Hello everyone, I have an emotional question that I would like to ask you to give some advice, shoul

To be honest, I think many people don't know what kind of person they need, maybe you think you need someone who is different from him, in fact, not necessarily, he may have done it in many ways, but you don't realize that it was supposed to be, but some of his things are not as good as you want, you will feel that he is not the kind of person you want. Unless the two of you are together at all because both of you are lonely, it is not a relationship at all, then of course don't marry, but you have been dating for two years, if you really don't get along, the two of you are originally running in with each other and understanding. If you really don't have confidence, then don't be so anxious, you can observe for a while.

Marriage is a lifelong thing, and the partner you want is someone who can share the ups and downs with you, and the person who is not in a good relationship with you is the partner, and he must be able to understand you, which is the most basic. My point is not to marry.

The most important thing to find a boyfriend is to see if you have a sense of responsibility and real machismo; Whether you know how to be grateful, is the so-called.

Drink water and think of the source, and know how to repay it", because selfishness is a man's most unforgivable mistake. In fact, real men will teach their children to be men who stand up to the sky.

Of course, appearance and financial resources depend on personal opinions, and meals always have to be eaten.

I think you better calm down, go on a trip, and think about whether he's right for you, or if you're just a habit for him.

Marry and then leave.

And then remarry.

And then noisy and then noisy.

And then leave. Come ten or eight times.

Old. Go to the temple to be a nun; -

Give him a chance, not twice, twice, three times, three times, tell him how far away, which is cooler.

Immature, it is more appropriate to wait and see.

If you want to get married, you must clarify these issues, otherwise there will be conflicts.

First, there is the issue of bride price. If you want to get married, you must explain the issue of bride price clearly. Otherwise, the two families may quarrel on the spot over the bride price.

Then it will make the two families very unhappy, and there is no way to end it at the wedding scene. Especially so all the relatives and friends are in the eyes. It's going to be very embarrassing.

Even if this problem was solved at the time, but in the life after marriage, the husband and wife would continue to turn over old accounts because of this matter. It is likely to become a topic that will often be noisy in the future.

Second, there will be the question of buying a car and buying a house. After getting married, I won't just talk to you about feelings. The most talked about is material, because eating and traveling all need to be economical.

In particular, cars and houses are necessities of people's lives, and they are also very expensive items. People also pay more attention to whether they are pre-marital or post-marital property. Because everyone wants to make their own more valuable, and they don't want to fall victim to love.

Therefore, if these two items are properly resolved, there is basically no major obstacle to marriage.

Third, it is necessary to have an in-depth understanding of the other party's family background. From ancient times to the present, we have spread the word "door to door". This makes perfect sense.

From the other party's family situation, we can see how the man's material conditions are, what the character of his parents is, and what their family style and door style are. Will you get along harmoniously with your mother-in-law in the future? And so many problems can be seen from the other party's family conditions.

For the kind of family with serious problems, this is to be carefully considered.

Fourth, the other party's concept of financial management and consumption. There should not be much difference between these concepts. There is a big difference between marriage and love.

After getting married, if the concept of consumption does not match, then you will have a big entanglement because of this. It can even lead to your divorce.

The question to be clarified should be whether to live with your parents when you get married, followed by some bride price, and some matters of marriage, including after marriage. How many children you want to have, as well as some trivial things after marriage, you have to figure it out before deciding whether to get married.

First, are you really ready? Second, what kind of life do you want to live? Third, are your three views really the same? Fourth, do you understand the earning power of the other party? Fifth, do you know each other's circle of friends?

Be sure to find out the other party's family situation, the other party's economic situation, whether there is any money owed, whether the other party has a job, the other party's three views, and the other party's personality.

Hello, I have met young people who are confused like you before, in fact, I personally think that marriage is diverse, and it doesn't matter what kind of choices the outside world provides, what matters is what kind of girl you want and what kind of girl you are suitable for. In many stages of life will encounter this dilemma or multiple choices, studies, career, love, etc., will be encountered, not the outside world makes you confused, but you are not sure in your own heart, do not know what you need, if you know what you want in your heart, know yourself very clearly, then these choices are very easy to do, and you will not regret it, and will make your later life happy and sweet. So my suggestion, I hope you can sort out yourself, see who you like in your heart, and who is suitable for you.

There is a famous saying to share with you: a ship without a course, the wind in any direction can be a headwind for it. So set a course for yourself in life first, so that you can find a tailwind that will help you, and wish you to find your happiness as soon as possible!

Thank you, that's the case at the moment.

In fact, there are both sides, 1. The man doesn't want to give the house, one is the family reason, the other is that he likes that your family still has a vacant house, and he doesn't need to take money to buy a house for decoration, so that their family will save a lot of expenses. If you have a little perseverance, you should say that the down payment is repaid by 2 people together, and he didn't say it, you want to get it yourself. 2. Your family, in fact, is right to say that your parents are right, they don't want you to live too hard after marrying, and you just can't pull your son to marry your daughter and have to pay for the house.

The advice we give you here is actually mainly for your reference, in fact, you all know that it is not good to choose to give up or continue to be with men.

You can test it and ask the man why he has a down payment on a house outside, even if you have a monthly payment for the 2 of you, if he agrees, then ask him to do his parents' work, and you do your parents' work (this is on the premise that you still want to be together).

If you want to give up, then just say it clearly, simply and clearly.

I am in a similar situation to you, and my personal suggestions: 1. The man still has to buy a house, which is up to your parents. You have to know that I used to be the kind of person who could do without everything for love, but as I matured, I realized how naïve it was to give up some things for love.

