How to get along with hypocritical and jealous colleagues?

Treat the Fa differently, treat different people with different attitudes, hypocritical and arrogant people, take others as a mirror and always be vigilant not to become a hypocritical and arrogant person, and then satisfy this person's hypocrisy, how this person likes to do what he does, there is no need to expose it, conform to this person's arrogance, there is no need to needle the tip of the needle. Just like the Tai Chi Bagua diagram, the enemy is strong and I am weak, and the weak am strong, no matter what kind of person the other party is, the self with high plasticity can completely become the appearance of being able to get along with this person. It's just that in essence, they tend to avoid it, they can't be friends, it's just a show.

Passing by to meet each other hypocritically, nodding and smiling, don't get too entangled with him in terms of feelings or money, which means: This kind of person is not worthy of your deep friendship? If you insist on being entangled with him and have a deep relationship, it will only bring you more harm.

The second is: simply ignore him and stay away, and don't go over to join in the fun when you see him in a place? Lest you be embarrassed when you talk to each other, because you don't want to be like him and say something hypocritical and against your heart's will?

There is no other way but to stay away from it.

You can't be too sincere when you interact with him, you have to smile at him, no matter when you put on a smiling face, there is always nothing wrong with pretending to be a smile, if you ignore others, people will treat you with the same attitude, even if the other party is very deep and hypocritical, because you can't offend the person you just met and be hated by others. Therefore, smiling at others is a good way to protect yourself.

We look at this colleague with a new mentality, are we able to open up a new world in the field of winning and losing psychology? It's not that you win or lose, or that we win and I lose, but we can win together, work together on a project, and give full play to each other's strengths in this cooperation to complete a perfect project. Let him not be so wary of you and not jealous, and the two of you will be able to achieve a state of cooperation in your work.

Even if you can't be friends, at least it's not a hostile model, which is good for your job prospects.

To really understand what kind of person the other party is, whether it is really as hypocritical as the rumors say, although most of the rumors are not groundless, but it is also inevitable to add fuel and vinegar, in daily work, life, you will slowly understand this person. As the saying goes, Lu Yao knows the horsepower and sees the hearts of the people over time, and hypocritical people also have a sincere side, mainly depending on what kind of face and heart the other party treats you. Hypocritical people also have friends, and these friends may be hypocritical, but they may also be exchanged for their sincere hearts.

Hypocritical personality in many cases determines a person's shortcomings in the world, such a person basically can't make heart-to-heart friends, but if he treats you as a friend, maybe he can help you when you are in trouble. For example, when a lot of people are saying that a certain person is right and wrong, and you stand up and say a few words of justice for him, if this person becomes your immediate boss one day, he will treat you at least differently than other employees.

Do your best! For example, if others are jealous of your performance, then I will still work hard until you look up! Then you will only envy, not be jealous!

Of course, the reason for your jealousy must be that you are not good in some way! Then I will continue to expand this advantage infinitely, and at the same time expand the other advantages, I will make you jealous of me more than a little!

Just ignore the jealousy of others, you are always jealous because you are better than others, since you are already stronger than others, why bother with it? Hypocrisy, just don't take it seriously. What's so hard.

The workplace only has its own interests and the interests of the unit, and finding a way to make these two interests develop in one direction is success. Ignore the rest.

Be low-key, if you are strong, he will be jealous of you, if you are weak, he will bully you, do your own thing, and never worry about villains.

Why are people jealous? It's weird, I don't understand. She's her, you're you, and it's not a bargain at all. It's just that she has a lot of wealth, high education, and status, and you can't get it. Even if she has everything, you won't be better. Inexplicable!

Scold back directly! Some female colleagues like to beat you in front of the leader!

After being self-employed, I have no colleagues for a long time. I know all the salesmen, the bosses. ok?

Ignore her. There was nothing in the first place.

Just spread rumors. Dislike.

Drift away.

If you really have the ability, don't be afraid of their jealousy, there is no way, the cow is the cow, and it won't be because they are jealous.

Smart people will have a good relationship with cattle people, and they can't do anything but be jealous of others when they meet unsmart people, and the more awesome you are, the more angry they are, don't worry about them and they will die of anger after a short time.

Oh, you have to be careful, because if you're not careful, you'll be happy. They are jealous, so resentful, they beat your little report, they go everywhere and talk about your right and wrong, so....How can it be? In the end, it is not your leader, the person who likes you, who affects you.

Maybe the subject is worried that the leader will change his mind, what if he doesn't like you one day?

It's okay, don't you still have the ability, but if you can do the work, which department of the unit doesn't need it? As long as you negotiate terms with your new leader and lower your expectations, you will continue to be the object of envy. But then again, in the workplace, don't be pampered, keep a low profile, and slowly, they will gossip about others and be jealous of others.

After all, jealousy also needs freshness.

Creating a separate opportunity to sell miserable to the other party can alleviate the other party's sour grapes psychology to a certain extent, for example, you are still single but the other party has a family that loves him; Your body has various health risks, but the other person is still healthy; You're still in the lottery, driving to and from work every day, and so on, ......No matter how you find a place where you envy the other person, let the other person pity and sympathize with you, and you will be safe.

Colleagues who have a relationship with the leader are treated like this, then your colleague's rank is too low, don't worry, in fact, it doesn't matter how you deal with it, anyway, it has a relationship with what you are afraid of, and you don't point to them. Of course, if you don't have a relationship, or you don't want to use the relationship, that's another way to deal with it. That is to deal with the relationship between colleagues, keep a low profile, and then be peaceful and more with them.

After all, it is necessary to coordinate with them in daily work to avoid unnecessary workflow unsmoothness.

