How can you forgive yourself and forget your past love?

In fact, I personally feel that he left you to let you grow, the road of life is very long, you can't just love 1 person, of course, excluding exceptions, every time you love every change, you want to let the people you care about see and let him share with you, in fact, I think you are not going to bother him right, because you know that the previous mistakes make you unable to go back to the past, if you are now with him again, do you have a result, although you have changed, but you will still go back to the past, will you not, love him and let go to see him keep flying, If you want to let go of it, then let the time pass slowly, and when you look back on it later, you should thank him for letting you grow, if you don't have him, you're still a little broken child...

There is no right or wrong in love, just remember that you love her very much. The occasional sadness you feel for her after a few years is forgiveness for yourself.

If you can guarantee that you won't make the same mistakes in the future, you can go directly to her, go and ask for sin, bring a bouquet of flowers, and if she ignores you, you just wait there and wait until she returns.

If she really doesn't come back and ignore you, you can put the flowers on the ground, grieve for the love you once had, remember it once, and live again from now on.

Memories precipitate and ferment, and smile in the face of his ignorance. Do your best to redeem it, fight for it without regrets, remember the feeling of stinging in your heart, and have a long road to life in the future.

Time can dilute everything, and it is impossible to come out in four months, which may be a year.

The expected value before not getting it is 60, the expected value after getting it is 20, and the expected value after losing it is 80

Excerpt from the golden sentence:

Life is hard.

Not because we live the wrong life, but because life itself is hard.

Glennon Doyle Melton, "How to Stop Being Unhappy."

Personal interpretation: When we encounter misfortune, we often blame it on ourselves, but in fact it is just life itself.

We mistakenly think.

Self-blows can push oneself, but it is not loud to let you know that its effect is short-lived, and in the long run, it will only hit self-confidence and make you unhappy.

What we often say about loving oneself includes not only doing what you like and using what you like?

Don't be yourself.

When a person makes a mistake and comes to you to confide in him and reprimand himself for being stupid, we all comfort him:

It's not like that, don't treat yourself like that, people make mistakes.

But when we make mistakes ourselves, we also blame ourselves for being stupid, but we don't have such comfort for ourselves.

So, we treat ourselves.

Not as kind and warm as it is to others.

We are all human and we all make mistakes. ’

Remember this and forgive yourself for your mistakes.

This is a very complex issue because everyone's situation and feelings are different. Some people may forgive the person they love most, while others may choose to leave.

Forgiveness and forgetting are two different concepts. Forgiveness means that you release the anger and resentment in your heart towards the other person, while forgetting means that you will never remember what happened in the past. Even if you forgive the other person, it will take time to ** your own wounds and rebuild trust.

When deciding whether or not to forgive the other person, there are a few things to consider:

1.The extent and nature of the other party's mistakes, and whether they recognize the seriousness of the mistakes they made.

2.Whether the other person sincerely apologizes and takes action to remove your hurt feelings.

3.You enlighten yourself about the importance of the relationship and your hopes for the future.

4.Whether or not you believe in the other person will change their behavior and rebuild trust.

5.Do you have enough willingness and ability to go through the process of ** with the other person?

In the end, it is your own choice to decide to forgive the other party. You should consider the whole situation of yourself and the other person and decide which one is best for your interests and happiness.

Hello! 1. Don't try and force yourself to forgive someone who betrayed you.

Betrayal is already an established fact, and it is also a tragic result, if you force yourself to forgive, isn't it unprincipled, and there is no distinction between right and wrong?

Betrayal can never be truly forgotten, let alone truly let go. The only thing we can do is to make ourselves more and more peaceful and less concerned.

Trying to heal the pain with the emotion of "forgiveness" is obviously not the best way, but it will make you fall into deep self-blame and remorse, why should you be so cruel to yourself who has been betrayed?

Perhaps many people think that "forgiveness" is the highest state of forgetting, but I would like to say that in the face of betrayal, it is impossible to use "forgiveness" to forget. No one can really forget the fact of being hurt.

But those who want to forgive betrayal are not relieved, but reluctant.

Instead of being a "seemingly saint" who is "detached", it is better to face your emotions truthfully and accept the current situation: don't try to forgive, don't deliberately try to get free, time has the most wonderful effect on any pain, how about slowing down?

Respecting the principle of emotional dissipation and emotional dilution, and bravely going through these processes at what stage should be experienced is the greatest release for yourself.

2. Don't deliberately understand the reason for the so-called "betrayal".

Why should we recognize and understand the causes of "betrayal"? Isn't this promotion a salt on the wound?

Because any betrayal is destined to be deliberate at the moment it arises, no matter what the reason, it is a human error for the "initiator", so why bother to seek and explore?

Those who often want to get themselves out of the "betrayal" will sigh for themselves while also finding reasons for the "betrayal" behavior of the other party. I thought this was to show my tolerance and open-mindedness, but I didn't know that this was the biggest punishment for myself!

This process and practice of trying to understand the reasons for "betrayal" is like a total denial of one's past; It is also a "repetition of betrayal" of himself at this moment.

We really don't have to find reasons for those betrayals or things, the reasons are really simple, it's nothing more than that: I don't love anymore, I don't love enough, I give up on you.

3. The real letting go is "forgetting to let go" and remaining insensitive.

Don't deliberately let go if you can't let go, don't force yourself to forgive if you don't want to forgive, and return to the most basic and daily life.

You can vent, scream, and even rebuke the person who betrayed you; You can also drink and indulge for three days and three nights; You can also give yourself a little vacation and do what you once wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do.

In short, you can allow yourself to give yourself an exit and a certain amount of time after being betrayed, and gain relief in the short term, but you must not let yourself fall into the abyss of self-blame and "why".

