How far can a person be decadent?

When I went out to do social research during the summer vacation, I met a lot of decadent people. Our research targets are migrant workers, and migrant workers account for a large proportion of migrant workers, so we go to the local human resources market to find people to do research in each place. And because we go to provincial capitals, these people are representative, and most of them come from all over the country.

During the ten days of research, most of the people we came into contact with had one characteristic. This trait can be described as both decadence and numbness. What I remember the most is that I met an uncle in Lanzhou, who is in his 50s and nearly 60.

When I asked him, I thought that he was so old and that he should be a local, but he told me that he was from Hubei. He was asking if his monthly income was enough to support his family. But what family does he support?

I'm the only one, and it's enough to support myself. So I asked him again, don't your families in Hubei need your salary? He sneered and said, I have been in Lanzhou for more than ten years, and I haven't been home for more than ten years, and I haven't been in touch.

He is not satisfied with his current life, nor is he dissatisfied, in short, he lives one day at a time. The main focus of our research was the need to improve his own skills, and he didn't think much of it. I feel that I am also old, and I don't want to learn if I am lazy.

In its current state. If you earn a day's money, you spend a day's money, and it doesn't matter when you die.

This uncle is just one example, and in the course of our research, we can say that we have met hundreds of such people. In one of the human resources markets, the market is empty, but the market is crowded. After asking, I realized that the jobs provided in the field are all paid on a monthly basis.

The services are all long-term jobs, but most of the off-site jobs are recruited for small workers, and the wages are paid on a daily basis. They don't want to look for long-term stable jobs, but for those who can work for two or three days. These people, no matter how bad their situation is, they are used to it, they feel unimpressed, and they have no enthusiasm for life at all.

Method:

1. Think about the future. If you really want to save yourself, you should think about your future life, what kind of life you will live next, how you are going to plan your life, only by calming down and thinking clearly, you can completely change yourself.

2. Make a plan. If you have an idea, you must immediately turn it into a plan, because only a utopian ideal can not become a reality, no matter how beautiful it is, and if you want the ideal to become a reality, you must make a reasonable plan for yourself, and the formulation of this plan is combined with your own situation.

Adjust your mindset:

1. Don't drill the tip of the horns, and you can afford to put it down: In many cases, the main reason why we can't let go of difficulties is because we can't let go of our hearts, and finally we are depressed, and we are not active in doing things in a trance, which affects work and study. In fact, if you think about it, no matter how big the difficulties are, you still have to look forward.

2. Talk to friends: Most of us encounter difficulties, and we always nest in our hearts, especially men. I always worry about my own troubles, but in fact, I let go of many things when I say them.

You can talk to your bosom friends more and listen to their advice, real friends are willing to help you, not add fuel to the fire.

How to save a person who is decadent:

1: Self-hypnosis, to hate or even hate the person who caused the problem, can put many unnecessary charges on him (her). Take a leisurely time, look at the people and things around you like an outsider, and call yourself a third person in your heart, and you will see the effect, and the sequelae is that if it is so long-term, a second personality may appear.

2: Find happiness, find a reason or excuse to deceive yourself (a little ridiculous, the process is not important, just forget it), choose a hobby or two, and try to do something you haven't done before.

3: Face, the best choice, you can see it as a life-enriching experience from the outlook on life, at least it makes you unhappy, you should smile lightly for having this kind of memory, because, the positive side of things is called beautiful. Negative is called beauty, and beauty may be better than beauty.

If a person is decadent, he must be awakened by his will, and a motivated heart, if his own magic consciousness awakens him, then he is really hopeless, but if he is given one more meal, then he may soon be out of stock, and then find out such a dilemma.

There are always unsatisfactory people in the world, it is impossible to live a life with smooth sailing, and if you are decadent, you will cheer up, and you must enjoy the beauty of the world.

Help him make a plan, and if you have an idea, you must immediately turn it into a plan, because only a fantasy ideal, no matter how beautiful it is, can not become a reality, if you want the ideal to become a reality, you must make a reasonable plan for yourself, the formulation of this plan is combined with your own situation, only by calming down and thinking clearly, can you completely change yourself.

A person who has no purpose in life, or who is indulging in something that consumes his will, will be decadent, and only by giving hope in his life, finding motivation, and not indulging in unrealistic things will he be able to cheer up.

