Children are with their grandparents after they are 4 years old

It is better for children to stay with their parents, otherwise the relationship between them and their parents will not be maintained, and I am very disagreeing with the education of the next generation, even if the quality of the two elders is very high, but after all, the acceptance of new ideas can not keep up with our young people, and there will definitely be differences in our ideas on the issue of children's education, some education methods are outdated, it is recommended that the landlord think clearly before making a decision, it is very important at any period of children's development.

When I was three or four years old, I thought that the child at that time was not very sensible, as long as he was with his classmates and teachers, he would be very happy, you let him be with his grandparents, at that time the learning was very simple, grandparents should be able to teach him, and after the age of 5, your parents should be able to keep their children around, at that time it is very important that the character and thoughts will begin to develop, and at that time you will educate well.

Then you can let the child follow the grandparents for a while.

As long as the child's self-control is good, it is no problem to follow his second elder.

By: Shi Tieren - Lifting People Level 4 1-13 17:16 On the second floor, what self-control will children have? I'm only 4 years old!

It is recommended that the landlord think carefully before making a decision, which is very important at any period of the child's development, and the intergenerational education is not good.

As long as the child's self-control is good, it is no problem to follow his second elder.

Anyway, I think it's best for children to be by their parents' side, the elderly are easy to spoil children, and I think it's better for parents to deal with some issues Of course, if you have to, it's best to see your children often or often call ** to keep abreast of your child's recent situation Let your child know that your parents are by your side at any time to reduce your child's sense of loss

I guess so. You'd better check him out more.

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Hello: I'm sorry to hear the liquid banquet to see such a situation, in fact, there will be rumors and rumors, after all, they have such a relationship, if your children are not afraid or do not object, and they are not afraid of sleepiness, the rumors are pro, so you can talk about your situation.

No one objected.

And the child's grandfather likes the child's grandmother very much, and the child's grandmother also likes the child's grandfather.

Since there is no objection to it, it is okay to kiss, they are both lost partners to each other, are they relatives.

They have both lost their partners.

The child's grandfather especially likes the child's grandmother.

In this case, you as children can make a match.

The children on both sides don't object.

Grandma is especially fond of children's grandpa.

The children on both sides do not object.

Then who are they?

Have the old people on both sides talked about this issue?

In my opinion, it is better for children to bring their own, because the elderly are often easy to spoil children and develop some bad habits, which can be troublesome when entangled! Children raised by the elderly have a deeper affection for their grandparents, and are more distant from their parents. Children's social perceptions will also be different.

The thinking of the elderly is relatively lagging behind and cannot keep up with the progress and development of society, therefore, it will cause the backwardness of children's values, make children's thinking stagnate, and cannot keep up with the changes of the times, which will have a great impact on children's future lives, and produce estrangement and generation gap with other children.

My advice is: if you are not busy with work and have time, try to bring your own. Here's why:

1. Be able to establish a family relationship with children. 2. Avoid the development of children's personality deformities. 3. Grandparents bring, of course, rest assured.

However, the doting of the next generation will have a negative impact on the development of children. (Of course, it also depends on the cultural accomplishment of the grandparents.) Please forgive me if any of the above is inappropriate.

I wish the baby a healthy growth! Have fun!

Of course, it is better to bring it yourself, because grandparents will spoil their children very much, and their education will be more rational, which will be good for the children's future.

Most children will ask their parents when they grow up, whether money is important or I am important, and they keep saying that for children, in fact, there is not much money spent on children, and the world of children is more important than money. So earn less money and more company.

Be sure to bring your own and pay more attention to safety issues.

It is not good for a child to be able to bring oneself and take care of the elderly.

If you brought it yourself before the age of three, and you also established a good sense of intimacy and security for your child, you can put it with your grandfather now, or bring it yourself. The point is, why are you asking such a question? Why do you want to put it back in your hometown?

Of course, it's best to bring it yourself.

On the custody of the child: If the parties cannot negotiate the custody of the child, then it can be resolved through litigation. When the court hears the issue of child custody, it will make a judgment based on the principle of the child's favor, such as living conditions, ability to support the child, etc.

Children under the age of 1 and 2 generally live with their mothers, and if the mother has any of the following circumstances, she may live with her father:

1) Suffering from incurable infectious diseases or other serious diseases, and the children are not suitable to live with them;

2) There are conditions for raising children who do not fulfill their obligation to support them, and the father requires the child to live with him;

3) The child is unable to live with the mother due to other reasons.

2. Where both parents agree that a child under the age of two will live with the father and that there is no adverse impact on the healthy growth of the child, it may be permitted.

3. For children who are minors over the age of two, both the father and the mother request to live with them, and one of the parents may be given priority in any of the following circumstances:

1) Have undergone sterilization or have lost their fertility due to other reasons;

2) The child has lived with the child for a long time, and the change of living environment is obviously detrimental to the healthy growth of the child;

3) There are no other children, and the other party has other children;

4) The child lives with him/her, which is beneficial to the child's growth, but the other party suffers from an infectious disease or other serious disease that cannot be cured for a long time, or has other circumstances that are not conducive to the child's physical and mental health, and it is not suitable to live with the child.

4. The conditions for the maintenance of the child by the father and the mother are basically the same, and both parties require the child to live with the child, but if the child has lived alone with the grandparent for many years, and the grandparent requests and is able to help the child take care of the grandchild, it may be considered as a priority condition for the child to live with the parent.

5. In the event of a dispute between the parents over the age of 10 concerning a minor child living with his or her father or mother, the child's opinion shall be taken into account.

6. On the premise that it is conducive to protecting the interests of the children, where both parents agree to take turns raising the children, it may be permitted.

In this case, it is certain that the child will be anxious, and the younger the age, the stronger the performance, such as when going to kindergarten, we as parents must first express empathy and identify with the child's feelings;

Secondly, have a family meeting (in a language that your child can understand, and your child will also attend) tell your child why this arrangement brings joy and how he plans his daily routine... Understand the child's thoughts, guide the child to express it, establish the child's sense of security and responsibility, take the child to choose a kindergarten before going to school, you can go a few more times in the first few days, and it is best to meet some friends;

Again, the most important thing is that parents should not be anxious, no matter how noisy their children are, they should not force their children's emotions, and they should face their children with a kind and firm attitude.

Finally, I hope to improve your parent-child relationship as soon as possible, but parents have missed more than four years to cultivate this parent-child relationship. Therefore, it may take a long time to improve it now, and it is not required to be improved overnight.

Bring his grandmother over to live with him for a while and let him get used to you.

Your child is used to living with grandma, so he is not suitable for you, so he can only take his time and not rush, otherwise it will be counterproductive.