Why am I always calculating? How can I make myself less calculating?

Personality is determined, and it is difficult to change personality, only to change it slowly, force yourself, and often say to yourself: Don't be serious!

Those who love to care are unhappy in their hearts, and they must learn to measure their giving and taking.

I'm similar to you, the main thing is to adjust your mentality, learn to take it and put it down, and be indifferent!

That's the kind of personality that takes your time.

The mind is not open-minded, and the work must be magnanimous.

Those who are content are always happy! How can you be happy if you love to be careful?

Do you feel that you have suffered a loss?

Shows that you are serious about things.

Look at everything, happiness is the most important thing. Suffering is a blessing.

Explain what you want! Or maybe prove something!

Hehe, tell yourself to stop when you want to care.

Look at everything, happiness is the most important thing.

1. First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the dangers of bad temper. In social life, we must always have contact and interaction with other people, hoping to get the favor, friendship, appreciation, and cooperation of others (of course, it cannot be everyone), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lonely, lifeless, and unable to move an inch.

2. People's behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness, and when we understand the harm of bad temper, we can generate a demand for changing bad temper from the heart.

3. Second, it is necessary to strengthen ideological cultivation. Only when we always think of others in our hearts and respect the interests and needs of others will we be warm, considerate and loving to others. Only by always putting the interests of the collective in the first place can we not be rash and stubborn, and can we be calm and think twice when encountering problems.

4. Finally, you must have determination and perseverance to change your bad temper, and if you can't think of it today, be cautious, and still be the same after two days. With determination and perseverance, you will definitely get rid of your bad temper.

Relax your mind, look at the big things and the small things, recall more about the non-necessity of many things that you used to care about, and when you encounter the things you want to worry about, you can whisper to yourself: "This is not a matter, there is no need to pay attention to and care."

Always maintain a normal attitude, deal with things calmly, and always understand that getting angry is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others.

Think more from the perspective of others and learn to empathize with problems. You know, being happy is also a day, and being unhappy is also a day, so it is better to spend every day happily.

He is a very sensitive and delicate person. The advantage is that you are not sloppy in your work, you are thoughtful, and you often think about others. The disadvantage is that I care a lot about other people's evaluations and actions of myself, even if others inadvertently say and do, it is easy to be disturbed by the outside world and think too much about emotional fluctuations.

When you think too much, you should think like this: except for your own loved ones, everyone else is in a hurry, dispensable, and you don't need to bother too much about others, unless you have something to ask for others. As long as you don't treat people with hostility and disgust, whatever you want, what they think has nothing to do with me.

When others ask you, you can do what you can, don't force yourself. There is also the fact that you can hardly get the same return if you don't expect to pay for yourself. Let go of your heart, don't just focus on sesame trivial matters, or concentrate on doing a good job in study and work.

How to make yourself not. So calculating. You can take a look at Douyin and Kuaishou. I won't be so careful, so I won't be careful.

This question is really bad, I feel that I can either empathize with myself or read more books to divert my attention.

When I was a child, I was often complimented by my parents' friends, or people who were leading the way, and I was particularly impressed by one thing, because this sentence was always the most said by them.

They said, "Your child is so generous! ”

Of course, that kid was me.

Yes, back then, I always reached out and handed it out when someone needed food in my hand, whether they really wanted to eat it or just wanted to test me.

This habit continued until I was in junior high school, and I gradually became stingy.

Maybe it's because I've never been understood behind the generosity, or maybe my so-called generosity isn't really what I want, after all, I'm just a pretending stupid kid.

I like to be praised, I like the glitz on the surface, and I like the feeling of being needed.

But that's it, my generosity again and again in exchange for nothing more than a sentence of "I'm afraid you're a fool!" ”

Yes, I wasn't a fool in the past!

To expect a person who doesn't know how to be grateful to say thank you, to expect a self-righteous person to repay me something, and to expect something to give will always be a little grate......fulAt the end of the day, everyone is used to some people's contributions, and gradually they will not become grateful, they will only take it for granted, and feel that everything is something for some people.

But what about the facts? Why? Why? Is it worth it? Who are you? Who are you mine? Have you ever been nice to me? ......So, please don't say I've changed, and if you can, try to ask why?

After leaving society, the burden on my body gradually became heavier, and many things needed to be handled by myself, and even many times I had to trouble others.

Each has its own strengths, and is good at discovering and using their talents to do things and make money.

