What to do if your parents are too conservative 15, what to do if your parents are too conservative

It's that you don't understand them, and you don't necessarily know yourself.

You do what they believe in.

Their generation was more feudal-minded, and as a younger generation, we should have a tolerant heart. After all, it's still parents. It's okay if the relationship doesn't get stiff.

On the one hand, we must enlighten them calmly. On the one hand, we should always care for them and buy some clothes and shoes for the holidays and New Year. Although it is not expensive, the two elders know that you have this filial piety and are worried about them.

And they will be content!

First of all, I doubt that you are their biological or not. Secondly, you can calm down and find a time to talk to them about your heart and all your questions, otherwise this kind of relationship will become more and more problematic. After all, it's your own parents, and no matter how ruthless your parents are, they won't frame you.

I don't have a good relationship with my mother, but I will find a way to bridge the gap between the two sides, and I try to write letters and say what is in my heart after the argument, of course, it is rewarding. Believe in your family and give yourself a sense of responsibility at the same time, you are so confident but don't be overconfident, otherwise you will be arrogant or arrogant! Work experience is very important for society and companies nowadays.

My parents were like that too

I don't know how old you are, you keep saying that your parents don't understand you and don't listen to you, so you haven't said anything specific, if you don't let them touch your things, then you can communicate with them in a good tone, not to yell at them, but to compete with their parents.

Personally, I think your parents are good people, but maybe their education methods make you unacceptable, I was the same as you when I was young, but I understand my parents, I really don't lie to you, maybe you don't understand now, you will understand when you become a parent in the future, really...

Parents' conservative thinking may be due to their age and upbringing, and it may be difficult for them to accept and approve new things. However, this does not mean that we have to accept their conservative thinking, and there are ways we can try to change their thinking. Here are some ways to do it:

First, we can try to change the minds of our parents through communication. We can be honest with our parents about our views and understandings of certain things, and we can also listen to their thoughts and opinions. Through communication, we can make parents aware of the benefits of new things and gradually change their perceptions.

Second, we can try to change the minds of our parents through our actions. We can gradually introduce parents to new things, such as getting them to use new technology products or taking them to new activities. Through practical experience, parents may gradually recognize the benefits of new things and change their minds.

Finally, we can try to change the minds of our parents through education. We can introduce some relevant knowledge and information to parents so that they can understand the background and meaning of new things. At the same time, we can also improve the cultural literacy and cognitive level of parents through education, so that they can be more open and inclusive.

In conclusion, it takes a certain amount of time and patience to change the conservative mindset of parents. We need to gradually change their minds through communication, action, and education. At the same time, we also need to respect the opinions and ideas of parents, understand their growth environment and cultural background, so as to better communicate and communicate with them.

Not all parents are enlightened, in fact, the "conservative and old-fashioned" faction accounts for a large proportion of them, they often admonish their children with the old saying "don't listen to the elderly, suffer in front of you", some are indeed useful, but some have not been able to keep up with the rhythm of the times, even if they do not agree, should not show excessive emotions, this is the minimum respect for parents, if some things do need their support to be able to do, it is best to choose patience for the time being, waiting for the right opportunity, If you can operate alone, you should still insist on your own opinions, otherwise you will always live under the "wings" of your parents, and it will be difficult to have room for growth, even if you eventually encounter setbacks, it is also an experience for yourself.

Take the elderly out often to build a communication environment.

The environment changes people's minds. Look at the high-rise buildings in the big cities, look at the city and have to queue for two hours to eat, few people use cash, thieves have changed careers, they can't steal money, they have to steal passwords for mobile phones, how to decipher, this requires technology. If you look at the world's old people's perspectives, they will change, just as we see new things, not at home.

So communicate with your parents. The main thing is patience, and our parents used to raise us patiently when we were young. By the time my parents get old.

Children should also patiently support and take care of their parents, even if it is difficult to communicate ideologically, they must be patient to carry out the ditch and hunger. Let parents be able to get in touch with society and new things, so that they will not be abandoned by the times too quickly.

When you can't change them.

You can only change yourself.

Legally speaking, even parents are not allowed to interfere with their children's freedom of marriage, but in a humane society, children cannot completely ignore their parents' opinions. So how do you maintain a level of purity, weigh the pros and cons, and take care of everyone's emotions? I think the key lies in the following two points:

Financially and spiritually independent.

As children, we should be filial to our parents, but we can't be foolish, and everything is arranged by our parents. If your parents can provide you with good material conditions, such as sponsoring you to buy a house, a car, or get married, we should accept it with gratitude, but if they interfere in your life in this way, I think I would rather choose not.

Only if a person is financially independent, can he be qualified to fight for more initiative for himself, and if you rely on your parents in your life, it is natural that they will easily interfere in your life. If you want to gain more initiative, you still have to become strong yourself.

And when something happens, don't just say, "What can I do?" What am I going to do? "Can't you figure it out? Do you have to listen to your parents' objections? Are you not self-conscious?

Everyone's life circumstances and the environment in which they grow up are different. If parents have to interfere with their freedom to love. That can really only put one's fate like a gamble throwing dice, either forward or backward.

Then let them continue to be conservative, but you can communicate with them, they can be conservative, but you must let them understand your thoughts, understand the unconservative of young people in your current era, otherwise you will have a lot of conflicts, so try to communicate with your parents well, but you must speak well, because now young people have a very bad problem, and even I think it is a very bad habit, willing to get angry with their parents, and always can't speak calmly. There are even times when I always leave a smile to people outside, but I throw all the bad temper to my parents and some people who are closer, I think this is really undeserved.

In fact, I think that as long as you communicate well with your parents, there will be no problems, because you will understand, everyone's personality is different, and survival in what era is also different.

But my advice is that even if your parents don't understand you, you should understand your parents, because they came from the old society, and it is normal to be conservative, after all, a person's character is cultivated from a very young age.

For example, many people will have a strict feeling, the older generation or people of the age of parents, they all love to eat leftovers, and they will take the leftover meals or dishes from the previous meal and continue to eat, for fear of losing them, we will sometimes be unable to look at the eyes, eat leftover meals at a time, and can't eat a few new bites of each meal, but in fact, we shouldn't talk about them, this is already their habit, and it is even difficult to change the habit, they have developed the virtue of thrift and thrift very early, and they should not be stoppedbecause they feel happy to do so.

It depends on what you are looking for.

You can also ask some people who are in contact with them often to do some ideological work for them, and then get along with them to a degree that they can accept, in fact, many parents are not as conservative as their children think, they just don't want their children to be too open, so be a good example, you can also find the right time to try, many times they just don't want you to do that, when you don't do too much, they will also turn a blind eye, after all, they live a long time, haha.

As a post-90s child, my parents are more open-minded most of the time, but sometimes they are relatively conservative, and even make me a little unbearable. Sometimes I want to say something to them, either I don't understand it, it's perfunctory, or it's slanderous.

I thought it was a simple matter, after all, it was just a matter of talking. My dad asked me, "What is this for?"

I said that this was requested by the school to promote, and there was a prize for the first place. Unexpectedly, my dad pouted at the time, shook his head and smiled and said: It's all a lie, it's useless.

I was on fire all of a sudden: just ask you to help, this is a school thing, what a lie! What is useless!

Don't help pull down. That's when I slammed the door and went out.

This kind of similar thing happens often in our family, no matter how you say it, if you haven't reached the point where you can be independent, as long as it doesn't particularly touch your bottom line, then endure it, after all, it's your own parents; But if you can already be independent, then refer to your parents' opinions on major matters, and don't need to tell them about small things, just make your own decisions. After all, your life in the future is your own way.