What should I do if my mother in law is not good to me and her daughter?

Of the three sisters-in-law in my family, the eldest one is the most difficult to get.

It's normal, I only blame myself for marrying a family with a sister-in-law Of course, daughters are more relatives than daughters-in-law They can say that they will ask for and have a blood relationship In terms of blood relationship, they are destined to have no daughter's relatives Live their own little life Just live a good life with your husband for the rest of your life.

If you are usually filial to your mother-in-law, it is really hurtful for her to talk like this, and it must make you very unhappy. However, you should understand that after all, the flesh-and-blood relationship between mothers and daughters for decades can be compared with daughters-in-law. So it's normal, as if you and your mother-in-law are closer than you are to your mother-in-law.

Of course, the treatment of daughter-in-law and daughter will be different. After all, her daughter was conceived by herself, born in October, and raised since childhood. Feelings are not the same. My husband is an only child. My mother-in-law treated me like that, and I never lived with them. I don't know if my in-laws are good or not.

I wonder why you think you can get the same treatment as her daughter? Are you living with your mother-in-law longer than her daughter, or are you closer to her by blood than her daughter? Are you better to her than her daughter to her, or are you willing to spend money on her than for your own mother?

One is a blood relative who has been raised for more than ten or twenty years, and the other is a young woman who has only known each other for a few months and a year, why do you think she has to be as good as you both? Even better for you?

I can understand how you feel, although I am not married to my boyfriend yet, I have been living in his house for more than a year. Because I am from another country, although his family acknowledges that I am a daughter-in-law, I am always inferior to his daughter-in-law. I need to care more than others, and I stay alone in the field for my boyfriend.

But the reality is not like this at all, my boyfriend is engaged in chemical products at home, and he tries his best to pull me to work at home, but his sister doesn't. This small workshop was run in partnership with his brother-in-law. His sister is pregnant and lives in his house, and her clothes come to reach out for food to open her mouth, and his mother waits back and forth.

Sometimes I have to do the laundry for his sister's family. Until the child was born a few months ago, she still lives in her mother's house, and her mother does all the same things for her, and her mother is still happy all day long. I was treated completely differently than hers, and I had to work in a small workshop and endure the bad smell of paint.

If it is indeed deliberately giving more and less, it can only be said that she has done it a little more obviously, a little more frequently, and it is also reflected in things at the level of strawberries. But obviously you and her are the same height, just a strawberry.

I often serve my mother and my grandmother half of the fruit at will, it must be different, ah almost fine, who of them will care about me? Who would look at the other person's bowl and resent me for thinking that they had been wronged? Did your mother-in-law treat you badly?!

Did you spit on the strawberries you were going to eat, or did you buy crushed strawberries with the fruit seller for you to eat? Or tell you to wash the strawberries and eat them all for her daughter, don't you? Why did she buy strawberries and wash them, and you will be fine if you eat them....Do you want her to be your own mother, do you have to treat her as your own mother?

Your mother-in-law is so good, and she often says that you are her baby, and you have half of the strawberries you bought, so many daughters-in-law should be envious. It's just that this mother-in-law never expected to divide half, and you will count who has a few pieces, whose one is more red, whose pile is higher, whose bowl is big and small, whose bowl is new and whose bowl is old, not only at first glance but also carefully....What are you doing in other people's bowls? When you go out to order, do you complain to the owner about spending the same amount of money, why does someone else seem to have an extra spoonful of soup than you?

Does someone else have more meat than yours in their bowl? When you have more than one piece, do you think that your own is relatively small?

All mothers-in-law are like this, you relax. Otherwise, you can't get along with yourself. It's normal to think about it. Your mother is very kind to you, too! It's also normal for her to be nice to her daughter. The daughter is biological, and of course she will be good to her.

You're not her own. If your mother-in-law is good to you, it means that she is very far-sighted and she is very smart. If she treats you badly, there's no way around it.

