The child can speak his mind

Children with personalities can speak their minds.

A child has many voices, in fact, although the person is small, but the inner world is complex at the same time, but the child is very simple, can not be accurately expressed and not understood.

The most important thing for a child is the need to be safe and respected, and he (she) does not want adults to put him (her) alone at home, he (she) likes to be lively, and likes to be focused on him (her) by everyone, so that he (she) can feel that he (she) is normal and liked, which is the so-called "fraternity"! The reason why some children are shy and don't like to talk is that the people around them don't care about him (her), which is a long-term effect, and it is not introverted as soon as they are born.

The child's heart is not a trace of pollution, it is nature, carefree, this is the state of mind that parents can give him (her) protection, do not have to worry about making money, as long as their nature is naturally played is safe and respected.

Some parents always say that children are naughty and disobedient, often scold children, or say to children similar to you have to listen to your parents, and you can only have a chance when you grow up, in fact, the child's heart is very clear: when you see the current living conditions of your parents, you will know that you will listen to your parents, and whether you will really have a chance in the future (in fact, you don't know what it means to be promising), so there are many parents in daily life, showing calmness, generosity, relaxation, and tolerance, and children can learn. As long as you develop a patient heart-to-heart conversation with your child from an early age and get "closer" to your child's state of mind, you can understand your child's needs and find a way to connect with your child's heart.

Having said that, every child is different, in fact, every child is not only a child but also an adult, but also a normal person, as long as you communicate with your heart, you can become "friends" with your child!

The child's voice is heartbreaking. To his parents and others, he seemed to get everything he wanted; Guess yes, he's not happy. Children need the love of their parents, this kind of love is not only to give children a rich material life, but also requires parents to enter the inner world of children to understand them, so that children accept their parents.

And if parents want to be accepted by their children, they must choose the right position, listen to their children's voices, and understand their inner world. Weiwei's parents just don't understand the child, don't understand the child's heart, and don't know what the child really needs to prosper, although they provide Weiwei with the best material conditions, but Weiwei is still unhappy. **The famous educator Tao Xingzhi said:

We have to be children to be worthy of being children's husbands. He also said: "You should not despise the emotions of a child, he gave you a piece of candy to eat, and there is a generosity of 10,000 yuan donated by the car king; He made a paper kite and couldn't fly up, just like he hesitated when he couldn't build a Zeppelin spaceship; He broke a clay doll by mistake, and it was so sad that a widow had died of her only child; He did not fight the people he hated, as if Roosevelt could not get the opportunity to lead troops to fight Germany; He wants you to hug him for a while, and you go to hug another child, just like a lover who has been taken away from him.

Here, what Tao Xingzhi advocates is that parents should enter the inner world of their children and read their children's hearts. First, the exchange of ideas between parents and children can not only enable parents to understand their children's true thoughts and real motives, but also enable children to understand their parents' suffering, so that they can gradually learn to share their parents' worries and solve problems, and learn to take on some family responsibilities. Second, learn to observe as the saying goes:

The eyes are the windows of the soul, and words are the voice of the heart. The child's voice and actions can more or less reflect the child's thoughts; At the same time, the scribbles on children's textbooks, homework books, and lecture notebooks are also monologues of their hearts, from which parents can learn a lot of information. More so, parents should consciously observe the friends that their children regularly have.

Third, successful parents who do not put on a show are often because they know how to understand the real needs of their children's hearts, they know how to respect their children, and they know how to listen to the importance of their children's words. Parents should have positive purposes when speaking to their children, such as providing knowledge and information, solving problems, sharing emotions, expressing their opinions, etc. When talking, be sure to pay attention to the tone and attitude, smile as often as possible, and show a friendly and amiable attitude in a cheerful and peaceful voice to achieve the effect of communication.

If parents can behave in a friendly manner and do not suppress their children with the authority of the strong, they will often get relatively friendly children.

In a family, parents feel that they are increasingly busy and hard for their children's happy life. The child not only did not appreciate the affection, but his lips were dusted, and he thought in his heart that he had raised a debt collector by fighting for himself.

In a family, children feel that they are all going the way their parents designate, listening to their parents, and doing what their parents let them do. Don't know you're in**?

When I was a baby, my parents said that I would do whatever I wanted, because I couldn't express it, and my parents had to accept it all if they were wrong.

Dear parents, you all say you love me, what am I a**?

Parents say at every turn, you are so old and ignorant, your heart has been eaten by dogs.

To speak in good conscience, when I was a child, my parents fed me, left me with delicious food, accompanied me day and night when I was sick, did everything for me, and left anything good for me, and it really felt good at that time.

Since kindergarten, parents have changed.

Dear parents, you said how ruthless you are, you lift me up all day long, and now you suddenly withdraw your hands, what will I do?

Mom and Dad: If you can understand our hearts, I will definitely be the best child!

Mom and Dad; Do you understand?

This is the result of my years of contact with my children, and it is my duty to ask them to speak for me. I hope that parents will read it many times.

"Listen to Children" Issue 1: How to Listen to Children's Voices Correctly.