But there are always people around you, "Are you going to do something?" "Can you help me?" "What did you do, can you do me a favor?" ”

With the idea of helping as much as I can, I have helped others a lot, for free.

As for the results, they don't seem to be ideal.

For a long time, I had to explain, "I'm just an amateur, and I can only try what you say, not necessarily useful." ”

Yes, maybe you just came to me with the idea of giving it a try!

Yes, maybe I'm the only one willing to give it a try!

After all, the real world is a material society, and if you really need a professional report or any professional service, it won't be too low!

And me, it seems that my time is worthless, it seems that all my efforts are caused by myself, who told me that I will? Who told me to be good at it?

It's just, I want to say, even so, am I who you call and linger on?

I want to say, even so, once or twice, if you keep pushing these things that don't matter to me on me, let me take responsibility, let me give selflessly, sorry, I'm not such a generous person!

I'm not, and besides, I declare very solemnly: I'm not so cheap. I'm sorry if you think I'm so cheap, but it's not my problem, it's your vision, or you're not in a good head.

Mature, life is stressful.

Very calculating is a person's character.

As the saying goes, the nature of the country is easy to change and difficult to change. It's hard to get rid of it completely, but it can be improved.

Whether or not you care (i.e., the size of your heart and eyes) is usually positively correlated with a person's cognition, vision, and pattern. The big ones have big eyes, and the opposite is small. The philosopher said that when you go deep into the garbage dump, you see garbage, when you rise to 50 meters, you see buildings, and when you rise to 500 meters, you see blue sky and white clouds!

It can be seen how important it is to improve one's own cognition and expand one's horizons and pattern!

Read 10,000 books, travel 10,000 miles, learn from books and practice, and with the change of your cognition, vision, and pattern, you will no longer only stare at the one acre and three points of land in front of you!

At that time, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that you have also seen a lot, and you have not cared about a lot!

Don't be like him, just don't hear what he says, and he will naturally not care about it after a long time.

"Young people, if you relax your heart, you won't squeeze it. This is a public service announcement, and every time I hear this sentence, I feel a little emotional. Yes, if people are relaxed, what contradictions can not be resolved?

To be relaxed is to be open-minded, to be more tolerant, to be more understanding, to be less narrow-minded, and to be less jealous. Relaxation is to be like Wang Anshi, "the prime minister can support the boat in his belly", and to be as magnanimous as Lin Xiangru, so that Lian Po will be guilty.

To accept oneself is to be willing to accept all of oneself: one's origin, appearance, knowledge, status, strengths, and disadvantages. Accepting oneself is one's recognition, one's tolerance, one's trust, and one's own destiny.

To accept oneself is to carry forward one's strengths, make up for one's shortcomings, treat oneself objectively, and live in the present. People who are pleasing to themselves can "look at the autumn water and have nothing to do, sit proud of the long pine air", "this heart is as calm as flowing water, and you can see the clouds in the sky".

Treat others generously Treat others generously, you will also be relaxed, your heart will be relaxed, your heart will be peaceful, and if you are peaceful, things will be easy and happy, and there will be no worries. On the contrary, treating others harshly and unforgivingly will not only make people annoying, hateful, and hateful, but also make themselves depressed and distressed, and feel sad and regretful. For example, Jiao Zhongqing's mother was harsh and ruthless to Laneige, which caused Laneige to commit suicide by throwing himself into the river and causing his son to "hang himself on the southeast branch".

If she could be more lenient, could Rangio's love tragedy still happen?

The more people who love you, the less they will care about you, and if they quarrel with you, they will be intimidated for seconds, for fear that they will make you angry. He will only tolerate your shortcomings, and will not care about winning or losing with you. The more people who love you, the less they will care about you, they will take you seriously, what you say is what you say, a lot of love is lost in calculations, two people together is to tolerate each other.

Yes, only people who don't love you will always want to suppress you with reason, always want to conquer you, and those who love you will seriously analyze the situation, take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and will also correct your mistakes and become better with you.

It's true that you don't love me enough, if you really love me, you don't care, you will be very tolerant of me, and you will forgive me for my willfulness.

Yes. People who love you can't bear to worry about you, and they can't bear to make you sad and sad. He will let you, spoil you, and will not quarrel with you everywhere because of a little thing.

People who like to worry about you don't love you enough, maybe they like you too much, so they care about some things, because they care about you from the heart.