Don t listen to what he says, but see what he does

Communicate and communicate with your children more. Parents should pay attention to the purpose of communication and exchange. The goal is not to force the child to obey the parents' arrangements, but to understand the child's behavior, clarify the child's thoughts, and discover the child's purpose.

Then work with your child to develop coping strategies. In this way, children are still more willing to ask their parents for advice. Parents should pay attention to the way they communicate with their children.

Many parents often communicate with their children from a very high height, which will make them feel a sense of insecurity. Children instinctively close the door of their hearts, so that they are reluctant to confide in their parents, feeling that their parents do not understand them. When parents communicate with their children, they should stand on an equal footing with their children and communicate with them in a direct, euphemistic, indirect, suggestive and other ways.

Parents should pay attention here, if you communicate with your child, when the child shows unwillingness to listen, or disgust, you should not say it again, which will only deepen the child's disgust and rebellion, but should pay attention to pause first, and then find the right opportunity and appropriate way to communicate with the child. How to listen to your child is also very important. Parents should learn to listen, at least after listening to their children's relaxation, they should understand their children's intentions, starting points, mentality, etc. before speaking.

When dealing with the incident, don't turn the old ways, and don't force the child to ask how and how, but tell the child the truth and way to deal with things, give the child a certain right, and believe in the child.

Author: Foreigner It is said that men come first and sex first; It is said that men pay attention to sex, and it is more rational for men to attract men, to lose their rationality, to be confused, to be confused, to be sad, to make joy and ...... to worryAh, the feelings are complicated, you have to stay sober, and the brain is simple: close your ears and open your eyes, you have to listen to what the man says, see what the man does, and the man hates twenty-four; Male hatred immediately makes everyone know happiness; The man's eyes glow; The man paid for ......If a man likes to look at it, it is better than a pleasing sight, a man looks pleasing to the eye, hugs and kisses, and even coaxes the bed with sweet words, maybe says a hundred times, and the end of the eyes is happy; Men are desperate to beg for nothing, and they have to refuse, ask for estrangement, but be more respectful; Men are never hot and cold, advancing and retreating, happy and worried; The man is deeply buried....

Some people speak better than they sing.

No amount of rhetoric is worth putting into action.

Don't just look outside the world when evaluating a person.

Pay more attention to the inside.

What you see must be true?

It's time to hand in your homework again. I deliberately got off work early and came back to prepare for my homework. I opened it and prepared to write, searched my stomach, and tried to find a topic for writing, but it turned out to be a blank space, and I didn't know what to write.

Let's record the things that I felt the most this week. Observe and understand a person, not what he says, but also how he does it.

Actually, I've heard of this concept for a long time, but to be honest, I don't feel much about it. But this week I encountered something that gave me a deeper understanding of the concept. Because there is some privacy involved, I won't write out what happened, and I'll just talk about my feelings here.

Why is it that sometimes saying and doing are not the same thing? There may be some so-called Chinese social wisdom involved. The true meaning of the words is often expressed directly in the language without friction, but it is up to the listener to guess.

If it is two people who are relatively familiar with each other, or a listener with high emotional intelligence, then it may be that the real meaning is that the shouting Ling can be caught by the listener, if not, then it is a failed communication.

There is also a possibility that it is not convenient for the parties to directly state the real meaning. Because the speaker will feel that this may leave a bad impression on others. At this time, the meaning of the speaker cannot be judged only from the language, but only from the behavior of the speaker.

There is also a way for the speaker to express the image he wants to establish in front of the listener, so he or she communicates in a way that conforms to this image. But this is not the real image of the speaker, just the image of oneself in one's ideals, and the manifestation is often called "pretending". Of course, there's a difference between that and bragging between friends.

Of course, there is also the possibility that there is something wrong with the way the speaker speaks and the logic of speaking. I think I've made it clear, but in fact the listener doesn't understand what I'm talking about.

Some of the above reasons are some of the things I can think of. If you want to understand a person, you can't just listen to what a person says, but more importantly, observe the way it acts, so that you can really understand the most correct way for a person.

The ancients said: "Don't look at what he says, look at what he does." ”

I think this sentence is really useful.

Some people talk like a fart, without any economic cost, and there is no psychological burden.

In life, there will be many such phenomena, which are extremely interesting.

1. For example, giving money does not represent love, and it is difficult to have love without giving money.

A man who says love to a woman, but doesn't give money, eighty percent is not loving [Wangchai] enough, or he is farting.

A friend says love to his brother, but he doesn't give money, eighty percent is not loving [Wangchai] enough, or he is farting.

Fans say love to the big guy, but don't give money, eighty percent of them don't love [Wangchai] enough, or he's farting.

…And so on [covering face].

Second, talk about love from the perspective of cost.

Love is made up of time costs and economic costs.

Most people regard their time cost as very low, and pay special attention to the economic cost, because time cannot be seen or touched, and the money is gone, which can make them feel distressed.

There are very few people who will think that the cost of their time is very high, think that time is money, and feel that wasting their lives is chronic suicide, if they can waste time for you, it is really the greatest love.

There is neither time cost nor economic cost, then he is farting [Wangchai].