What is it like to lie to yourself?

I feel that lying to myself is the most helpless and the wisest choice. Because often to the extent of deceiving yourself, that feeling is very helpless, and no one wants to give in to life at will, but there is no way. Lying to yourself is also to let yourself not make some unwise and irrational decisions or choices in the situation and environment at that time.

At the same time, it is also to find a reason for yourself to let go.

I feel that I am lying to myself, sometimes I am encouraging myself, and when I encounter difficulties, I am still telling myself that I am the best, that it is because I have deceived myself that I will let myself persevere, until I finally succeed, and I know how much my deception has helped me.

There is a deception called self-deception. I have been with him for six years, every time I take me to eat roadside stalls, food stalls, although I am very unhappy, I always tell myself that her salary is low, he wants to save money to buy a house, every time I send him a message, he always does not reply, I persuade myself, he may be busy, she may not see, until one day, I passed by a French restaurant, I saw him and another girl sitting in it, he elegantly helped the girl get tissues, I know, it turns out that we have long been in love, just didn't say it, that day, I went home to pack things, Moved away, left a note, and sure enough, there was no retention or goodbye, and I completely disappeared from each other's lives.

When you make a mistake, or you want to stick to a thing, and you don't want to stick to it when you encounter difficulties, you find reasons to forgive yourself, and you constantly relax yourself to fulfill your laziness. At that time, it was cool, and after that, there would be a sense of guilt in my heart, and I would feel very guilty.

Sometimes I know that I am not capable enough, but I don't admit defeat, I don't want others to look down on me, and I have a feeling of deceiving myself psychologically. But in this case, I was able to do it without thinking about whether I could do something, and that was also a success, and in my opinion, lying to myself was sometimes not all bad, but also positive.

This is a kind of self-comfort, people are prone to setbacks, the greater the frustration, the greater the physical and mental damage, in order to make up for the inner trauma, we will selectively self-deceive. For example, my bounce is very poor, and when I see someone jumping very high, I will secretly think that he jumped high because of his good physical fitness. Actually, I knew in my heart that I didn't put in the effort to train.

But self-soothing like this makes it a little easier for me.

It's a feeling of self-deception, like knowing that she doesn't like me and comforting yourself that I'm different from him. Then find all kinds of reasons to comfort yourself and want to deceive yourself into the fairy tale dream that you have been weaving. Reluctance to wake up.

Haven't we all been such fools in love, deceiving ourselves?

At that time, I actually knew that he was in love with another girl, but I still refused to admit it, even if he was slower and slower to reply to messages, I would understand that he really had something to do and would give him time and space; When he is short of money, I will unconditionally fund it; Even if his circle of friends locked me up, I would feel that he should be locked up to everyone.

Until I knew that he was slow to reply messages because he was accompanying other girls, he was short of money because he used all his money to date others, and his circle of friends was locked up to prevent others from knowing that he had a girlfriend.

At that time, I realized again that he didn't love me so much, and I didn't have to make excuses for him to deceive myself.

It's just self-deception, and in the end, you will be slapped in the face by reality. I have been with my ex-boyfriend for six years, he has made mistakes again and again, I have forgiven him again and again, always telling myself that he is still young, and it will be good if he changes it in the future, but I didn't expect that in the end he made an irreparable mistake, and self-deception is just unwilling to accept the reality, even if you don't accept it now, one day you will accept it, but you will pay a greater price.