How have you managed to recover from the crisis?

When I graduated and looked for a job, I was a young man with ideals and dreams. Just as I was in high spirits and dressed for an interview, a taxi ran into me on a side road with no cameras and escaped. Then I fractured my lower leg bone.

I remember that the failure in the college entrance examination didn't frustrate me, but I almost collapsed that time. The resume I threw out couldn't go to the written test for the interview at first, and then I put on a plaster cast to go to the interview, and people didn't believe that I was just an accident and not a cripple, and even I didn't dare to pack a ticket, whether my normal walking in the future would be affected, of course, there should be no offer. As for how I survived.

Be grateful for the support and encouragement of my parents, my family, my friends. I've never been a strong person, and now that I think about it, I don't know how I got through it, but I got through it. Then my current company gave me an offer.

Then I worked with this company for more than five years. Exchange youth for gratitude. Maybe that's life.

There's nothing you can't get over. Some people may ask how my legs are now. It's okay.

At the annual meeting the year before last, I danced modern dance, thank you.

In my memory, the most difficult and painful days of my life should be the junior year of high school. Because I don't know much about talking, I don't know my classmates very well. They seemed to love each other, but I felt excluded.

In addition, I may be better at studying, because I have always had good grades, so I will be a little jealous of others who suddenly have a lot better grades, and I am very sad about this level in my heart. So every night I washed my face with tears, pretended not to know everyone very well in the dormitory, and went alone. I didn't go back to the dormitory at noon every day to study at school.

But the problems in my heart will affect my academic performance, and when you feel stressed, I run to the teacher's office with a ball of tissues and cry, thanking the teacher for understanding me very much. The referee was too stressed, and I also gave me some letters from senior sisters, and with the help of the teacher, I successfully passed the college entrance examination, although the test was not very good, but it was also a good result for myself.

I am 21 years old and a secondary school graduate. I didn't like to talk since I was a child, I was slow to do things, and I was brought up by my grandmother and grandfather. Before, I was in a good unit, with good benefits and easy work.

But I don't take the initiative to communicate and talk to my colleagues. They thought I had autism and bad work habits. Later, people dismissed me, and during that time I don't know why I was studying at a secondary school of 160 pounds and 160cm, and then I was fat to 180 pounds when I came to my father's house.

I was still looking for a job, I didn't communicate with my grandparents, and I cried at every turn. Later I went to my dad's house, maybe there was my brother, my dad. I started to get excited and feel better.

I weigh 130 pounds now, and I'm not in a hurry to find a job. People will experience pain, sadness, happiness, and happiness in their lives, in fact, looking back, you will find that you have grown up and gained a lot when you are in pain and sadness.

There were nine students around, all of whom were scholarship students from Chinese mainland, some from Fujian and some from Sichuan. They spoke more fluently than me, listened more accurately than me, read faster than me, and I felt worthless and questioned why I was chosen to come out. complained to the senior, and the senior only replied to me:

You won't go back to any country? During that time, in order to improve my English scores, I spent every day memorizing words, reading newspapers, and practicing listening except for the time when I took a shower. Memorizing words until 3:30 a.m. every day, falling asleep listening to BBC news, holding a vocabulary book when eating, and going to the bathroom became the norm in my life at that time.

I read half a newspaper every day, memorized all the words I didn't know, and these words accumulated into two thick books, and I took time out every day to read all the words. In the exam at the end of the EBC, my grades were the highest of all and I am very happy.

I spent it alone! As I often say, "If the needle doesn't stick to you, why don't you say it doesn't hurt", this is still true at this time! If the needle is not pierced in others, why can you empathize with others!

So, sometimes, your pain, your hesitation, and your anxiety may seem to others to be your hypocrisy! Therefore, it is impossible for the family to count on it, and who else can they count on! Be your best!

Because I'm a single dog! Hahaha!

In 06, my beloved had a car accident and left, when the eldest son was just in the first year of junior high school, the younger son was only in the first grade, I had the idea of going with my husband for three years, but I thought that the two sons did not dare to die if no one took care of them, I had no job and no savings, and no one in my husband's family, including my parents-in-law, had anyone helped me, and I asked, is there anything to eat? Do you have money for the New Year? Never.

