Should the love that the parents disagree with be insisted on, and the love that the parents do not

The situation seems to be the same, but we are relatively small, are twenty-one, he is also an intern, in the company to learn from others, his family conditions are not very good, the family also knows him, not very agreeable, but did not clearly prevent us from dating, so I plan to take him to meet my family next year, and then give him three years to develop his own career, I heard that the project budget is a good job. The only thing that worries people is that you are three years older than him, and if he changes his mind again when his career is better, it will be a bit not good.

Also, let him drink less, he loves you very much now, and he won't lose his temper with you, and after a long time, will it? Try to get him to change his shortcomings for you. However, if he has changed a lot for you, and you can be sure that he really loves you, then you can wait for him for a year, otherwise, you can't let go of your heart, and how can you know what the result will be if you don't try to give?

My girlfriend was 2 years older than me, I didn't listen to my parents, and I resolutely went to her place of work, but the result can be imagined, or she asked me to go with a dead face. You are quite sensible, you don't make rash decisions, I think the same as your parents, I don't agree. Don't be blinded by the love of those TV shows, think twice.

Love is a very illusory thing, and living a good life in the future is the key.

I still have to listen to my parents' words, I have been in almost the same situation as you, my friends and family don't approve, but I insisted on being with him, and in the end I broke up, and I was very sad when I was divided, I didn't know my own specific situation I don't know your specific situation, but after you make a decision, you have to stick to it, no matter what the result is, in short, you tried your best I wish you happiness

This kind of thing must listen to your parents, experience talks, especially girls, you must listen to your parents, Chou Dong's song to listen to his mother's words is really classic.

Then wait a year. Downplay it.

Hello! I have received your question, I am Yu Xiaohan, a counselor of the psychological platform at this moment.

Whether the love that the parents do not agree with should be insisted on varies from person to person and from thing to thing, and the parties should listen carefully to the reasons and reasons given by the parents and think carefully. After all, my parents are from the past, and I have been thinking and summarizing my marriage and what should be a good marriage for nearly twenty or thirty years. Any love is beautiful, and the key is whether the future marriage is happy or not!

It can be seen that what parents oppose is often not the love itself but the subsequent marriage, so you must consider it carefully and face it rationally.

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If your parents don't agree with your love, don't stick to it. Marriage is always a matter for two families. Choosing the right in-laws, choosing the right family, and even choosing the right husband is much more important.

In an unhappy marriage, in addition to the husband's incompetence, the troubled in-laws who are messing around are also a big disaster.

When you get married, you must look at your family background. It doesn't have to be how wealthy the man's family is, but he must be responsible, and his parents must have good character. Many people have a strong sense of family, many parents have been taking care of everything for their children, thinking that everything about their children is closely related to the family, therefore, many people will habitually refer to their parents' opinions when looking for or determining their other half.

We often hear such a sentence: marriage is a matter of two families, if you do not get the approval of both parents before marriage, you will not be happy after marriage. For this point of view, many people deeply believe it, and uphold the "father's and mother's rules" to seek their lifelong partners.

In fact, a marriage blessed by parents is not necessarily happy.

First of all, of course, it is to find the reason for the disapproval of the parents, and the relationship is not approved by the parents, most of which are due to financial problems. Whether the man's parents do not agree or the woman's parents do not agree, the economy is a very important reason. Boys' parents are worried that their son's burden will become heavier if the girl's family is not good, while the girl's parents have a simpler reason, fearing that their girl will marry and suffer.

If it's for this reason, I think it can be overcome, two young people, with sound limbs, as long as they are willing to work hard, I think anything will be there. So, that's one of the best problems to solve.

The second is that he feels that his son or daughter is dissatisfied with himself, and this is mostly because his mother-in-law is dissatisfied. Therefore, people will feel that their children are very good, so they will put the requirements for their children to find the other half very high, and in reality, it is too difficult to meet the requirements of the mother-in-law or the mother-in-law.

If you disagree for this reason, then I want you to remember that it is you who get married, not your parents who get married. Your other half is your own choice, if you give up just because your parents are not satisfied, then I think it's just because you don't love enough, and there will be so many reasons for true love.

And because their parents don't agree and choose to give up, most of them are boys' attachment in love is mostly less than that of girls, so whether their mother disagrees or the girl's mother disagrees, under the pressure of day after day, they will gradually feel that what their parents say may be right, maybe if they change someone, it will really not be so hard. If the parents oppose this hurdle and can't get over, then if they encounter more difficult difficulties in the future, how can the husband and wife break through? If he can't work with you now, do you expect it to be later?

At the end of the day, all the resistance is an excuse, and as long as you really love each other enough, it's not a problem. I hope you won't break up because your parents are against it, your life is very long, but I hope you don't get married because it's suitable, but because of love. Of course, if the reason for the opposition of the parents is the character of the other party, then it is recommended that you think about it, after all, parents can see through the essence of a person better than us.

1.The two of them should communicate more with their parents

2.The two of them have to show their parents their persistence in this relationship

To continue, I hope you can remember that love is your own love, your life needs you to go by yourself, and you will be with your life is not parents or children, parents will eventually leave, children are destined to travel far away, don't miss it when you meet true love, because it is difficult to meet true love.