After all, no matter how much you try to find out the cause or blame yourself, the person you once loved madly no longer belongs to you.

Waiting for the passage of time, you will find that you can really face "that person" without any waves.

This is the highest state of "non-feeling" – letting go.

Boccaccio said a philosophical remark that true love can inspire and awaken the dormant power and hidden talent within him. It's a short sentence, but it makes me think about it. How do you need to forgive your past self, and how will it happen if you don't forgive your past self?

In the face of this inevitable conflict, we must address this issue. We might as well think of it this way: understanding what kind of existence it is to forgive the past self is the key to solving all problems.

Forgive your past self, what will happen if it happens, and what will happen if it doesn't. Homer summed up his life experience in this sentence: The sign of wisdom is to judge the situation before choosing the opportunity. This makes me think deeply.

In this way, we have to face a very embarrassing truth, that is, why did forgiving the past self happen? We have to face a very embarrassing fact, that is, after the above discussion, I think that under this difficult choice, I have a lot of trouble thinking about it. What is the crux of the matter?

We must unify our thinking, work in a unified way, and strive to fundamentally solve the problem of forgiving our past selves. We generally think that if we get to the crux of the problem, everything else will be solved. "The Analects of Learning" once said, "I have three times a day and three provinces of my body:

Seeking for others and not being faithful? Making friends and not believing them? Are you used to it?

This seems to answer my doubts. We have to face a very embarrassing fact, and that is.

What is the crux of the matter? From this point of view, we might as well think like this: Fang Xiaoru summed up his life experience into such a sentence, not satisfied with small success, and then it is enough to become a big tool; Don't be tempted by small profits, and then you can make far-reaching contributions.

This sentence is like a beacon light that guides my progress, illuminating the way forward in my life everywhere. This fact means a lot to me, and I believe it has some meaning to the world. Generally speaking, forgiving my past self is not just a major event, it can also change my life.

Now, it is very, very important to solve the problem of forgiving oneself in the past. Therefore, since how, the so-called forgiveness of the past self, the key is how to forgive the past self needs to be written. Forgive your past self, what will happen if it happens, and what will happen if it doesn't.

I have also thought about this issue carefully and have been thinking about it day and night. However, even so, forgiving the appearance of the past self still represents a certain meaning. From this point of view, why does forgiveness of one's past self occur?

What is the crux of the matter? It's inevitable. The folk proverb inadvertently says that good wine comes out of the countryside.

This makes me think deeply. Why does forgiveness of the past self happen? How do you need to forgive your past self, and how will it happen if you don't forgive your past self?

The past has passed, and there is no need to be entangled, and it is best to live well, such as yesterday passed and today is coming, yesterday is just yesterday and there will never be yesterday again, so you must cherish the present.

Hello, every step of your own choice is your own choice, there is no forgiveness, as long as you don't regret it, the road is your own choice.

The rest of your life is expensive, live the rest of your life well. The old self no longer exists. Why always remember those painful pasts. Life is in the world, eating, drinking and merrymaking.

Improve your current self, and when you have achievements, you will re-examine yourself.

Don't care about the past, even if you make a mistake, just change it, the past is experience, experience, right and wrong are all for the future to do better.

Whoever forsakes me will not remain in the day of yesterday;

Those who disturb my heart will have many troubles today.

Life is not satisfactory in the world, and the Ming Dynasty spreads flat boats.

Forget the past and start afresh ...

After falling out of love, we always like to ask:

How can I forget him? I wanted to forget him, but I just couldn't. ”

If you can't forget him, don't forget him.

Why so painfully forget someone? Time will naturally make you forget him.

Now, I ask you not to think about a big stupid pink elephant.

Excuse me, what do you have in mind?

You immediately think of a big pink stupid elephant.

The harder you try to forget, the more you can't forget.

It is a matter of course to still love him and not forget him, and there is no need to feel ashamed.

Some people can't forget to bury potatoes, but they deceive themselves and say:

I've forgotten about him. ”

However, as long as others mention him, she can't control herself. Middle.

One day, you'll forget about him.

True forgetting doesn't take effort.

One day, you took a shower from the bathroom, twisted the record player to listen to your favorite **, you suddenly remembered that you once sold your hand to love someone, ah, it turns out that you loved this person, it seems to be a very distant thing, you have no feeling at all. That's forgetting.

One day, when someone mentions so-and-so, you suddenly remember that you once loved this person, but now you don't remember. That's forgetting.

If time can't make you forget those you shouldn't remember, what's the point of the years we've lost?

Happiness will not wait for you all the time, the people who love you and the people you love are not ready to appear, please learn to cherish them.

When a person who loves you deeply changes for you, it is because he loves you, and when you meet someone, he puts away his stubborn temper for you; also because he loves you, he calls for your interest to turn it into a ...... for him and Yu Xiao's interestOr because he loves you.

There is no reason to like someone, and there is no regret to give.

They all think it's worth it, as long as they can be with the people they love.

In fact, we all have some such people around us, but (you. I. He hasn't discovered that the person who knows you best will always be by your side to protect you and not let you have a trace of grievances; People who truly love you may not say many things that love you, but they will do many things that love you.

If you find someone like this around you, please cherish .......

Please remember! The stars that can't be picked are always the brightest, and the small fish that slip away are always the most beautiful. The missed movie is always the best, and the lost lover always understands you best.

In this world, everyone has someone they want to find, and once they miss it, they won't come back.

If you fall in love, don't give up easily. It's awkward, maybe you regret it for a while; But you give up, and it may make you regret it for the rest of your life. A life that has experienced love is beautiful, and love that cannot stand the test is not profound.

A beautiful love enriches life, and a ruined love that has passed the test is perfect.