The interviewer asked me how I broke up with my ex boyfriend and what should I do?

In the background we received a question:

interviewed a ** editor, and the previous discussion was very good. The other party asked me: Do you have a boyfriend? I said, "Not now."

The other party asked: Have you had a breakup before? I said, "Yes." The other party asked: How did you break up?

This ......Can I refuse? And for Mao to be for such details?

To this ours is:

After all, the interview is a chat between a real person and a real person, not a chat between AI and a person. Therefore, the other party, as a real person, will think divergently, but he will observe your three views while diverging.

Yes, this kind of question is typical of the three views of the postgraduate entrance examination.

For example, if you watch the TV show "Very Do Not Disturb", a handsome and wealthy boy is usually frequently killed in the "love experience" link. Why? Because this boy described the story of breaking up with his predecessors for Mao, the 24 female guests opposite felt that you couldn't do it.

Counselor Guo Bing said: My company has had this situation, and the job seeker told about 2 blind date experiences (meeting strange men). The side reflects the three views of the job seeker. In the end, the job seeker was accepted, and the reason was that he had three positive views.

So how do you deal with this problem?

If you have a deep hatred and dislike for your ex-boyfriend, then you need to smile and say "thank you for asking" to cushion yourself. Then try to describe the breakup as rationally, objectively, positively, and correctly as possible.

In addition, I will give you a very correct piece of advice: after every breakup, seriously summarize the breakup experience and get out of the pain, this is the real growth.

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In fact, when an interviewer asks such a question, he will definitely not come to the interviewer out of boredom to gossip about private matters.

In most cases, the interviewer asks such a question, probably because he wants to get some information he wants to obtain through this question, such as what kind of person is the interviewee in front of him, what kind of attitude he has towards feelings, and how he balances feelings and work.

Therefore, when we ask this question, we must not be too realistic, don't let people ask, you will tell all the things with your ex-boyfriend Chen Guzi about the rotten sesame seeds, and even tell some details in the relationship together, and you will spit at the mouth, and I wish to let the interviewer scold that scumbag with you.

During the interview, we should always remember that I am interviewing, not meeting and chatting with friends. Therefore, no matter how "approachable" the other person asks a question, you should always be vigilant and think carefully about what the real purpose of the other person's question is.

The same is true when asked about personal issues such as ex-boyfriends, and there is no need to explain the details of the breakup.

The other party will not be interested in knowing, just need to pass it off, and at the same time, it should be remembered that you should never say bad things casually, even if your ex-boyfriend is scummy, it should not be what you should complain about in front of the interviewer.

Just imagine, even if you complain and say a grievance, it is useless, but after this complaint, it is likely to affect your entire interview results.

After the breakup, the ex-boyfriend asked if he was talking about the object, that is, he had the idea of getting back together.

If your ex-boyfriend continues to inquire about you after a breakup, this behavior is a sign that he probably wants to get back together with you.

Because he wants to get back together with you, he will be eager to know your latest news and news, and if you are married or have a regular relationship, then he will suppress his feelings for you and convince himself to let go of you slowly. If you are still single, then it means that he still has a chance, he is willing to wait for you all the time, as long as you need him, he will appear by your side at any time to accompany and take care of you silently.

Most couples who break up will not be in touch, except in special circumstances, because meeting is most likely to rekindle the old relationship, if the ex-boyfriend often finds various excuses to ask you out to meet, such as asking you for help, in fact, he can go to someone else, but it is to recognize you, in this case, some girls are embarrassed to refuse, and then the two people have a new intersection, in fact, the boy is doing this is to imply that you are getting back together, first see if you hate him, if you don't hate, he will feel that you still have the possibility of getting back together.

Hello, after the breakup, my boyfriend Que Yin is still asking you how you are doing, then I think there is a high probability that he is not doing well and wants to reconcile with you, only when a man is lonely, when he is not happy, he will think of the chop hall to take the initiative to find you.

The man asks if he is okay lately, and after the breakup, there are probably several possible meanings:

First, he may be quite concerned about you and want to know how you've been doing. Although you broke up, he will still care about you and see that you have been living a stable and unstable life recently. This is more likely, especially if you break up peacefully, and he will still care about you from time to time.

Second, he couldn't find the topic, so he asked casually. Sometimes, to hide their embarrassment, people ask very common questions like "How are you doing?" However, if this is the case, he may not continue to talk in depth in the future.

Third, he wants to rekindle the old relationship, and wants to slowly test the attitude of Tangerine Boy to see if you still have feelings for him. If he thinks you're quite welcoming, he may continue to talk to you and try to get back together with you. Of course, this is only a possibility, not necessarily his purpose.

Fourth, he asked such a sentence for no reason, in fact, he wanted to remind you that he still exists, so that you don't completely forget him. However, this is relatively unlikely, and most people find it boring to do this, unless the relationship between the two of you is really deep.

