Why don t most people know what they like?

Because most people are relatively content with the status quo and have no pursuits. So it doesn't matter so much to them what they like and what they pursue. Compared with the pursuit of what they like, living a down-to-earth life is what most people pursue.

And in this impetuous age, there is not enough patience to stop and think about one's preferences.

Before there was a job, many people should know what they like, and have their own ideals and dreams.

But after work, we found that the ideal and dream are so far away, and the most important thing for us at present is to feed ourselves first, let ourselves have no worries about food and clothing, so we let go of our dreams, let go of our preferences, after a long time, we have seen more, and suddenly found that we don't know what we like.

First: When they just graduated, most people were in a period of confusion, wandering, and couldn't find the direction.

Second: the real society, doing the work you don't like, but you have to stick to it, against your will.

Third: Fame and fortune are still ambitious, and once you get what you like, you will pursue something fresher.

Many people are pushed by life, pushed by reality to choose, to make a choice at a certain time, are chosen with the current, sometimes they don't realize whether the choice is what they really like or realize that they are not willing to change, go with the flow, and live a decent life that makes you compromise with reality.

Most people should be the same as me, because there are too many choices, and at a glance, I feel that all of them are good and I like them. When I try it myself, the enthusiasm I like is gone. Those things that seem to like it, it seems that they don't like it anymore.

At the end of the day, it seems that I like everything, and I don't like anything.

It's normal not to know what you like, after all, the human heart is the most inscrutable and fickle.

It's like you like something now, but after a while you don't seem to like it very much.

It's like your childhood hobbies are definitely different from when you were middle-aged or old.

So everything is changing, and so should your joy.

Now everyone is pursuing a stable life, and even have to work 5 to 9 in order to live, and there is no time to think about whether they like it or not, and people who have time to think about what they really like in life finally find that the things they like have changed, and some have become very confused.

99% of people don't know what they like, and it's up to you to find your true passion.

From the column Jane.

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When you don't even know what you like, you start by taking things around you seriously.

The day before yesterday, a reader came to me for one-on-one paid consultation, she is a teacher, and she has two troubles.

The first distress is that she opened a cram school for a living, and her original intention was to help the children, but she saw that many children did not like tutoring, thinking that she had deprived them of the right to be happy and could not let them learn what they liked.

The second distress is that as her work becomes more and more busy, she gradually stops sticking to her hobby, but deep down she is still unwilling and hopes to continue to do it, but she doesn't know if it makes sense.

She asked me what to do.

Have you ever learned something you didn't like? Do you remember what your long-hidden hobby was? Do you know what you like?

There may be the following reasons for letting yourself go of someone you like:

There is no corresponding response: If the person you like doesn't feel the same way about you or already has a significant other, then you may need to accept that fact and give up pursuing them. Continuing to pursue will only waste your time and energy and may bring more pain and disappointment.

Emotional well-being: If you've always liked someone, but they don't like you, this can lead to a compromise in your emotional well-being. You may fall into negative emotions such as frustration, anger, loneliness, etc.

In this situation, giving up the pursuit may be the best way to protect your emotional health.

Personal growth: Sometimes, giving up on pursuing someone can be for your own growth. You may need to focus on your career, academics, hobbies, or personal development, and pursuing someone may distract you from your attention and energy.

Inappropriate relationship: If the person you like already has a partner, or there are other inappropriate situations between you (such as gender, age, marital status, etc.), then the pursuit may cause some unnecessary problems and troubles.

In conclusion, allowing yourself to give up on someone you like may be to protect your emotional health, personal growth, or to avoid inappropriate relationships. While this may be difficult to do, giving up may also bring more benefits.