As long as your husband is good to you, you live with your husband, not with your mother-in-law. It's hard for a woman to be nice to herself. I hope my answer can answer your doubts, and I hope you can adopt it.

I think it's all normal. Because his daughter was born by himself, he will be very distressed. The daughter-in-law only got along later.

That's definitely a big difference from a daughter. If you want to be good to you, you should first be good to your mother-in-law. There are some things you can care about more, mother-in-law, you show your sincerity to treat your mother-in-law.

I believe that people's hearts are flesh and blood, and if you are good to him, he will be very grateful, and he will naturally be good to you. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting along, if you are sincere to him, he will also be sincere to you. You should also understand if you are good to the girl, and don't be jealous.

Because it's all the same, your mom will be nice to you. The child born to himself must be a special love and special care. I think you should understand that.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good. It will be very harmonious to get along slowly. As long as you give, he can feel that he will understand you.

I will also feel sorry for you. Therefore, it is not easy to get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Telling the truth will end well.

Actually, you don't have to worry about it. Sometimes you may get a wrong thing, your mother-in-law will always be a mother-in-law, and you can never be a mother, so don't worry too much about it, just do your best. Honor them what is right to be honored, and don't devote your whole heart and soul to them.

That way you won't be particularly upset.

Your mother-in-law is very partial, especially good to her daughter, this is too normal, daughter and son are the mother's heart and soul, is her heart and liver baby, you are also your mother's heart and liver baby, and your sister-in-law is jealous There is no comparison, you are a foreign daughter-in-law, you have to understand a truth, you are the master of this family. Your sister-in-law is the owner of her mother-in-law's family, and the daughter is going to get married, and your mother-in-law gave you the best house, car, gold and silver bracelets, and most of all the family property was given to her son, you should be satisfied, and you should be filial to your mother-in-law. As long as you understand this truth.

You feel that your mother-in-law loves her son and daughter-in-law more, as well as her grandson, and the family should not worry about trivial things, and the family and everything is the big thing. It's also a good thing that your mother-in-law is partial to her daughter, and the palms and backs of her hands are full of meat. Put the position right, Fang Ping mentality, everything is rich and expensive.

The money is rolling. Home and everything is prosperous.

The identity of your daughter and that of your mother-in-law is different, if you want to be treated equally, you can only say that you expect too much, that is someone's biological daughter, raised from childhood to adulthood, what about you, you met halfway, if you don't have the identity of your husband, will you have a good relationship with an aunt? There is an extra layer of your husband's relationship, and some mothers-in-law will even look at you unpleasantly because of this, because some mothers-in-law regard their sons as their own, once they treat their daughter-in-law well or obey their words, the mother-in-law will be more uncomfortable, and will feel that you have robbed her son, how can she hurt you, it is good if it is not aimed at you, and then talk about you, you hope that your mother-in-law will treat you better, so do you treat her like your own mother? If not, why do you expect her to be nice to you?

Giving should be a two-way street, if you only want to get and don't want to give, you won't get the results you want. If you ask me how to do it, then you'd better treat the elderly like your own mother first, and if you can't do it, try your best, and then talk about whether your mother-in-law is good enough for you. I think it's nice to be able to live peacefully with my mother-in-law.

If the mother-in-law is particularly partial, and she is very good to his daughter, I don't care much about you, I think that is to do what you should do, as long as you are good to her, you will be moved slowly, and she will be good to you.

Your mother is also very good to you, and you should think about it, before you got married, she and you were just strangers, people and daughters have been getting along day and night with you the same, don't think about these meaningless questions every day, think about the problem should be rational, and she treats you badly I believe you won't rush to her Okay, it's all mutual, your focus should be on yourself, let others think about why you treat her badly, whether you should be good to you.

You feel that your mother-in-law is partial, good to her daughter, and doesn't care about you, which is the damage caused by the lack of effective communication.

