her in time. There are many parents in life who are busy with work and career efforts, and entrust their children to their parents to take care of them, and some of them can't see their children for a year and a half. Over time, the child does not even know the name of the parents and does not have any affection for the parents.

    Children who grow up without their parents are very rebellious.

    I don't have a job, and I take care of the baby full-time. If you have resigned and have been at home to give birth since the beginning of your pregnancy, then you can bring it yourself, because you choose to be a full-time mother, you naturally hope to take care of the baby yourself, and the child will have a greater sense of belonging with her mother from an early age. Children in the process of growing up, especially between 0 and 6 years old, the influence of parents plays a very important role for them, do not because of your willfulness, the child becomes timid and cowardly, insecure, lack of original maternal love and father's love, this kind of family grows up children are also psychologically deformed.

    After giving birth to a child, you must be responsible for the child, take care of the child personally, and grow up with the child, in this process, you will gain the happiness and joy of parents and children, and the child will also be healthier physically and mentally because of the growth in a normal family. Bringing children depends on the actual situation of the individual. If conditions permit, isn't it a joy to be able to accompany your child's growth in person?

    But if you don't have time, and your parents happen to be free, then you have to let your parents help you take care of your children.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    You should bring your own, because the parents are older, and it will be very hard for them to take care of their children, and there is a certain generation gap between parents and young people, and the education methods will be different.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Bringing children is definitely what you need to bring to yourself, only you can bring your children well, you can give your children the most correct education, parents may spoil their children.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You should bring your own, because many elderly people are not very good at educating their children, and they may not educate their children well.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    You can bring it to your parents. Many people don't want to give their children to their parents, the most important thing is that they are worried that their parents' backward parenting concepts will not be able to bring their children well.

    To bring children to parents, we must first learn to be grateful, even if parents are backward in thinking, but they can understand your difficulties, and lending a helping hand is something that others can't do. If we are still picky, it will be worth more than we will lose if we annoy our parents.

    How can the key to parenting change for parents? My personal advice is two: 1. Try to communicate, don't think it's going to be difficult, and sometimes parents are very open-minded.

    2. Enroll your child in an early education class, it is recommended that the child will climb before going, and parents should also go to inspect it to see if the course is reasonable. The purpose of this is twofold, one is that parents can learn parenting knowledge from the early education center, and parents will not be very reluctant to new knowledge, and avoid us from always preaching and contradicting us. Second, it is very hard to take care of children.

    You can get to know more people in the early education center, and your children can also have playmates, and the parent-child time will be more interesting.

    The above is only a personal suggestion and can be chosen according to your family situation.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Of course, children should be brought by their biological parents, so that children can grow up in the right environment, and bring them to grandparents, which is prone to spoiling and is not conducive to the growth of children.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    No, it should be brought by yourself, the parents are older, and their living habits and body treatment of their children will have an impact!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It is best for children to bring their own, and parents can help novice parents share a little of the burden, but try to bring their own if they can.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It also depends on the conditions of the family, of course, it is best to be able to bring it yourself, if the parents are physically allowed, they are willing to take their children, and let the parents help is the choice of many young parents. It's a bit irresponsible to throw it at your parents altogether.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    No. The way parents educate is fundamentally different from ours, and there is a generation gap, if children are let their parents take them, they will spoil their children unpresentably.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    It is best to bring the child by yourself, and if the grandparents miss the child very much, you can leave it with them for a while during the holidays.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    There are pros and cons, if time permits, it's best to take care of the children yourself, do it yourself, there is no time to go to work, even if the parents take it, it's best to be around.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Considering economic factors and other decisions, it is best to bring it yourself, and parents who can't help it.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Parents are role models for their children, and their own children are physically and mentally healthy.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It should be, otherwise why do you give birth as a parent.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Parents have an obligation to raise their children, there is no doubt about it, and it certainly should.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Why not, how much salary do you have to support your family.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Introduction: After the birth of the child, the parents are more entangled, whether to take the child themselves or let the old man take care of the child, to know that their own children and the elderly with children are different, there is a certain difference between them, this has to be analyzed and decided according to the specific situation of your family.