After the sweetness of love, both men and women feel that they can be entrusted with their lives after a certain period of time, and they have to meet their parents, and this formal process has to be repeated. Have your parents take care of the final hurdle for you. In fact, generally the man's parents do not have any major requirements for their children's future daughter-in-law, and the current society is that the woman's parents basically have more requirements for boys.

There is nothing material or difficult, after all, parents want their children to be happy. Basically, that's what they value.

Love is not child's play, it is equivalent to your second rebirth, so you must think carefully. When you feel that this person is really good enough and loving enough, don't quarrel with your parents, communicate with your parents more, understand your parents' thoughts, and tell them what you think.

If you don't even want to work love, then love will eventually leave, so you should make it clear to your parents. Also let your one show his strengths, his sincerity. Sincerely, the gold and stone are open.

I think all parents want their children to be happy.

Show your determination and be sure to take him home when you have the chance, because your parents refuse because they don't know what is good for him, and you can definitely change it when you meet. As long as your parents see that he is good to you, they will understand because they are also for you. You must not completely listen to your parents' thoughts, a love without effort is not called love.

Again, life is your own, people always need to work hard for what they love in this life, I hope you can be happy.

I don't think there's any need to hold on any longer, even if two people persist until the end, this love will not be perfect.

Love in real life can be decided by two people, but whether this love can enter into marriage also requires the blessing of parents. If a loving parent disagrees, those two people continue to insist, and there are too many dilemmas waiting for two people in the future.

Real life is always more cruel than imagined, and the love that two people insist on may not be able to enter marriage. I have a friend's love, his parents especially disagree, boys and girls always feel that as long as the love is still there, the two of them can definitely go to the end.

But the reality is so difficult to accept, when the relationship between two people comes to the step of talking about marriage, just buying a house makes the two people enter an impasse.

Both of them have not been in society for a long time, and they can't afford to pay a down payment at all, but the boy's parents don't agree with this relationship and are not willing to help in this matter. The two of them came to the end in a quarrel like this, which has to be said to be a kind of irony.

If your parents don't agree with love, it's hard to stick to it. I think it's easy to understand that if your parents don't approve of you marrying a person, even if the two of you do get married, the family relationship will be difficult to handle.

Your parents don't like your lover, so do you and your lover go home for the New Year? If your parents don't approve of your marriage, will your lover have a problem in his heart? The relationship between them is not good, can you really get them to let go of their knots?

It's all very real and you have to think about it. You may be able to give up your parents for the sake of love, but you can't never stop having contact with your parents for the rest of your life.

Embracing love means that you need to give up your affection, and if you want to have it, you have to give up your love. When there is an inevitable conflict between the two, your inner entanglements and trade-offs are often not as much as you think.

There is no right or wrong choice between love and affection, no matter which path you choose, you must stick to it.

We can't say that the love that our parents oppose must be bad, and we must give up, but sometimes we also need to think carefully about it according to our love, the question is in the end, why your parents don't like your object.

For example, I myself, my parents didn't like my ex, and I loved him very much, so at that time, I took him home to see my parents twice, but each time I brought him back, it only attracted greater opposition from my parents, and then I tried to ask my mother, why I just don't like him, I like him so much, why they can't accept it.

Then my mother told me that they didn't think that the boy's family was poor, but that the boy's family conditions were not good, but they still didn't know how to be motivated, and they were too macho, so how could they trust me to marry him.

Once because of love, so never thought about whether he was motivated, in my opinion he did have at work, although a few years is still just a small staff, in the original position has not moved, I love him so I am willing to go back home to cook, laundry, sweep and mop the floor, but think back to the two years of dating, he seems to have never done housework, so I began to think about whether this kind of love is worth it.

In the end, I chose to give up, because I found that I was not willing to serve people for a lifetime, nor did I want to be poor for a lifetime, even if I loved him again, but I still have to face the reality, after all, when I get married, it is impossible to be like when I was in school, as long as I love.

Therefore, I think, you can actually ask your parents, why oppose your love, what is wrong, if they just think that my boyfriend is poor, or the door is not right, but your boyfriend is motivated, then you can continue to insist, but if there are really some problems that cannot be changed, I think it is better to accept the opinions of your parents, after all, marriage is a lifetime, and you are not alone.

In the end, you and I still didn't become us after all.

What age is it now, love and marriage are still in charge of the family. If you truly love each other, you don't have to think about what they think. But then again, they are also for your own good, so don't make them angry at this time, tell them well, remember that sincerity is the cause, and the gold and stone are open.

As long as you love each other.

As long as two people truly love each other, they should use facts and time to prove to their families, and we will be very happy together!

A man buys a house with the hard-earned money that his parents have accumulated all his life, but he does not respect his parents' opinions, that is not love, it is selfish and willful, only to be happy, and his parents love him all his life, but he wants to make his parents sad, how long can this kind of person's love for women last? A smart woman wouldn't choose such a man.

If you insist, if you don't insist, your parents won't be able to reconcile, and if you insist, you want your father and mother to be reconciled.