Do you think what kind of friends you make has a lot to do with your personal abilities?

For those who are very capable, the relationship is very big, but for us ordinary people, most of us don't care much about personal ability, as long as we look at it well, we can be friends. The purpose of the strong is to make yourself excellent and have more channels to meet more people. But there is another kind of "friend", which is to mess with a boss.

When I used to do the traditional industry, I was like this, I didn't want to be ashamed, I didn't want money, I just was willing to follow along, and I spent a lot of time with a boss I admired, and I learned a lot of things. The point is: be thick-skinned to take the initiative and pay.

Your relationship is based on my 100% recognition that you are stronger than me, and agree with most of your ideas in this area, and we will not have any disputes in this area in the future, but you are far stronger than me in this area, and it does not affect our communication and friendship in other aspects.

Of course, it has a lot to do with it, and I think the essence of all relationships is exchange, and friendship is no exception. What kind of friends you make depends on two elements: time and space and value.

Time and space determine whether you have the opportunity and fate to meet someone, which is a matter of "swimming pool". Value determines whether you and someone have the opportunity to live in the same time and space, and whether someone needs to be friends with you. If it is a problem of time and space, then go around, bring in, go out, and turn the world upside down.

If it is a question of value, you can study calmly and calmly, go back to the cave to hibernate and cultivate, improve your value and energy, and everything will fall into place.

Making friends has something to do with ability, but it must not be a "big" relationship. For example, I have these kinds of friends in my social circle (about 30 years old). Who do you think is more capable?

Outstanding personality, wide range of knowledge, like to make friends. And it belongs to the category of taking the initiative to make friends. Introverted, silent, and strong learning ability, when in their own familiar circles (professional circles), they can do unlimited chatting.

Deeply rooted type, enough to stand alone in their own professional circles. There are several of them, each of them has their own distinctive characteristics, if you want to talk about ability, I can only say that there is a specialization in the art industry.

It's related, but it's not huge. Personal competence determines the upper limit of interpersonal relationships, and interpersonal relationships define your personal abilities. Therefore, personal ability is more important, interpersonal relationships are just to make you happy or unhappy, and they cannot help you at critical moments, because the essence of interpersonal relationships is the exchange of interests.

When it comes to making real friends, it's not the average relationship, unless you're talking about the kind of "fox and dog" type of friends. If you want to make real friends, you must first make yourself a person who thinks independently, does things reliably, and is valuable to others, so that you have the ability to attract people of the same kind.

There are certain relationships, we make friends in life, usually within the circle of our own lives, and your ability to work determines the standard of your life.

In fact, from a certain point of view, looking at a person's friends, you will know how the person is, and the relationship between the level of ability and the status of making friends is naturally very large. Regarding making friends, there is a mention in the Book of Changes that "the square gathers by like, and the things are divided by groups", which means that good people will be with good people, and evil people will attract evil friends.

Of course, things gather people in groups, and excellent people are gathered, so your circle of friends determines your own excellence to a certain extent.

Similar things gather, generally people with similar abilities can become friends, and it is also because people with similar abilities to themselves will live around themselves, such as the same school or the same unit.

When you are very capable, you may have a high quality of interpersonal relationships, which determines what kind of people you can attract, and the way you get along with the outside world determines what kind of people you can keep.

Yes, your ability determines what kind of friends you are around, and only friends with similar abilities to yourself will have similar values.

It has a lot to do with your own abilities! If you have a high social status, it goes without saying that you must have many friends from all walks of life!

There is a relationship, and what kind of person you are determines what kind of friends you make.

Yes, I like to be friends with people who are about the same level as me, because so many of them share the same values.

Those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black, this sentence still makes sense, but it mainly depends on yourself, your friends still have something in common with you in some places. But you can also absorb only the good in them.

I have a deep understanding that I usually live in a very narrow circle and make limited friends. The daily topic is just a short time for parents, and they complain a few words, and they feel that the market atmosphere is strong. The college entrance examination at the beginning decided to go to an ordinary university, and the people around the university were imperceptible to themselves.

But this is not the life I want. So I'm very confused, I have such friends around me, maybe it's really my ability that determines my friends.

It must be close to one's three views, not careful, and people who have common topics to make friends.

People who have a lot of friends often have an advantage, do you have it? Really smart people often have this advantage, with more and more friends and more and more contacts. This advantage is that you are good at making friends with all kinds of people, including those whose personalities are different from your own.

The highest level of making friends should be like-minded, but in real life, such friends always belong to a minority, if we only associate with these few people who are similar to ourselves, then the scope of our friends will be greatly limited, and it is impossible to have more and more friends, and it is impossible to have more and more contacts.

First of all, the other party must be kind and honest, and secondly, the three views must be correct, and at the same time not too selfish, these two points are the most basic, on this basis, it is best to have a common language and hobbies.

I still don't know about others, but I really like the kind of big grin, optimistic and cheerful.

I will be good friends with people who are cheerful and have no petty tempers.

Humorous, funny, affectionate people.

Sincerely! Personally, I prefer to be honest friends, who can point out my shortcomings directly, what to say, and get along with them easily and without defense. However, you can't limit your development, you still make friends according to your own subjective consciousness!

Of course I have to call such a friend :

He doesn't need to empty his pockets for your inexplicable luxury, but he will take it when you need it most.

Prepare for the cost of marriage to help you tide over the difficulties.

He doesn't need to have lunch with you when you have a bad cold, but he will drink with you when you're at your saddest.

of drunkenness.

He doesn't need to listen to your verbosity before you take the exam or comfort you after the exam, but he will do it for what you need.

A reference book and searched the entire library.

He doesn't need you to talk to him often, but you won't feel alienated no matter how long you haven't been in touch.

He doesn't need to be rich, have a lot of status, or be able to help you a lot, but he has a genuine heart for you.

Yes. As the saying goes, like gathers like.

The formation of a person's personality and worldview values has an important relationship with the environment he has been exposed to since childhood.

Why, because the circle of friends you make represents how much information you receive.

If all his friends like to drink and club, a person who doesn't like to drink and clubhouse can't adapt to it, so either he becomes comfortable and drinks and clubs, or he refuses and becomes more distant.

If a friend likes to go out and exercise all day long, likes to travel everywhere, and a person who likes to stay at home will definitely refuse these activities. If you want to continue to sustain it, either your friends cooperate with him, or he cooperates with your friends. So in the end, they must have something in common, a common point to be able to go out and play together, so that they can become friends around them.

Because of what kind of friend he makes, he will naturally receive that friend's worldview values, and in the long run, subtly, he will identify with some of his friend's values and begin to become the same.