Communicate well with him, talk more about the expectations and opinions of the people he cares about or the people he cares about most, and the help and benefits of changing the status quo. You can also take him to see a professional psychologist and be counseled by a psychologist.

Let him realize that it is not good for him to go on like this, so that he can correct his mistakes and try to do his best...

It is not easy for people to live a lifetime, they must have ideals, even if they do not succeed, they must work hard, they cannot give up when they encounter setbacks, they will be discouraged, and they must cheer up their spirits to live a wonderful life.

A person is decadent and takes love to save.

There needs to be a reinvigorated spirit.

Summary. Make more positive friends. Nowadays, with the increase of study, work and life pressure, at a certain stage of life or a certain period of the year, some people have more or less anxious periods, and people who do not grasp well will also enter a state of decadence.

If we want to save ourselves and free ourselves from decadence, we can try to socialize more with our friends and colleagues who are optimistic and full of positive energy, and relieve the dullness and pressure in our hearts in communicating with them. You can also confide your worries and stress to someone you trust, asking for help and comfort. Even if you don't get effective help or relief in front of you, you can spit it out.

Hello dear. Make more positive friends. Nowadays, with the increase of study, work and life pressure, at a certain stage of life or a certain period of the year, some people have more or less anxious periods, and people who do not grasp well will also enter a state of decadence.

If we want to save ourselves and free ourselves from decadence, we can try to socialize more with our friends and colleagues who are optimistic and full of positive energy, and relieve the dullness and pressure in our hearts in communicating with them. You can also confide your worries and stress to someone you trust, asking for help and comfort. Even if you don't get effective help or relief in front of you, you can spit it out.

Set yourself small goals to accomplish in the near future. The key point is that this small goal is not to make 100 million ha. This goal must be strong and clear indicators and timelines for completion, and the goal should not be too difficult or too simple.

The original intention of setting goals is to let yourself out of depression, and in the process of completing the goal, we must let go of the ideological baggage, abandon the haze in our hearts, take one step at a time, be down-to-earth, and gradually move towards the result of victory. It is worth mentioning that in the process of accomplishing the goal, we must always boost our perseverance, and we must not lose confidence and courage because of some setbacks in the middle.

Both of these methods are good, oh dear.

There are more than ten days to go before the UGC interview, and I didn't even hurry up to review, and I watched a TV series there all night!!

I came back from outside at seven o'clock last night, warmed up a meal left over from noon, and brought it to the table to eat.

After eating two bites, a picture popped into my mind:

A dormitory friend used to like the part "Why Sheng Xiaomo" very much, and I have watched the TV series many times, and when I talk about related things, my eyes are still shining. I still remember her look as if she had taken off a single order.

The TV series "Why Sheng Xiaomo" was very popular a few years ago, but I haven't watched it, it seems to be 2015 at that time, I was still in high school, and I didn't have time to watch it.

Later, when I went to college, there were a lot of new TV series coming out, and I just liked the new and hated the old. So at that time, even if I didn't have a good drama to watch, I wouldn't have turned over the drama from a few years ago.

But as I got older, my mind gradually changed.

I am very home, even if there is no epidemic, I can stay at home for three months without going out;

I don't play games and I don't have anything I really like.

However, I am just very persistent and addicted to TV dramas.

I know, that's fake. That's just an ideal life, and there won't be many people who can be the protagonists in it.

People are like this, the harder things to get, the more they yearn for them.

Anyway, in front of those idol dramas, I have no resistance.

Every time I press the ** button, the other self says in my heart, it's okay to watch it for half an hour, and after half an hour, I will say, finish watching an episode. Well, in the first episode, there is often a lot of suspense, and if those suspense is not explained, my heart will keep thinking about why they are like this.

So I've been watching, seeing, seeing, from seven o'clock in the evening to two o'clock in the morning, sitting in front of the computer without moving, the protagonist is happy when I'm happy, and I'm sad when they're sad.

Later, I was completely poisoned, and I didn't take a bath, so I slept.

Now that I get up, I want to continue watching and wonder what happened to them, and my mind is full of this impulse.

I knew I was decadent, but I couldn't stop myself.

Keep watching, and then regret that you wasted your time, and if you don't watch it, your mind will be full of their shadows.

This is really a dilemma.

I'm a wretch.