Now that my two sons have come out to work, I have also bought a house and a car, step by step, and now I don't feel particularly difficult, as long as I work hard, I am not afraid of no road.

The most difficult thing is that at the end of October 2018, my mother died of a sudden cerebral embolism, I was like a thunderbolt, all my thoughts were discouraged, almost numbly finished my mother's funeral, and then numbly worked and lived every day, but I knew in my heart that I still have my wife and children, they are watching me, I am their dependence, so I have to persevere.

Anything that can be changed by one's own efforts cannot be called pain, but may be a kind of happiness. The real pain is confusion, helplessness, and a sense of powerlessness that you don't know how to work hard to change.

1. Be aware of the existence of a crisis

Since there are already problems in the relationship between you, then you must realize that you should not ignore it, be careful in doing things, do not let the emotional crisis between you further deepen, and learn to repair your relationship problems, and do not directly lead to a breakup because of your ignorance and willfulness.

2. Analyze the causes of the crisis

After realizing the existence of the crisis, it is necessary to analyze the reasons for the crisis, whether it is because of oneself or because of the other party, if it is because it is too willful, does not see the consequences clearly, and speaks unreasonably, then it should be corrected as soon as possible, so that the other party can see your changes as soon as possible and look at you with admiration.

If it's the other party's reason, you can find the right time to talk to the other party, or two people start a trip, go to the places they have been, and wake up each other by discovering good things and reminiscing about the good past, so that the other party can really feel that this relationship is still very beautiful.

Elevate yourself. There is an emotional crisis between you, maybe because you are less attractive to each other, so if you want to save love, then you have to learn to improve yourself, let yourself have a transformation, make yourself richer in the inner spirit, and more beautiful in the external image, so that maybe your emotional crisis will be gone.

Two people in love are growing up slowly, either the other party changes you, or you change the other party, only in this way will you become better, such a relationship will be more stable, if there is a relationship crisis, don't worry, it will make you grow.

If you want to recover after a relationship crisis, then you must let the other party feel your sincerity.

First of all, no matter how reluctant and sad you are, or how anxious you want to explain to the other person, at this time, what you have to do is to calm down your complicated feelings and not explain anything to the other person. Because the party who proposes to break up will have a negative psychology towards you at this time. No matter what your strengths or highlights you have, he will focus on your weaknesses and magnify them infinitely.

Therefore, the other party does not want to pay attention to any explanation you have. So instead of begging the other person, it is better to give the other person a certain amount of time and space.

The second step is to find out the reason for the breakup and your own problems. As the old saying goes: Freezing three feet is not a day's cold.

The other party will propose to break up, most likely because of your accumulated shortcomings, and you do not pay attention to and correct them, which will make the other party unbearable and propose to break up. Feelings need to be maintained by both parties, everyone cannot be a perfect person, and they need to run in and tolerate each other in a romantic relationship, but tolerance cannot be a reason for you not to face up to your own shortcomings. If the other person really can't stand it, and you don't pay enough attention to it, eventually this subtle flaw is likely to become the fuse of your relationship.

Therefore, after a breakup, don't blame all the mistakes on the other party, take a good look at yourself, and admit your shortcomings in love, which is the most important step to save love.

The third step is to deal with your own problems. Due to each other's different living environments and habits, every relationship will have a run-in period, and everyone is not perfect, there are some small bad habits, but some bad habits that can cause a breakup should be paid enough attention. The main reasons for breaking up are lack of respect and understanding for each other, jealousy, and suspicion.

After finding out the reason for the breakup, seriously correct your shortcomings.

If there is a relationship crisis, I think the most important thing is that the two of you can sit down calmly and have a good talk. Then reminisce about the happy life you had together in the past. Be a little more considerate of each other.

If you haven't broken up yet, it's still easy to solve, but at this time, you must not put pressure on the other party, how to do it You can look at the information on the recovery academy, I also learned it above.

If you still think that maybe you still love, you have to redeem it, but don't compromise on it.

Influence him with the beautiful past that he once had together, and treat him with sincerity.

Talk to the other person well, and let it go if it doesn't work.