How to be the master of love, how to be the master of emotions

Agree to the ground floor. The more you love someone, the more passive you are in your relationship. Because I care too much about the other person, I see the other person as more important than myself. Put the other person's position above yourself.

Landlord. You want to be the master of love. Are you too possessive, or do you simply not want to be held back by the other person?

If it's because your lover is always telling you to do things, or you yourself always feel contained, instructed, or even enslaved by the other person. It may be that you can't see it for yourself and think too much. Maybe your lover is used to snoring and drinking, but there is no malice.

Love. It would have been equal. The two sides negotiate together.

Doing things together. Solve problems together. You want to be the master of love.

This may not be an overstatement. But I don't think it's fair to the other side. If your lover asks how to be the master of love.

Don't you feel sad to see that he wants to control you so much?

So. I think. If you are suffering from a "low" status in the relationship. Then, it is recommended that you and your lover work together to solve this problem. You can say what you think. Let's talk about it. I believe that the situation will be improved.

There is no distinction between host and guest, only love and dislove. If you don't love someone, are you ready to accept that affection? If you have love, it is a kind of happiness, where is the master?

Find someone who loves you more than you love him.

We are all slaves to love.

1.People in love should always love themselves, and when you feel that the process of love often annoys you and makes you unhappy, leave bravely.

If the other party has been attacking your looks, the way you behave, and suppressing your self-confidence, you slowly find yourself becoming more and more humble in love, and you feel that you are becoming less and less worthy of the other party, then, you must withdraw in time. Always remember that no matter who you are, you are worthy of love.

2.Don't constantly curry favor with each other, or even lose your bottom line in pleasing each other.

When you are already in the process of being in love, it means that you are on an equal footing, and there is no need for one party to constantly please the other in order to maintain a relationship. I have a female friend who has been suffering from cold violence from her boyfriend, but she refuses to leave, and even keeps being kind to the man. Later, she said that in that relationship, she always wanted to try to prove that she was loved, hoping that her efforts could be seen, so the cycle went on and on, and she couldn't get out.

The maintenance of love depends on the efforts of both parties, and one person's efforts are never meaningful.

3.Communicate in a timely manner and reject the Cold War.

The Cold War is the most hurtful way to hurt others and oneself in the process of falling in love. When you are angry, it is a good way to be coquettish and find each other to go down the stairs, and a cold war that is not aimed at breaking up is a waste of each other's time. It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a boy!

Remember! No one in love can refuse your coquettishness! The Cold War was really boring.

When you are dissatisfied with the other party or have a misunderstanding, you must talk calmly in time, otherwise, it may cause every quarrel to quarrel with things that have been piled up for a long time, and these things are inexhaustible.

4.Respect each other's privacy.

Never think that when you are in love, you can have all the control of the other person, everyone is an individual. When it comes to looking at your phone, how to say it, human nature itself is not so beautiful, and don't always expect the other person to be a perfect person.

5.Inclusive. Allow the other party to have different ideas than yourself, and allow the other party not to accept your choice.

6.Good at expressing positive views on the other person.

For example, encourage each other and praise each other. It's not easy to fall in love, and you may receive a lot of unpleasant remarks outside, so in love, just praise each other, no one doesn't like compliments. And complimenting the other person will make the other person do better.

Summary. 1. Maintain a good attitude. A good attitude is the starting point of doing everything, and if there is a heavy sense of gain and loss before something is done, then it is often controlled by emotions. If some people are not in a good state of mind, then it is easy to get caught up in emotional struggle.

2. Conduct self-grooming. Self-grooming is a skill worth learning, and when emotions come, face them squarely and don't disguise their existence for any reason that is considered reasonable. At the same time, shift your attention to new things, only know what you can do now, what you should do, pour your attention into other things, go with the flow, and after a period of time, you will find that your emotions will disappear involuntarily.

3. Engage in self-relaxation. When you feel emotionally unstable, you can use the method of self-awareness relaxation to regulate. Specifically, it is the self that consciously behaves as happy, happy, confident, and relaxed.

For example, the power of consciousness is used to relax the whole body, and in a state of relaxation and calmness, the emotions are relieved.

1. Maintain a good attitude. A good attitude is the starting point of doing everything, and if there is a heavy source of gain and loss before the thing is done, then it is often controlled by emotions. If some people are not in a good state of mind, then it is easy to get caught up in emotional struggle.

2. Conduct self-grooming. Self-grooming is a skill worth learning, and when emotions come to you, you should face them squarely and not disguise their existence without any reason that is considered reasonable. At the same time, shift your attention to new things, only know what you can do now, what you should do, pour your attention into other things, go with the flow, and after a period of time, you will find that your emotions will disappear involuntarily.

