The more you grow up, the more life and death partings you face, how to adjust your mentality?

When I was a child, I always looked forward to growing up, thinking that when I grew up, I could control things by myself and make my own decisions about everything. No longer have to be constrained by their parents, and they will not be told that children know anything. But when I really grow up, I look at my slowly maturing self, my parents who are slowly aging, and my children who are growing up.

All of a sudden, we feel scared, we are afraid that our parents will leave, and we will be afraid that we will age too quickly. <>

The older you get, the more life and death you face. A lot of people just run away and don't want to face it. Chinese people have always been reluctant to face death.

When the old man says that he will not live long, we always say that God has mercy, and he will live a long life, and he will live a safe life. But everything is impermanent, just like the coronavirus now.

How could the people who died of infection have ever thought that this year's Spring Festival would be like this, and their children had made these preparations. At this time, we can only learn to accept and face.

We have so much to say about life and too many feelings to express. In Wang Zengqi.

In "Plants and Trees Have Hearts, and the World Has Love", he sees the hope of life from the vitality of plants and trees, and expresses his attitude towards life bit by bit. We can't grasp the parting of the past, cherish the present. Look at what you still have, and hug the people who love you, who also have trouble sleeping when you're sad.

Maybe we will finally accept everything in peace. Don't be surprised, knowing that there are thousands of people in this world, birth, old age, sickness and death, love and hatred are common things. In ancient China, there was no shortage of literati who were as calm as water in history. Tao Qian.

Lotus hoe chrysanthemum, plum white.

Drinking and admiring the moon, Su Shi.

In the disturbed world, the quiet mind and the impetuous mind coexist. <

Chinese Zen is not also a state of showing the state of the mind as if it were stagnant water.

Hold your position, always look at yourself, and adjust your mentality. Avoid excessive passivity and sadness, life must go on, life is alive, don't give up lightly. A man's tears are pearls, and when they fall too much, they become dewdrops.

The older we grow, the older our elders become, and they may leave us at any time, and after experiencing life and death, we will understand that no one can control the natural laws of birth, old age, sickness and death.

I think it's best to keep a normal state of mind, after all, no matter who it is, there will be a day, life and death are the only ways to go, and you have to look away.

Tell yourself that you are slowly growing up, and the people who accompany you are also slowly getting older, and life and death in the world are the most common law.

It is to look down on life and death, people will eventually leave, try to live every day while they are still alive, and do not leave regrets.

A lot of people are very eager to grow up when they are young. I feel that the world when I grow up is very good, I have what I want, I have a lot of choices, and I will be more free. And as we grow older, we will find more and more that growth is really not as good as we imagined, and we will slowly lose more and more things on this road of growth.

In this process of loss, what often hurts us the most is the life and death of our relatives and friends. And often in the end, these are the only ones who can touch our sensitive nerves. But in the face of such a situation, none of us is helpless, and all we can do is to adjust our mentality.

So what are some ways to help us adjust our mindset?

1.Learn to be open-minded

First of all, there must be a psychological construction. It is to understand that the matter of life and death cannot be changed by any of us. The accidents in life, birth, old age, sickness and death, are really not something we can control.

What we can do is to be more considerate and protective of each other in the process of getting along with our relatives and friends.

Try not to do things that hurt your feelings while you are still able to be there for each other. When you are more entangled, think about yourself, after all, you will one day be the protagonist of this matter, and no one can escape. In a way, it will always happen whether we are entangled or not, so instead of dwelling on it, it is better to learn to put it aside and not embarrass ourselves.

2.Take this as a warning and remind yourself at all times

In fact, if we can think about this problem from a different angle, these partings of life and death are just a warning to us to cherish our time. Each of us knows that we can't escape that ending in the end, so we should try to do as much as we want to do in a limited time and realize our wishes.

The good result is that when we reach the end, we look back on the past and do not feel any regrets and regrets, and this kind of life is the best life.

When your family is still alive, you have to see each other more often, after all, it is not easy to become friends and family. If they leave one day, they don't know which life they will ever see, so cherish the people in front of them.

It's like this, the older the familiar people are, the closer the people are, the older they are, and they are all facing old death. I used to think that the people I knew left me one by one, and I was dying.

No one can delay this law, and no one can pass this threshold. Think about it, cherish the present, cherish the present

This is something that everyone has to face, and when we grow up, we must learn to care more about these old people, after all, they grew up with us when we were young.

As you get older, the elders around you will leave you one by one. First of all, you must know that this is the law of nature, and don't grieve excessively. Then it is to fulfill filial piety in time while the relatives are still there.

Life and death parting is natural, you have to face it calmly, watch more positive TV series, work hard to adjust your mentality to the best, don't think about those useless things.

The tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop, the child wants to raise but does not wait, cherish the moment, live every day, let yourself live happily, and make the people around you happy.

Adjust your mindset and don't think about it, and when you experience more and have more contact, you won't be afraid anymore.

Everyone will have that day, just live each day happily now.

If you look farther, you will naturally not have a bad attitude.

As time passes, the people around us will leave us one by one, including parents, life still has to go on, what can be done is to cherish the people in front of you, occasionally get together, chat, and live a good life.

"The Biography of Lin Huiyin" wrote:

People have to go through too many life and death in their lives, and those sudden partings often catch people off guard. Where do we not meet in life, but some turns, it is really a lifetime, and we will never see each other forever from now on.

This is the fact that it does not change in the slightest because of our sadness, so we have no choice but to accept it.

In fact, no one can accompany us, and in the end, there will always be many people who will leave us on the road of our life, even our parents will leave us in the end as the years go by.

What we can do is to cherish each other when we get along with them, and it is enough not to leave regrets in our lives.

Life and death are a cycle of social nature, and what we can do is to cherish each other when we get along with them, and it is enough not to leave regrets in our lives. When faced with their departure, we have to learn to be relieved, we just need to keep the memories of our past in our minds. I believe that they will live happily in another world, and they will be there, we will still meet after all, these helpless life and death parting, how powerless we are, but we are happy to live, for them, we also want to live better, we can't do anything, the only thing to do is to bless them to be happy in heaven.