Remember: the man does not have a certain amount of material material before marriage, or is unwilling to give enough in order to love the other person, such love is not reliable.

2. Now in a small county, it shouldn't be much money to buy a house, and it's not much to pay a down payment. The man can pay the down payment, and you can repay the mortgage together! In the current environment, it is reasonable for the man to buy a house.

It's also normal. I'm not saying that you have to buy it if you get married, but if you can afford it in the foreseeable future, you can get married and buy a house first. Or that the man is very good to you and has potential, you can be happy together in the future, and you can slowly get better materially, or you can get married first and buy a house.

However, it is unreasonable not to buy a house because you have a house. It's okay not to buy it, but the money for the bride price or something must be enough!

3. There is no right or wrong in love, remember. The positions of the two sides are different. The most important thing is that you are both happy together, and that's right.

But if the man's family and the man's own economic conditions are not good now, and the foreseeable future is not very good, then believe me, even if you two love each other, you will quarrel because of lack of money in life and some trivial things! It will affect the quality of life very much, thus bringing a rift to love!

4. How much this man is willing to pay for you is very important. From buying a house or not buying, you can see how good he is to you when you are together in the future, whether you have money or not! This is a reference for whether you are worth entrusting for life. The house is a litmus test.

You will be entangled in the conditions that show that you support your parents, which shows that in your eyes, you still have to have a house, so you are not firm! Two things can be seen:1You don't love him that much, and your love is conditional!

2.Your parents are not so optimistic about him, and they are really optimistic that he will not necessarily have anythingNow that there is a gap between the parents of both sides, even if you really buy a house, there are already contradictions between the parents of both sides, in sum, you have to consider recognizing the above three points!

Now the situation is not clear enough? Your boyfriend's family just grabbed you and you loved him, plus you pulled the marriage certificate. They want your parents to come out with a suite, in fact, if the man is motivated or something, and they both love each other, it's not impossible.

But what do you think your boyfriend is like? Is he enough for you to pay for a house??

I feel that both parents have problems, and the woman's parents can understand, isn't it too embarrassing for the man's father to say it? You really have to make up your own mind about this, but your parents won't harm your children.

You're really good enough, your boyfriend is sure you want your family to have a house, did your boyfriend promise you an oath or something?

You can write so much, so detailed, I think in your heart you are still reluctant to her, I just hope you give a reason, 2 years is a bit long, know each other too well, but the pressure to get married is greater, if you don't want to get married, you won't be so anxious, because you feel that some of her practices you can't accept, afraid that you will regret it when you get married, especially her attitude towards your mother is what you are most worried about. Think about it differently, she may be the same, maybe she just thinks that you listen to your mother for everything, afraid that she will have no status at home when she gets married, at this time, many of the actions that you can't accept are testing her position in your heart, just don't pull your mother into the river to see who you save, or talk openly and honestly, say the concerns of both parties, be able to talk about marriage, feelings will definitely not be as simple as you say, the important thing is that the two of you analyze the form of marriage together and reach a consensus. You're right, men have more important things to do, but the backyard must be stable, can't **, it's normal to smoke, I wish you happiness!

After reading it patiently, I can see that you also want to vomit quickly.

First of all, support you, the girl is really excessive, too capricious, and she doesn't look big. Can you ignore the old man's face and play casually? That's not right, she deserves to be criticized.

Secondly, you, you have to treat her as your daughter, just smile and pass, it's not a big deal. If you look closely, those little girls who are not yet ten years old are like this, selfish, willful, and unreasonable. Girls, it's all like this, it's unreasonable, and it won't grow up to ten years old in this regard.

My family, even more excessive, I walked home from the unit in ten minutes, went to the supermarket to buy something to eat, fifteen minutes, came back and she was noisy, why fifteen minutes, where did you go, did you see any women, did you see any beautiful ones on the road? (She is like a little fairy, and she is still worried about this, it's really inexplicable) You are going crazy when you interrogate. What to do, you have to get used to it!

In the end, you are a gentleman, don't be a child, how can you say that you may not get married. You have to tolerate it, you have to persuade both ends, there is also pressure on the girl's side, marry you, are you the best for her, it is normal for her to murmur in her heart.

Be generous and take the initiative to resolve it. Then you will be happy for a long time.

Hehe, I feel that you are not lightly angry, please dissipate your anger! First of all, let's talk about your girlfriend, girls are prone to marital phobia when they are about to get married, especially girls with poor psychological tolerance! Your girlfriend clearly has a feeling of discomfort in her marriage, and this uncomfortable feeling is reflected in the bad mood of uneasiness, anxiety!

Let's talk about you again, decorating the house is a very tedious matter, not to mention that there are other things that are bothering you, although you feel that there is nothing wrong with you speaking, but sometimes the same words will give people different feelings because of the different tones and tones! At present, the two of you are in an extraordinary period, if you can't understand each other, then quarrels are inevitable! It is recommended that you go to see your girlfriend, she is sick, comfort and comfort her, and communicate with her calmly!

She needs you very much now, although some of her behaviors are a bit willful, you can communicate with her with emotion and reason, and her tone is as soft as possible to make her easy to accept!

Hehe, buddy is good to women, support you; should be hot and cold to a woman, and she can't be too pampered, lest she treat herself as a treasure; Do you feel that she may no longer love you, love is indeed as you said (vanity, money), if you can, two people have a good opportunity to talk, what do you think? If you love, be more tolerant, and if you don't love, let go.