How to harden your character?

In fact, most of the time, the lack of toughness in character comes from a lack of confidence in oneself. It may be that the inferiority complex caused by the gap in physique, knowledge, and achievement causes weakness and introversion in character. When others are able to talk about it, if they lack the corresponding knowledge, the response will also appear weak.

The best way to change is to expand your hobbies and take the initiative to communicate with others. The increase in personal strength will also make the character a little tougher.

I'm like you, I've just changed my job, and I really want to be recognized. This may stem from your own lack of self-confidence. Colleagues joke with each other, feel unhappy, and don't speak, and sometimes comfort themselves that this is generosity.

But slowly you will find that this person is really picking soft persimmons, and he is unhappy every time, and now he is also preparing to change, bravely say no, and make his character tougher.

I'm also a weak person pinch. I don't know how to reject others, and I feel that rejecting others will make me feel uneasy and feel guilty about others. However, after helping them, they will only come to you when they need you, which is really disgusting.

So think more about yourself, express it when you're angry, don't hide your emotions too much, only in this way will your character become harder.

What is needed is change, and it is important to really want to change such an idea. There is a saying called three-minute hot head, personality is very difficult to change, so you must urge yourself to change, be brave to say no to what you don't want to do, and make your character tougher.

The amount of experience and knowledge increases, the more you know, your own confidence is enough, your personality can be hard, work, communication, you don't know if you ask 3, you can only nod when you chat, so you can't be tough.

I think it's about taking action, doing something good, and naturally it's a matter of showing your face, becoming the center of the team, and showing yourself. For example, giving a speech on stage, rushing to ask questions, and so on. There is also the need to have your own supervisor ideas, to be able to think of solutions to problems on your own, and then put them into action.

This will slowly change.

It will take time. People naturally seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, so if there is more oppression, they will naturally learn to resist, personal experience, but they must also supervise themselves, and they must not be soft-hearted when they should be tough, and there will be changes.

Personality is a hard thing to change, but it's not impossible. It's just that no matter what kind of personality has its own characteristics and strengths, it doesn't do any good to blindly become something else, take your time, you need process and growth.

Just let yourself be violent, and be aware that it is violent, not violent.

Are you afraid of death? Cowardly? Afraid of offending people? ......As long as you are willing to admit it in your heart, you can be tough.

Maintain self-confidence, treat people and things around you rationally, believe in your own abilities and learn with an open mind, so that you can maintain enough rationality and not be easily influenced by the outside world, and do your best. Most of the people who feel uncomfortable because of other people's words and deeds and shake their minds are people with low self-esteem and do not believe that they have the ability to solve problems well, so a word from others will change their minds. If you are cowardly and don't dare to resist, you will be dominated all the time, and even if you have an answer in your heart, you won't dare to reveal it.

These two types of people live uncomfortably, lack self-confidence and self-scrutiny, care too much about the influence of others on themselves and lose themselves, and if they want to change, they must be ruthless to themselves. <>

Fa Xiao's family is not happy, and his parents' strength has led to his cowardly personality, and he has always been controlled by his parents. His studies are not smart, so he has been disliked by his parents, and he has become psychologically inferior, sometimes I go to play with him, and his voice is always very quiet, and he doesn't dare to come out. Sometimes he was bullied by naughty children and didn't dare to resist, and this life lasted until his high school life.

When I was in junior high school, there was a group assignment, and the teacher asked everyone to give their opinions, and then discussed it together, I saw that he wrote a lot in his notebook, but when it came to the discussion, he didn't say a word, and he nodded his head at whatever others said. <>

Later, in the process of our process, he just listened to us, and didn't dare to raise anything, I asked him to take the notebook to see, and he timidly took it out, but unfortunately it was denied by other classmates, and he didn't refute it, so he could only be crushed. When he was in high school, his problems became more and more serious, and he didn't talk much, and his parents also found out about his problems, so they took him to see a doctor in Can Thanh Chang, who said that he had been depressed for a long time and had a slight autism, so that the people around him encouraged him more and let him regain his self-confidence. As a small hair, I felt quite sour after hearing it, and I was on the way to encourage him.

When he got to university, he became more self-confident, and I believe that he must have taken a lot of courage. <>

Insist on doing a good job of yourself, not being affected by the outside world, you must maintain self-confidence, bravely tell your own ideas, and at the same time you must argue for your own interests.

There are some honest people who have a more easy-going personality, are not aggressive, and do their job well, but they are always bullied at work, sometimes suppressed by leaders, sometimes excluded by colleagues, and do the most work, and suffer the most anger, why is this? How can an honest person be tough in the workplace? There are several ways to do this:

1.Thoroughly understand the policies and main business. As big as a unit, as small as a business knowledge, there are specific operating rules, if we want to firmly grasp the right to speak in the workplace, we must thoroughly understand the policy, grasp the macro policy, understand the operation rules, and grasp the general direction.

The second is to study the central business clearly, which is the foundation of your life in the unit, some old fritters are annoying when they encounter trouble, but the leader can't do anything to him, just because he has mastered the core business, mastered the policy and the core business, he can do it in his heart, and he has the confidence to speak.

2.Maintain a good relationship with your direct supervisor. As the saying goes, the county official is not as good as the current management, your direct leader assigns you work every day, inspects and supervises you, if you don't do things from the east, tired to death is useless, he doesn't look down on the work you do, then you don't expect to be happy, colleagues will also see the wind and alienate you.

