How do you become a non flattering and popular person?

To be a person who is not flattering and popular, it is actually very simple, first you have to have a good character, because a positive and optimistic personality is easier to make friends with others and is more likely to be welcomed by others. Then you need to have your own opinions, and don't follow someone in order to please him, go against your own heart. <>

You should first be sincere, because now many people put on a lot of masks in order to survive better in society, so sincerity is particularly valuable, and people want to meet the kind of people who are very sincere to themselves, so as long as you are sincere to others, others will definitely like you very much, then you will become a very popular person.

Not flattering does not mean being stubborn, in some cases we still need to follow some trends, you can follow everyone to praise others, but don't see others praise a person, just feel that everyone is flattering, let alone complain or secretly say that they flatter, such words will make others hate you very much.

If you want to be a popular person, first of all, you have to be optimistic and cheerful, because personality really has a very big impact, and people like to communicate with an optimistic and cheerful person, rather than talking to those stuffy gourds. So in today's society, those who can talk are often welcomed by many people, and people like to communicate with him.

In fact, people nowadays don't like flattering people, you don't need to flatter and flatter for the sake of being popular, which will make more people hate you, you have to master more skills in dealing with people, improve your emotional intelligence to be a positive, optimistic and cheerful person, so that more people like you.

I think the first thing you have to do is to follow the crowd, although in many cases we need to conform to this society, but in some cases we still have to maintain our independence, don't blindly follow others, which will not only make you lose yourself, but also make many people feel that you are no different from others.

In fact, in contemporary society, those who are cheerful and positive and optimistic are more likely to be liked, and the kind of flattering and flattering people are actually the most annoying, so if you want to be a popular person, then you can cultivate your character and be an optimistic and cheerful person.

It's hard to say, some leaders like others to flatter him, feeling that this will reflect their true leadership position, that is, the so-called weakness of human nature, if you want to mix in the unit, want to do it out of the mud without being stained with so much difficulty, learning to slip and shoot horses will also be good for their future (generally such people are promoted faster), in short, the key depends on the individual, anyway, as long as you have a clear conscience!

Social issues, everyone does. The very small number of people who don't do this will be eliminated by society, hehe.

Flattery describes a person's language and demeanor, flattery is a verb that expresses the action of flattering, and flattery generally refers to the use of language to please.

1. Brief introduction.

Mirror Flower Yuan" is a long story of gods and demons love made by Li Ruzhen in the Qing Dynasty**. The first half of the book describes the stories of Tang Ao, Duo Jiugong and others traveling overseas by boat, including their experiences in the daughter country, the gentleman's country, the intestineless country and other countries. The second half of the book writes the story of Wu Zetian's selection of talented women, Tang Xiaoshan, who was born by the Hundred Flower Fairies, and a hundred talented women from other Flower Fairies, and made a difference in the court.

Its fantastical and witty creative techniques are based on classics, and wonderfully outline a gorgeous and colorful color picture of the heavenly wheel.

2. About the author.

Li Ruzhen (1763-1830) Qing Dynasty ** family, the word Songshi, Haizhou, Jiangsu Province (now Lianyungang City) native. As a teenager, he studied with Ling Tingkan (c. 1755 1809) about ancient etiquette, musical rhythm, calendrical calculations, and the evolution of the territory. Due to Li Ruzhen's disdain for Baguwen, he was not up to the end of his life, and the biggest official was Henan County, but he was knowledgeable and proficient in phonology, and the book "Li's Yinjian" came out when he was a teenager.

He was upright by nature all his life, not a powerful person, not good at camping, and never found a decent official position. After middle age, he felt hopeless in seeking an official position, and devoted himself to studying. From 1795 to 1815, it took him 20 years to write the book "Mirror Flowers".