What made you decide to escape from Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen?

I suddenly remembered a TV series "Bei Shang Guang Don't Believe in Tears". Now, more and more graduates are only children, the economic conditions are superior, may disdain to come to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou to be an ant tribe, but in their hometown of the provincial capital city or medium-sized city to buy a house for employment, marriage and children, etc., after all, in these places, the pressure to buy a house will be much less, not everyone is far away from their hometown and left familiar family and friends to go to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou to struggle, in fact, many people who have to go to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou because they do not have too many resources at home, and have to leave.

Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen are places where many young people realize their dreams. Once upon a time, how many college students came to the place where their dreams came to realize their dreams with confidence as soon as they graduated! But the dream is beautiful, but the reality is cruel.

When you come to Modu, the first thing you do is to find a job and rent a house. I usually stay in school and think that the outside is so perfect, everything is so beautiful, and I am full of confidence in myself, and I will definitely get ahead in the magic capital. Keep submitting resumes and going to interviews, but after a few rounds.

It turns out that the so-called good job is almost difficult to come across. If the salary is good, you can't apply, and if the treatment is not good, you don't want to go. After several twists and turns, I slowly found that the money in my pocket was almost spent, and if I didn't implement the work, I was afraid that I wouldn't even be able to pay the rent.

Where there is life, there is hope. In order to survive, I barely found a living job, and first found a job and then chose a job.

It is difficult to find a job in a small city, the salary is low, the development space is limited, and I have to go to the big city to find a way out of my life, the salary in the big city is high, the job is relatively easy to find, and there is a lot of room for development, if you meet a good opportunity, you can completely improve yourself to a high level, but the ideal is very plump, the reality is very skinny, the cost of living in the big city is also very high, basically the monthly rent plus living cost is at least a few thousand yuan, and the salary of tens of thousands of dollars a month can be said to be a high salary for small cities, But in first-tier cities, the pressure of such a salary and living pressure is quite large.

Personally, I think you should work hard when you are young, and don't regret it later. Now I am also in my thirties, just graduated from the big city will always feel very tired, life pressure, fierce competition, did not go, in the second-tier city for a period of time, the company is not big, the treatment is average, I feel that I rent a house is also good, looking at the classmates around me in the big city although it was very tired at the beginning, slowly stabilized, the work is also impressive, and then I went to Beijing, renting a house is not so difficult, the transportation is convenient, there are more people, the company is big, the welfare is good, I can learn things but good. I regret that I came late.

After working in the big city for a few years, I bought a house in my hometown after getting married, and worked in Beijing for a few years, and I gained a lot, and my spiritual and material wealth increased.

It has been 3 years since I came to Shenzhen, and in the past 3 years, there are a total of 80 partners who came to Shenzhen with me to enter the first company, and now there are less than 15 people who continue to stay in Shenzhen, and less than 5 people who continue to stay in the first company after graduation, and I also changed companies and continued to stay in Shenzhen. Because this is a city of Gu raising, the winner is king, and the loser is the villain. However, the development and progress of the city needs the injection of a large number of fresh blood and the collision of various ideas to bring vitality to the city, and the competition is cruel and fierce, many families have become empty nest families because their children have gone to the big city, which will cause a series of problems, and the big city is constantly engaging in some subsidies to attract young people.

So to stay or not to stay, to run away or not to escape, there are always young people there.

Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou are not necessarily the most suitable cities for their own lives, and now in life, everyone pays more and more attention to happiness, and there is a good saying that Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou do not believe in tears. The city is stressful, the trust is low, and the interaction between people is full of too many social realities, which will make people feel depressed and nervous all the time. The income is not particularly good, and it is better to go back to the second and third tier cities or your hometown.

At least you can feel how close you are to home.

Beijing, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen are not places for people to stay", this sentence can be said to be a mantra widely spread among young people in Chinese mainland. In these first-tier cities, crowded, high housing prices, and tired work pressure make people constantly feel the depression and anxiety of the city, and it seems that there is no joy in life.

However, some of the people who have worked hard and worked hard in these cities for many years have chosen to flee these cities and return to their hometowns.

What is their life and psychological state like after returning to their hometown?

First of all, these people who have fled Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen will find a relatively easy job in their hometown. They may no longer have high-paying, high-pressure occupations, but they have more time and energy to spend with their families, take care of the elderly, and take care of their children. In their eyes, this is true happiness.

Secondly, when they return to their hometown, they will relive the old days. Here, they will find those childhood playmates, chatting, playing cards, and chatting with each other. They will also walk into those familiar shops, taste those familiar food, and feel the human touch and warmth here.

Finally, those who escape from Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen will also re-understand themselves in the process of returning to their hometowns. They will find that they are no longer as anxious and nervous as they once were, but more calm and calm. They will begin to re-examine their life values and find their true self and inner balance.

In short, the lives and psychological states of people who have fled Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen after returning to their hometowns are diverse. However, whether you choose to return to your hometown or stay in the big city to work hard, everyone should find what they really want and do in their hearts, and find the meaning and value of their own life.

<> with the increasing number of jobs in the big cities of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, the pressure will be great, so many people will choose to flee from Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Then after they return to their hometown, there may be two states.

The first is that he can adapt to the life of his hometown quickly, for example, he can take the civil service exam in his hometown, or he can integrate into the local life well by doing some work. Then the psychological state of this part of the people also tends to be calmer, they do not complain about right and wrong, and they do not stay in the big city.

The second is that he may not adapt to the life of his hometown after returning to his hometown, and he thinks it is still the kind of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Life is more suitable for selling himself, then his living state may not be there. So good, psychologically, there will also be some unwillingness, feeling that they have not broken out in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen.

It will be comparatively unable to integrate into the current life.