    However, it is better to be able to take care of your own children or take your own children, there is a big generation gap between the educational concept of parents and the elderly, most of the old people educate their children when they are still the traditional way of education before, and now young parents are more fashionable with their children, and more conducive to the healthy development of children, and more scientific, can take care of their own children, and parents with children, can find children's problems in time and give guidanceAs an old man, they are a little reluctant, thinking that it is good for the child to be happy now, but to know that some of the child's problems have not changed now, and it is very difficult to change in the future, so I also remind all parents to draw one person as much as possible to take care of the child's growth.

    Many old people with children are very spoiled, all their things are all replaced, to know that the child is the need to master some independent living ability of the elderly to subcontract instead, or for the child's requirements unprincipled consent, then it will also lead to the child has some not very good character, but also let the child have some not very good behavior habits, as a parent wants to let the child grow up healthily, then you must pay time, but also have to pay energy, in-laws with children although said to be able to save a certain amount of time, and can save you energy, but for the development of children is still not very good, can bring their own bring, really can't bring, then unify the education method with the elderly, and participate more in the growth of children in daily life, so that you can also find problems in time and correct problems in time.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It is better to bring it yourself, so that you can standardize the child's words and deeds, you can create a particularly good family environment for the child, the child's three views are also more positive, the difference between the two is relatively large, the child's personality is completely different, and the child should stay with his parents more.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    It would be better to bring your own children. The difference is that it will be very tiring to take care of the children themselves, but they can educate the children very well, if the parents take the children, the parents may spoil the children more, and the children will develop a lot of messy and bad problems.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    You should bring your own children. There is a big difference. First of all, the way of education is different, the impact on children is different, so that parents are very convenient to take their children, but it is not particularly assured, intergenerational education is easy to produce a situation of spoiling.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Should we leave our children with our parents, or should we bring them ourselves? In fact, I think this is a problem that has become very confusing for many people. If we hand over our children to our parents, we are afraid that our children will be estranged from our own relationships, but if we give our children to our children, it will also affect our own work.

    If our parents are more reasonable and don't know how to read their children, they feel that they can choose to hand over their children to their parents, so that children can understand more truths. And we also have more time to work, so that we can also give our children a better living environment and a better living conditions. I also hope that parents can pay attention to this situation, if you are busy with work, then you should hand over your children to your parents, so that you can also help yourself to have time to do more things.

    If we want our children to grow up with us, then we can choose to keep our children around, but we need to be careful. At this time, our work may be affected to a certain extent, so we must choose a more suitable job, but also choose a job with easier time. In this way, you will be able to take care of the child.

    I think it is better to keep children with their parents, and if we keep children with their parents, it can also make children feel happier. But if we leave our children with the elderly, it will also lead to the children becoming left-behind children. After the child encounters some problems, he is unable to communicate with the parents.

    If parents have this idea, then we can choose to send our children to boarding school, so that we can accompany them on Saturdays and Sundays.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Every child grows up only once, and we as parents should be involved in our children's growth. Therefore, you should still do it yourself with children. In this way, it will help your child's development.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    It is better to bring your own children, and it is better for your children to feel the love of their fathers and mothers, and it is more important to bring them by themselves in education.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    It is better to bring it yourself, so that the relationship between the child and himself can be more intimate, and the child can be taught some truths and let the child be independent.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    There are some parents who do not have time to spend with their children because of work, but they feel that these problems need to be paid attention to. If you really don't have time, then you can also bring your children to your parents at this time, but you still need to take care of your own children, so that the parent-child relationship will be better.

    In fact, this problem also varies from person to person, and many parents may have such problems when educating their children or taking care of their children, but everyone's situation is definitely different. Because the parent-child relationship is very important if parents do not have time to spend with their children. At this time, the relationship between the child and the parents may become very bad, so it will not help the child's development.

    However, many people are doing it for work, so at this time they will give their children to their parents, but if you let your parents take care of the children, then you will find that there will be a lot of problems at this time. Because children don't have time to play with their parents, and parents leave their children at this time, children will become very insecure at this time, so such children will be very impatient, and children may also be very inferior.

    So parents should bring their own children, and if parents are really busy, you can also bring the little ones with you. Therefore, it is not recommended for parents to do this, because it will not help the child's growth in any way, but will affect the normal development of the child, and the relationship between the parents and the child may also become very poor, your child will not become a particularly good person, and your child has a lot of problems.

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