In this situation, the first possibility is generally higher, and he still cares about you and will care about your recent life. Several other possibilities are not ruled out, but the probability is relatively small. But in any case, in case he has an attempt to rekindle the old relationship, you better be careful, if you just want to be a normal friend, talk to him normally according to the situation, but don't be too enthusiastic, so as not to let him misunderstand anything.

See what I mean? Be vigilant, but don't be too nervous. I'm sure you'll handle the situation by hand. If he really just chatted and cared, then there was no need to be too guarded. But he had to be a little mentally prepared in case he wanted to rekindle his old feelings.

Generally speaking, a breakup is a stranger. He now asks how you are doing? In fact, he can't let go of you, he hopes that you don't have a good life, in fact, there is the potential to reunite, I hope so if you are bright and sensitive and can't let go of the other party, you can choose to reunite at this time.

If your ex-boyfriend asks you how you are doing after the breakup, I think he still misses you and still has feelings for you.

It means that he still cares about you politely, but only out of a friend's concern.

There is curiosity, but also possessiveness, curiosity about your past, wanting to know about your past, and wanting to know what you think of your ex-boyfriend now.

Another point is that Qi Lao wants to know the reason why you broke up with your ex-boyfriend, and after knowing the reason, you can avoid the same situation in your future relationship.

The current way to ask you and your ex about things.

1. Don't describe any details about your ex-boyfriend in front of your current boyfriend, which will only make him think that you still remember the habits of your ex, and you can't let him go.

2. Don't say that the reason why you broke up is because your parents don't agree, or because you can't see each other a few times a year in a long-distance relationship, because these reasons are not because you don't love each other anymore, is it possible to get back together?

3. Don't keep your ex-boyfriend's **, otherwise your current boyfriend will be jealous and speculate.

Your boyfriend is entangled in how you broke up with your ex-boyfriend, which shows that this man cares about your past very much and can't let go of your past. Everyone has a past, and we should pay attention to the feelings in front of us. Don't dwell too much on the past. Otherwise it will be unhappy.

Always ask how you broke up with your ex-boyfriend, which means that he cares more about your past and wants to know the reason why you broke up.

Ask you the reason for the breakup, he is mainly worried about which aspect you are more sensitive, so he should pay attention, in addition, he may also care more about your past.

If your boyfriend keeps asking you how you broke up with your ex-boyfriend, it means that he is very concerned about the relationship between you and your ex-boyfriend, so don't prejudge your boyfriend's affairs with your boyfriend.

He may be afraid that the two of you will break up with you for the same reason after you get together, so he likes to ask this question. And he wants to compare who is better with your ex-boyfriend.

I think this is purely the interviewer's personal curiosity.

If the reason for your breakup with your ex-boyfriend is not convenient to say, I think you can politely say to the interviewer, sorry, this is my private matter, I think it should have nothing to do with work, can you not answer? After all, love itself is your own business, and I don't feel like it has much to do with work. If you don't want to answer, don't answer, maybe you can still maintain some mystery, and if you answer incorrectly, it may be a little less impressive in the eyes of the other person.

Of course, if the reason for your breakup with your boyfriend is very ordinary and common, and you don't feel the need to hide it, just say it. For example, you can directly understate it, maybe because of incompatible personalities, or there is no way to stick to it in a different place, etc., I think these reasons are acceptable to most people, after all, many people break up because of these very common reasons. He won't make a big fuss about this and won't hire you.

The interviewer asks you what you and your ex-boyfriend want to break up with is actually to understand what kind of person you are, so the reason for the breakup can be simple, don't say that the man is not good, you are good, because the interviewer may think that you are a very small-hearted person and have no connotation.

So if he asks you about such a topic, you can tell him that it is because two people are not suitable, and who forms a family with whom is not a family matter, and one of the family members does not agree with it.

So getting along will produce contradictions, although reluctant, but also for each other, you will break up with your boyfriend, so that you will not belittle the man too much and will not elevate yourself.

It is also possible that the interviewer will think that your words will seem very ambiguous, so you can judge what kind of words you should say according to the personality of the interviewer, if the interview view is very serious, then your answer should try not to cover it up with too many very flamboyant things.

And you can also judge with the experience of previous interviews, what kind of words, he will like.

Some friends may be very indignant, this interview has a hairy relationship with my ex. In fact, the interviewer asked him this to see your ability to deal with problems and whether you have lessons learned from failures, so as to reason about your attitude towards work.

So at this time, your answer should be absolutely objective and fair, and briefly explain the reason for your breakup. Remember not to blame the other person. Talk more about your own shortcomings in this relationship, and use the language to be completely relieved "I regret that we didn't make it to the end, although he was at fault, but I also love to be unreasonable when I get along, so that the conflict intensifies."

This is very good at proving to the interviewer that you are rational and mature.

Then talk about what you realized after the breakup and your current view of love" Compared with the previous naivety, I now hope that I can find a suitable person who has a heart with me, as for the ex, I still wish him well, I hope he is happy." Such an answer is the answer of a professional with high emotional intelligence.