If you can communicate more with your mother-in-law, so that your mother-in-law can feel from the bottom of your heart that all your thoughts are spent on working for the family and thinking about the family members, your mother-in-law will care more about you.

If a family lives together, as long as there are no two hearts and they are responsible for the family wholeheartedly, the family will be harmonious, and the members will get along happily together.

Therefore, you should strengthen communication with your mother-in-law in order to change this situation.

It's normal for your mother-in-law to be partial, because the daughter is her own, but this is not right, because you are his son's daughter-in-law, if you have a son, you should have a daughter-in-law, and the daughter always marries later, and the daughter-in-law can be with her mother-in-law for a long time, and her mother-in-law should also be good to you, although your mother-in-law doesn't care much about you, you should also have a good attitude, be filial to your mother-in-law, and influence him with practical actions, you have already started a family with his son, you should be good to his mother, and everything is prosperous, as long as your mother-in-law has a good relationship with you, your husband's mood is good, and he is positive in work You'll have a good time.

In fact, her daughter is his heart, she is good to her daughter, this is also a normal phenomenon, just like your mother is good to you, the reason is the same, but if you want to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, spend this love, or agree with his girl Sun Shang to transform into you, you need to understand your mother-in-law, often sit down with your mother-in-law and say some homely trivialities, and you can also make your mother-in-law's feelings change to you, in this way, your life will be better in the future, And he will also trust you in particular.

It is normal for a mother-in-law to be partial to her daughter between her daughter-in-law and her daughter, and the relationship between them is something that the daughter-in-law cannot envy, but the daughter-in-law also has a mother's pain, isn't it? Why be jealous of others, just want to open something, as long as you fulfill your daughter-in-law's obligations with a clear conscience.

I think it should be understood. The daughter is her own. This is normal. You have to adjust your mentality. You have to work hard to care about your mother-in-law. Treat him like your own mother. After a long time, he will take you like his own daughter.

I think it's normal for a mother-in-law to favor her daughter and a daughter-in-law in general. Every mother will give priority to loving her own children, and as a daughter-in-law, she should try to maintain filial piety, and at the same time be independent, financially independent, and ideologically independent.

This is normal. You can't get the same treatment as her daughter. You just have to be yourself, and what she does to you is another matter. Don't ask the old man to level a bowl of water between the two of you.

The feelings between people are mutual, not the mother-in-law is partial, I mean that you do not have a good relationship with the mother-in-law, you should try your best to get along with the mother-in-law care, so that you will get the trust of the mother-in-law.

This is a common phenomenon, in the mother-in-law's mind, the daughter is her own, and the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is particularly difficult, as long as your husband can really treat you, and the mother-in-law as long as you are not particularly bad, or not to you special excessive, in order not to embarrass your husband, you can use your sincerity to move your mother-in-law, and slowly you will get along.

Your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are very partial to you, and for his daughter, it is particularly good, first of all, they are blood relations, and they must get along more harmoniously than you, secondly, getting along with people is very complicated, and they need to pay each other, mutual understanding and tolerance, you only need to do your best, and you will naturally get the corresponding return, if you pay, there is still no return, and it is good to look at the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law plainly.

First of all, you should put your mindset right. Mother-in-law is not a mother, she is kind to you, and it is normal to be bad to you. Because you weren't born to her, if you hadn't married her son, you would have been strangers.

It is only natural for a mother to be good to her daughter. You don't need to eat her daughter's vinegar like your mom loves you.

But what exactly do you mean by being particularly eccentric? If it's as big as buying a house and a car, or as small as eating and drinking, you have to worry about it. That's exhausting!

Your mother-in-law is very good to her daughter and doesn't particularly care about you, that's normal, because her daughter is the flesh that fell from her body and is related by blood, and you are an alien, how can you not be as good as your daughter? But well, you are also his daughter-in-law, and you will be good to you, but emotionally speaking, he will not be so straightforward to you, and will say anything to you, in fact, materially, he is the same, even, yes, you will be more focused, but you feel partial to your daughter.