What are you most afraid of future generations remembering?

The impact of parental quarrels on children is profound, and the younger the child, the greater the impact. Serious quarrels between parents will affect children's views on mate selection and marriage. Let the child grow up in the quarrels of the parents, and the child's temper will become irritable, irritable, avoidant, timid, anxious, and so on over time.

I remember when I was three years old, my parents had a quarrel over a trivial matter, and my father even made a move on my mother, and my mother's nose was broken, and she sat on a small stool at the door of the small mud house with me in her arms, complaining to my father with tears in her eyes, while my father and grandfather sat on a high wooden bench and stared at my mother. At that time, I was as weak and helpless as my mother, crying together, afraid of my father's hideous face at that time, but still liked the gentle and kind father. Dad stayed up all night in the hall, while Mom and I cried and fell asleep in the little bedroom.

After that incident, no matter how angry my father was with high blood pressure, he never did anything to my mother again. Dad said because I cried and said to him, Dad, you promise not to beat Mom in the future. For 18 years, Dad has kept his promise and never broken his promise.

It will definitely be affected. I still remember that when I was a child, my parents quarreled, I felt that they quarreled because of themselves, and I was afraid that they would leave me, so I didn't dare to do anything or say anything. When I got married and had children, sometimes I couldn't help but quarrel with my husband, and I obviously felt that the children were scared, and they were very obedient, for fear that they would do something wrong or say something wrong and make adults even more unhappy and continue to quarrel.

The impact is very large. Well, in the eyes of the child, he may think that the quarrel between his parents means that they will not want me, then he will have a distorted psychology. Well, I don't know what terrible things I will do in the future, it is because of the quarrel of my parents, don't look at the quarrel of my parents is just a trivial matter, but this may determine that the child who should have taken the straight road in his life has taken the crooked road, because the quarrel of his parents has distorted his psychology.

Well, please parents don't quarrel casually, care more about their children, your quarrels with children will also be sad and sad, they may go down the wrong path for this.

The child's sensitivity is particularly good, so every move of the adult will affect the child, and the influence of the family of origin is very important to her! A few days ago, my mother-in-law chatted with me, talking about her original family, that is, my husband's grandmother, and she was complaining, saying that grandma and grandpa often quarreled, and grandpa beat grandma when he drank too much, and didn't pay attention to them, and he was young and was bullied by his brothers and sisters, anyway, he was wronged, so now my mother-in-law is very negative energy, always complaining, and her life is to dislike others.

Quarrels must have an impact on children, serious will affect the child's heart to leave a shadow, and even affect the child's personality, the couple had better agree, when quarreling to avoid the child, try to create a harmonious growth environment for the child, married life, a little friction is inevitable, usually or to strengthen the communication between husband and wife, can effectively reduce the fierce quarrel.

Let's talk about a real case, that is, my closest person, he has experienced his parents' quarrels since he was a child, and his family has been quarreling since he can remember. Since childhood, his personality has not been very cheerful, and he is more hidden in his heart. When I grow up, my personality is more sharp, and it is easier to drill the corners, and it is difficult to establish intimate relationships with others.