3. Engage in self-relaxation. When you feel emotionally unstable, you can use the method of self-awareness relaxation to regulate. Specifically, it is the self that consciously behaves as happy, happy, confident, and relaxed.

For example, the power of consciousness is used to relax the whole body, and in a state of relaxation and calmness, the emotions are relieved.

Many experts once suggested using the "counting method" to control the temper of the violent, that is, to let the person who is about to get angry count in his heart before speaking, counting from one to ten, in order to calm and relieve his anger, and then stay calm and regain his senses, but there are also people who are more than 120, and their emotions are still not alleviated.

Felder, an American psychologist, proposed a more effective method for controlling temper, called the "Counting Color Method".

When you get angry at someone or something, stop what you're doing, find a place where no one is around, or look around you, and start silently saying: That's a white table, that's a red tie, that's a blue watch, that's a gold-plated pen...

Then count to about 12 and start to identify the surrounding colors, which is called the color counting method.

It is the use of physiological reactions to control psychological reactions, because when a person is angry, the accelerated secretion of adrenaline will make our muscles tense and the blood flow faster, thus losing our mind psychologically.

So when you are angry, don't be busy losing your temper with your lover, but subconsciously use this method to relieve your emotions, force yourself to regain your sensitive visual function again, and return your brain to a rational state. When you're done, you'll find yourself calming down and working on the problem.

Human beings are very receptive to psychological cues, so try to make some positive cues when emotional reactions appear.

For example, if your boyfriend is late for a date, your psychological dynamics are like this: "Why is this so, you are late for a date, and you don't pay attention to it at all, you really me off..."

You can suggest to yourself things like: "Oh, my God, my God has come to test my patience", "If you don't get angry, you won't be beautiful if you're angry".

To be the master of your own emotions is to make yourself generous. Don't lose your temper over a small stupidity. Be open-minded. Think about everything from his point of view.

It is necessary to be tolerant and understanding, in love, face it rationally, encounter some things, don't always be impatient, control your emotions, be able to accept it, and be the master of your emotions.

Maintain peace of mind. Don't be impatient, listen calmly and keep smiling. Control yourself and don't worry too much.

Learn to control some irrational emotions on yourself, use appropriate ways to relieve stress, and don't be bothered by some negative emotions for too long.

Always tell yourself, control your emotions, be a rational person, and communicate with friends and listen to others' opinions.

Learn to forgive, there is no one in life who can meet all your requirements in all aspects, you have to learn to be tolerant of others.

Calm, only if you are calm enough, you can better look at a thing, and when this thing happens, you can better regulate your emotions to deal with it.

First of all, you have to keep a cool head, and on the basis of calmness, you have to understand when to deal with what emotions. Be a smart person.

It is to spend more time to improve yourself, don't think about love every day, in addition to love, you must also have your own life and your own friends.

When I get angry, I keep saying it in my head. Pick your own picks, there's nothing to be angry about. He was even happier when he was angry.

If you want to be the master of your emotions in love, you must think twice and don't be impulsive. If you do something you regret, you must reflect on it in time.

Only those who can control anger can be the master of emotions, control their emotions, let themselves not be angry, and think calmly at all times, in order to master love.

In love, the owner who can control his emotions must be strong in his heart, his self-control is quite strong, and he thinks three seconds in advance.

You have to learn to control your emotions, don't let your emotions control you, be calm, think more, and take more deep breaths when you feel emotional fluctuations.

First of all, don't be controlled by emotions, take the initiative emotionally, when negative emotions appear, you need your own willpower to restrain yourself, be calm when encountering things, and avoid doing impulsive things.

We must learn to control our temper, regulate our psychological feelings, and let reason prevail, instead of being carried away by anger and doing something that hurts others and ourselves in love.

In love, you only need to add a reason, you don't need to be a fool, and there is another way that if you can spread your energy, you won't only pay attention to one goal, and you won't be affected by the change and traction of one goal.

Make sure you don't get caught off guard. If you don't change your face when you encounter something, you can naturally become the master of your emotions, and you have to dominate your emotions, rather than being led by it.

Then you have to make sure that your emotions can't be swayed by your other half, to put it bluntly, don't catch the other party too hard, just let your feelings go.

Have an independent mind, don't rely too much on your other half, learn to restrain when negative emotions appear, and strive not to be happy with things and not to be sad about yourself.

Tell yourself that you deserve to be loved, believe in each other, believe in your common love, you can't lose your temper casually, you have to be calm and calm again.