Therefore, in the work, we must satisfy the direct leader, grasp its pulse, comprehend his ideas, and speak and act according to his ideas, so that you will have confidence, and you will not be afraid of subordinates and colleagues who are not satisfied, and you will not suffer from gains and losses and fear of making mistakes.

3.The veto power should be used appropriately. Why do the five permanent members have an important voice in the world?

It is because there is a veto power in the United Nations, don't underestimate the power of the veto, authority and prestige are established in the process of saying "no", a good old man who always nods in agreement will not be respected by everyone, even if you are a leader, you always agree with other people's ideas, do not express your own opinions, and slowly your words will become lighter and lighter, until they lose their effectiveness. For example, if there is a business that needs to be passed through your hands to move forward, but it is obviously in violation, you can put forward the problem and the basis, and refuse to take the high-level ......

That has to be strong and confident in your heart first.

Deal with things more independently, don't rely on your parents, be strong in your heart, don't be angry when you are frustrated, have self-confidence, and slowly become hard.

Are you a girl? Why ask such a question.

The character of a boy has a natural reason, the tiger father has no dog, so the father with a strong and brave personality will not be weak in his children.

In childhood, he should be led and educated by his father, who should instill in him the character of a man. If you are separated from your father for a long time, men will be weak.

Of course, mothers can also give some teaching in place of fathers. Yue Fei's mother gave him a tattoo, and Yue Fei eventually became a man.

Therefore, the mother should not spoil her son, but should give her son spur and supervision, so that he can improve himself.

If the boy has grown up and his character is still very weak, then it is even more necessary for his parents to make up for this education. Let him understand what his parents expect of him.

In addition to his parents, other relatives and friends who love him or want him to become stronger can help him. The point is to express the expectations of him, do not tolerate and spoil him, especially the wife or mother, too much to the husband or the laughing hand to grind the son doting and accommodating, will lead to the latter can not become a man.

Why change?

It doesn't matter if it's likable or annoying! It's not a big deal!

The key is your heart, if you have a beautiful, kind heart!

I think you like this too!

Do you have to be yourself, change it back and forth, is it still yourself?

As long as you do things according to your conscience, then you will be accepted!

In fact, the real change is when you meet someone you like.

You can't help but make yourself beautiful every day.

Actually, your hand is raised, and you make a move.

People will see your self-cultivation.

There is a new development in life, and I want to change.

However, it takes time. Take it easy.

It's a great thing to want to change yourself. I appreciate people like that. Because such a person is at least not an immutable numb person. Remember the book "Who Moved My Cheese"? The world is always changing, and people must learn to grow through change.

1.Be clear about what you want to change into. Be specific and clear.

Because only when you have a clear personality and lifestyle that you want will you have a clear goal. Otherwise, it will seem blind. Because you yourself are very vague and hazy about what you want, so what can you talk about changing?

It's just that there is a desire to change, but it has no practical effect;

2.Start with a change in mindset. Change starts with your smile.

Start with the people around you--- I mean use the people around you as a test. Because your change will get their feedback the fastest, and if the change is not good, because it is a very close person, so it is not afraid of any impact on your practical interests, they will not mind if they do not do well, you will not be too faceless, and they will give you advice at any time, this is good, and that is not good enough. I'm referring to your mom and dad, your siblings, your close friends, co-workers, loudly announcing to them that you are changing yourself!

Of course, the mentality must be open like this, if you can't even let go of this, if you can't even afford to lose face, then you don't need to toss.

3.I think change should really be divided into square and round, do things squarely, have your own principles and backbone, but you might as well be round. This circle doesn't have to be sleek.

It's easy-going, a little more accommodating within reason, but if you touch the principle, you can only treat it head-on. The principle must be adhered to. Maybe at first others will be annoyed by you for sticking to your principles and not pandering to them, but after a long time, you will get their respect and love, because people who adhere to principles give people a sense of security, so they can build prestige.

4.Because you didn't say what kind of change you want to make, there is no way to give you more targeted advice, but I want to emphasize that you must be clear about what you want to change and what effect you want to achieve, and then pursue it. Don't be blind.

These are my personal experiences. I have gone from being a very introverted and melancholy person since I was a child to where I am today, and I have become an optimistic and open-minded person. Therefore, I believe that people need to change, and change can remove the bad negative factors in our personality and pursue a better self.

Summary. Say important things three times, have principles! Principled!

Principled! Treat friends around you who don't like to get along, dare to say goodbye! Treat the ordinary friends around you who don't want to help and dare to refuse!

You can treat your friends who love you well, but as soon as you touch your bottom line and violate your will, it is a matter of principle, and you should refuse immediately! Treat the person who provokes you, you can be silent and sound, and finally double the disaster for him! But if anyone does not offend me, I will not offend, but if anyone offends me, I will pay back double.

And self-confidence, be confident, confident people are strong enough wherever they go! That's enough for you.

Hello friends!

Say important things three times, have principles! Principled! Principled!

Treat the friends around Bixina who don't like to get along, and dare to say goodbye! Treat the ordinary friends around you and dare to refuse what they don't want to help! You can treat your friends who love you well, but as soon as you touch your bottom line and violate your will, it is a matter of principle, and you should refuse immediately!

Treat the person who provokes you, you can be silent and sound, and finally double the disaster for him! I only regret that I have not remembered that if anyone does not offend me, I will not offend anyone, but if anyone offends me, I will pay it back double. And self-confidence, be confident, confident people are strong enough wherever they go!

That's enough for you.