To be a human being is to guard against people everywhere?

If there is no conflict of interest, there is no need to guard against it.

Things that harm others and are not beneficial to oneself are rarely done.

Is everyone doing things that harm others and benefit themselves? Where did you come to your conclusions? What is your experience?

You may be overly sensitive.

In real life, there is no real gentleman and no real villain. Because none of them can survive. The norm of life is to be altruistic for one's own sake.

That is what is often said"One for all, all for one".How you do to others, how others do to you. Those who are altruistic and selfless will be regarded as fools, and those who are purely self-interested will not survive.

This is a common life lesson for many years, and it is the result of a game.

The human heart is unpredictable, but there is no need to test it. Compare your heart to your heart and have a clear conscience.

Of course, you can tell the truth, but you can't just say it to everyone. If it doesn't matter, you can say it casually.

Everywhere you go, you have to exhaust yourself to death.

Your sensitivity also causes the sensitivity of others. leads to distrust and alienation of others.

Doraemon, don't worry about the clouds, be cheerful. Relationships are step-by-step intimacy. When there is nothing to say, the truth and the truth will naturally be said as you like.

It can't be generalized, although "the heart of defense is indispensable", but not necessarily, not so that you are aware of everyone everywhere, and it is up to you to judge whether this person is worthy of your heart for a long time.

You don't need too many good friends, one or two confidants are enough, I hope you can meet your bosom friends soon!

Yes, except for your own parents, no matter who it is, you have to guard against it, even your close friends, if he betrays you one day, you will be even more miserable!

It's not so dangerous and complicated, if there is no trust in this world, how tired it would be to live! You can't have the heart of harming people, and you can't have the heart of preventing people, but in the face of kind people and sincere friends, if there is no trust, what you will eventually return back is also distrust, where are your friends?

Not really! It's so tiring to live like that!

But don't talk about your privacy!

Even if it's a good friend!

Man always has to be secretly hungry.

There should be an extra mind. Scheming people are the most likely to be deceived. The sun is good, but it's still hot.

There should be an extra mind. Scheming people are the most likely to be deceived.

The heart of defense is indispensable.

Realize for yourself.

Slowly embody the cruelty of this society.

Making people mistakenly think that you are ignorant is often the greatest wisdom!

Speak human words to people, and talk nonsense to ghosts

Real life may be like that.

Anyway, you should be careful in everything you do.

I think your situation is something that most people in life will inevitably encounter! First of all, you have to be a little more correct, "go your own way, let others say it", other people's words, attitudes, reactions are just other people's, sometimes, that person is in a bad mood, or there is no consideration, this is not enough to affect the overall impression of this person in your heart, everyone has a time when they talk and do things without their brains, isn't it? On the other hand, your description of yourself as "kind-hearted and without bending your bowels" is very good, and I believe this is also your essence, but if you think about it, don't you have a time when you speak and bring harm to others without using your brain?

In fact, many times, this is an unintentional mistake, not how much you really have a big opinion or deep hatred for each other, so it's over, don't give yourself too much time to "reminisce" these meaningless things. If some people's words really make you feel very uncomfortable, and you feel that you can hardly get over this hurdle, and you are not ready to part ways with him in the future, then communicate with him, tell him frankly about his thoughts, I think as long as he still cares about you, he will first apologize to you, and then he will pay more attention to the way he speaks in the future. On the other hand, if he turns a blind eye to your honest communication, is perfunctory, and does not think about it in the future, then you can judge the essence of this person by relying on this.

According to my understanding, what you mean is that you obviously didn't provoke others, and you didn't inadvertently offend others, but some people deliberately attacked you. There are indeed many such people in life. Their thinking is that good people can be bullied, and evil people must not be offended.

Therefore, when I see that you are a kind person, I often take advantage of your mouth. As for how you do it, depending on the environment you are in, there are two ways to do it. If you have a small number of people in your environment who deceive good and fear evil, then ignore him, anyway, everyone despises this kind of person.

When you quarrel with him, it affects your own image. If in your environment, there are a majority of people who deceive the good and fear the evil (not to mention that there is no such environment), then remind yourself every day that you are ready to attack them at any time when you come into contact with them, so that you can fight back. In this kind of environment, your forbearance is not a virtue in the eyes of others, but a weakness that can be bullied.

If you tolerate someone, 99% of them will come up and attack you in the mouth because they think you are a bully. As long as you remind yourself every day, you can be able to prevent others.

There are no absolute good people in the world, there are no absolute bad people, think about beware of others everywhere, slowly you will lose the people around you, I am also a very direct person, because of the offense I don't know a lot of people I don't know, I suggest, listen to others, you can filter yourself, only listen to what is useful to yourself, many times the misfortune comes out of the mouth, often others say their own words, people will forget, so don't always believe what others say, just listen to it, of course, this is very difficult!

The second is yourself, it is recommended that every time you want to speak, don't worry, slow down, this sentence will not affect anything, if nothing can be changed, then talk less and do more, be a rigorous person!

Hehe,,, the heart of guarding against people really can't be "nothing", this is a natural law, very normal. However, since you are kind-hearted and don't have so many twists and turns, you don't have to wrap yourself around too much "after the fact". It's very interesting to communicate and understand each other's "words" with each other, and in the same sentence, what they want to express, in fact, it is difficult for you to fully understand, if possible, try to understand it in your own favor.

Otherwise, is there any benefit other than being "angry" yourself?

People who don't know how to be grateful don't help. Don't help this kind of person even if you are killed, if you help, it is also a white gang, and there is no gratitude at all, for example, there are some colleagues around you who have already helped her do some work, but when you don't help him, he is full of resentment towards you, and this kind of person can't help.