Have a sweeter mouth, lower your posture, and often buy some fruit snacks for your colleagues, and you will slowly get a good relationship.

First of all, you need to understand what is the reason for being jealous of you, others are jealous of you, indicating that you may not be very gregarious, try to communicate more, communicate more.

I think you should treat your colleagues as friends and mingle with them, so that they won't be jealous of you after a long time.

Normal communication, because you are very good, so they will be jealous of you, improve themselves, just be yourself.

I think if you are jealous of other colleagues in the workplace and want to get along with them better, you should communicate with them in a timely manner and talk about everyone's affairs in order to get along better.

When confronting hypocritical people, if you take too much care of the other person's face, it will further encourage the arrogance of the hypocritical person. Instead of being grateful to you, they will do it even more. Here's how to deal with hypocrites or stove people, let's take a look.

1. Don't tell the truth.

If you tell the truth to hypocrites, or talk about your heart and mind, then bad luck awaits you. Hypocritical people may cry and laugh with you in front of you, and even feel more uncomfortable or happier than you, but who knows what kind of face the other person has in his heart? You don't even know which of their statements is true and which is false.

So, with such people, you'd better not be so honest.

2. Don't have any interests.

Whether it is investment, joint venture, or borrowing money or being borrowed, anything that involves interests should not be associated with hypocritical people. As the saying goes, "people die for money, birds die for food", and when faced with interests, even relatives sometimes turn their faces ruthlessly, not to mention hypocritical people.

3. Don't be close.

With this, your first-class circle of friends will only be a hypocritical circle, and you are also a hypocritical person in the eyes of others. Never have an intimate relationship with a hypocritical person, and avoid it if you can.

4. Don't listen to hypocrites.

Remember not to listen to what hypocrites say. For example, in the workplace, a colleague is a hypocritical person. Suddenly, one day, he seems to tell you intentionally or unintentionally that others are saying bad things about you, don't take it seriously, don't get angry, don't react otherwise, just laugh it off.

5. Don't take too much care of the other party's face.

When confronting hypocritical people, if you take too much care of the other person's face, it will further encourage the arrogance of the hypocritical person. Instead of being grateful to you, they will do it even more. In the eyes of others, they will not think that you are sincere and kind, but that you are stupid.

Therefore, once you have a conflict with a hypocritical person, you should defend yourself generously.

I work as a secretarial worker, in the office of the board of directors, and in several branches of the group. Recently, I have completed various tasks assigned to me by my leaders. The leaders of each branch were in a hurry to send the work, and the employees in the division also handed it over to me when they couldn't do it, and the success of the work, the leaders were very satisfied, and praised me many times.

Since I work at the top, the employees of the branch have hardly seen me, so they are very jealous of my outstanding performance, and now even the leaders of the branch have an extremely bad attitude towards me, and when the assigned work needs me to perform, they are extremely uncooperative, and there are problems one after another, which makes it very difficult for me to do. I've always kept a low profile. I can't appease their anger at me.

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Mindset & Perspective.

First of all, from the mentality and perspective, it is necessary to clearly understand:

It is not the people who make it difficult for you to decide your future, but your boss, who happens to be the leader of everyone. Keeping your boss happy is always the most important thing, both as a county magistrate and as a current manager. In addition, not knowing each other is also an opportunity to build further relationships with powerful groups.

Methods and strategies In terms of methods and strategies, we should pay attention to the priority and treat them differently

1. Find out the active and passive relationship between these people and you. You are in a relatively advantageous position, most of the time you have the advantage, because you do not represent yourself, you represent the boss, you represent the organization.

2. Therefore, official salt should not be sold privately, and those who cooperate in work have the benefits of cooperation, and those who do not cooperate have the price of non-cooperation.

3. Those people are not monolithic, and most of them follow the herd. Find a soft one, take him down, and then treat him differently in attitude, and slowly it will be differentiated.

4. Killing people is not too much, as long as it changes, you don't have to worry about it, and don't complain to the boss casually. Enmity is much more powerful than the malice that envy brings.

If someone is always targeting you, you can empathize with why others bully you, whether it is because you seem to be easier to bully, if it is because of this, you must establish your own sense of self-protection, and never tolerate things that touch the bottom line.

For others, see the following methods:

Clause. 1. Keep a distance from the villain, don't become emotionally out of control because of being provoked by the villain, smart people with high emotional intelligence will never get angry because the villain is always aimed at themselves, because these villains like to take advantage, they use some very insidious and cunning means and tricks to target you and exclude you, so if you can keep a distance from the villain, they will naturally recognize the gap between themselves and you, and even begin to restrain their behavior in the future work, You can use this method to treat your colleagues and villains who are always provoking you.

Clause. Second, show the evidence so that colleagues or villains have no place to be ashamed, everyone should remember, when confronting the villain, do not compromise, because these villains always intensify their provocation of you in public places, which is inevitable, if smart people can work in the company, in public to present evidence, colleagues and leaders will also be very convinced of you, and those colleagues who are not accustomed to the villain's style will naturally argue with the villain, and those villains will naturally be embarrassed, so everyone should remember, Don't be casually lost in the company, and when you are challenged by leaders or villains, you should also make your position clear.

Clause. Third, let the villain realize that your status and rights are much higher than him, so that the villain will naturally not think that you are an honest person who is easy to bully, there are many good people, and there is not enough presence in the company, so the villain will take the initiative to provoke the honest man, and even clean up the honest man, resulting in the honest man isolated, but if you can get along with the leader to get along with the leader's appreciation, and even when working with colleagues, get the support of colleagues, then naturally will respond. Many colleagues will take the initiative to compete with the villain, and your status or handling style will naturally be able to influence more other colleagues in the workplace, and those who are small will also begin to restrain their behavior.