People who are too calculating don't help. For example, if you spend two hours helping him do something, but he thinks you are not paying attention to helping him, according to him, what can be done in half an hour, it took you two hours to do it for him, you see what you helped him, and he thinks you are a bad person.

Narrow-minded people don't help. A narrow-minded person should not help him, when you want to help him, he doesn't think that you are helping him, he thinks that you are taking advantage of him, he will think that you have other plans, that is, he will first suspect your motives, rather than make people doubt you, why help him.

People who don't know how to be grateful and feel that others have helped him for granted. There are people who are willing to fall into depravity, and there are people who don't want to rely on their own efforts and only want to rely on others.

People who don't know how to be grateful can't help, and this kind of person takes the help of others as a matter of course, and will not be grateful. People who have never seen the world can't help, maybe you put a lot of effort into helping, and he may think that you can easily do it, so you don't need to thank you. The villain can't help, don't help, and make yourself a commotion.

I think there are two kinds of people who can't help, one is relatives who praise high and low. This kind of person has no principles, seeing the wind and rudder, if one day you need help with any difficulties, she will not help you; The second is a nodding friend. After all, this kind of person is not familiar, and there is no need to help.

A dishonest person, a person who often lies, can't help, and if you help him, you fuel his arrogance to lie. People who often steal can't help. There are also those who are vicious and evil, or you may be in danger at any time.

The most important thing in life is to be kind, but to have a clear conscience. People with poor character, wrong views, and no integrity can't help, and you can help such people in vain, and maybe they will get into trouble. Kindness is important, but it cannot be done unprincipledly.

Friends are the topics we have to face in our lives. However, not all things can be helped, it is necessary to be measured, "gentlemen's friendship is as sweet as liquor", friends should pay the most attention to proportion, to understand what to help, what not to help. In particular, the following three kinds of favors must not be helped.

Defending against people is a very painful thing, and happiness is lost in guarding against people. Man is defenseless, because man is what he is. The human body is composed of Tao, virtue, non-virtue, and thinking, and when people are willing to be with the Tao, they are virtuous.

To leave the Tao is to be immoral. Therefore, people often wander between virtue and non-virtue. Man is an animal that is easily influenced by man, and because of others, man can easily be introduced into virtue or non-virtue.

Therefore, getting along with others is not to defend against people, but to firmly attract people. Virtue is goodness, kindness, good mood, good motivation.

Beware of others, human nature is full of weaknesses, believe in the world, society and goodwill, this needs to be grasped by yourself. You can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't have the heart to defend people.

Some people are often jealous, they can't see the good of others, and they try their best to damage the good things of others, so they are afraid that others will be rich and successful, so people are different from each other, and we must beware of these people.

The station is very important for the location. This is not just about following the right friends, but about your circle of friends, your role model, you have to have a few friends who have always existed, and you need to constantly update your social circle. Only those who are really good can give you more benefits, and that benefit is not just money.

The villains on the bright side are like poor students when they are studying, what are they afraid of. You can tell the teacher if your speech affects you in class, and you can tell the political and educational office if you are chasing you after class and making noise. The real bad guy has always been the kind of person who hides a needle in his cotton and a knife in his smile.

To avoid being harmed, human nature is selfish, and in the face of money and interests, everyone will inevitably do something harmful to others and self-interest.

In the world, you must guard against people! Prevent others from harming your interests!

There are no pure friends in the workplace, and if your friend stabs you because of interests, you still have to be friends with him. Otherwise, you won't have any friends.

Instead of pleasing others, it is better to fix yourself. I have friends who don't need maintenance, when my TV series airs, when my new book hits the market, when I go on TV, when I make more money a month than they do in a year, they will be very proactive to come to you.

As a simple example, in the compound where I used to live, there was a female "good friend" who played well, and I told her that my high school reunion was very drunk among classmates, but I didn't drink with them, and they would go crazy after drinking, and I didn't want to go to such parties, I didn't like to go. She and I have a female classmate acquaintance, the classmate's current husband is her part-time job school security office, she also works in the security office, there is a class reunion, several female classmates have called me to work, I want to participate in the song hall singing after I think of leaving after eating, so as not to see the ** state after eating a lot of alcohol, before the meal the female classmate was already drunk, so he told me: My yard "good friend" called her class reunion must call me, I thought to myself, I clearly talked to you about not liking such parties, why did you still call my classmates to call me, because I didn't drink, and they also thought I was not fun, and since then, I have never been to the class reunion again.

A lot of things, a lot of times, don't talk. It's like if you don't do something, you have no merit – if you don't speak, you have no desires. Let's take our time. Don't talk, including parties, but also envelop the circle of friends. You don't have to post on Moments, you can save countless troubles.

Prevention is because there is discrimination. But people can't be without distinction, and without distinction, you can't distinguish between good and bad. With discrimination, you may become a bad person in the eyes of others. That's why it's hard to be a man.

No matter what you succumb to your current life, you have to put a place in your heart for your original intention, which is your dream, the greatest meaning of being a human being, and the motivation for you not to be afraid of the present and the future. It's your uncompromising capital.

Answer: Be a person must be like a person, don't be an official! It's not in vain! To be a man and to do things; The inside is square and the outside is round.

Defense: Next to the word, it is your own consciousness! Fang: Inner square and outer circle, you must know how to be flexible in life and work, do not have edges and corners, and you must be "square and round" in life and work, so that you will do things well and will not be hated by others!